As some of you already know, my FIL's are not the warm and fuzzy type and have absolutely zero interest in me, my family, and this wedding.
After pretending that he was going to go to the tux shop and leave a deposit on a tux, FFIL finally told FH that he wants to wear a suit he already has.
FH really wanted him to get a tux and had even offered to drive him there. (It's not about money.)
Maybe I'm overreaccting and maybe I'm not but I feel like the FIL's are doing everything in their power to upset and/or squash our excitement. Even the littlest things are met with opposition and they do nothing but criticize all while not offering any help, financial or otherwise.
I am not one to be fake or two-faced. I don't know how I'm going to hide my true feelings on the day of. I don't know why theyr'e like this and I no longer care -- the thought of having to smile and pretend that I don't think they s u c k gives me a headache.
Do you think it will be rude to seat them FAR away from the dais?
Wifeynella
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you are a better person than I am... I would have send something already.
sit them in another room at the wedding!
what does FH say?
Kricket212
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So sorry to hear that things are going this way. Can I ask why they are being this way?
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Honestly, if your FFIL wants to be ordinary in an ordinary suit.. then let him! He will be the one that will look silly not dressed up like the BP. If I were you, I would just pick your battles. This may seem like a huge deal now, but when you look back on it, you will giggle that he was being so stubborn for no reason!
I know what you are going through 100%. My FMIL shows NO interest whatsoever in anything wedding related and I'm sure if FH's father was in his life, it would be the same thing!! She showed up to my shower late, left early and gave me the trash can for our bathroom as our gift!
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OMG i was just talking about this to a therapist! that is how far it has gone with me! how am i going to be able to look at fh's mother in the face!!!!
just think of your fh's parents and family being a small # of people compared to the larger number of people that will be there and surround yourself with them
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So sorry to hear that things are going this way. Can I ask why they are being this way?
To be perfectly honest I believe that they think I'm not good enough
I have 2 beautiful kids from a previous marriage, I am not Argentinian, I was raised here, etc All strikes against me.
But what they fail to take into account is that I am an outstanding mother, daughter, friend and sister. I'm also educated and I have a good job where I make more than enough to support me and my kids. In fact, I make more money than their son. I'm his best freind (and he's mine). I am the one who motivated and inspired him to change what he didn't like about his life. He loves me and I make him happy.
They just s u c k
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you are a better person than I am... I would have send something already.
sit them in another room at the wedding!
what does FH say?
I told my mom that I'm going to sit them with the vendors, lol
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Honestly, if your FFIL wants to be ordinary in an ordinary suit.. then let him! He will be the one that will look silly not dressed up like the BP. If I were you, I would just pick your battles. This may seem like a huge deal now, but when you look back on it, you will giggle that he was being so stubborn for no reason!
I know what you are going through 100%. My FMIL shows NO interest whatsoever in anything wedding related and I'm sure if FH's father was in his life, it would be the same thing!! She showed up to my shower late, left early and gave me the trash can for our bathroom as our gift!
wow -- was it a nice trash can? lol
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OMG i was just talking about this to a therapist! that is how far it has gone with me! how am i going to be able to look at fh's mother in the face!!!!
just think of your fh's parents and family being a small # of people compared to the larger number of people that will be there and surround yourself with them
I totally understand what you mean but since FH and I paid for everything we are technically the hosts and I know that i do not have it in me to smile and pretend.
I wish I had a therapist!
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Sorry to hear that things are crazy. I think all families how someone haunting them. I have an Aunt that I am having issues with & was thinking that I was a bridzilla. I am starting to really believe that she is just jealous because she is 51 ish & never married.
My sister has had alot of problems with my family with she married her husband. My family didn't like him & still doesnt. They are almost married 6 years. It really shouldn't be there business....as long as you are both happy. SCREW em.... (I know sometimes easier said then done)
The LIW family loves you all.
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Honestly, if your FFIL wants to be ordinary in an ordinary suit.. then let him! He will be the one that will look silly not dressed up like the BP. If I were you, I would just pick your battles. This may seem like a huge deal now, but when you look back on it, you will giggle that he was being so stubborn for no reason!
I know what you are going through 100%. My FMIL shows NO interest whatsoever in anything wedding related and I'm sure if FH's father was in his life, it would be the same thing!! She showed up to my shower late, left early and gave me the trash can for our bathroom as our gift!
wow -- was it a nice trash can? lol
It was GORGEOUS!!!
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Sorry to hear that things are crazy. I think all families how someone haunting them. I have an Aunt that I am having issues with & was thinking that I was a bridzilla. I am starting to really believe that she is just jealous because she is 51 ish & never married.
My sister has had alot of problems with my family with she married her husband. My family didn't like him & still doesnt. They are almost married 6 years. It really shouldn't be there business....as long as you are both happy. SCREW em.... (I know sometimes easier said then done)
The LIW family loves you all.
The rational part of me knows that it's their loss but deep down I'm hurt and angry.
The wedding is one day -- I'll have to put up with these clowns forever. I try to imagine future holidays and birthdays and i get mad all over again. What's going to happen when the babies come??????
FutureMrsCarrieri
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Honestly, if your FFIL wants to be ordinary in an ordinary suit.. then let him! He will be the one that will look silly not dressed up like the BP. If I were you, I would just pick your battles. This may seem like a huge deal now, but when you look back on it, you will giggle that he was being so stubborn for no reason!
I know what you are going through 100%. My FMIL shows NO interest whatsoever in anything wedding related and I'm sure if FH's father was in his life, it would be the same thing!! She showed up to my shower late, left early and gave me the trash can for our bathroom as our gift!
wow -- was it a nice trash can? lol
It was GORGEOUS!!!
I double dare you re-wrap it and give it back to her this christmas
FutureMrsCarrieri
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The LIW family loves you all.
I love this site too!!!!! I'll never forget how helpful everyone was and how much the 08 brides made me laugh
Maria31
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Posted by Maria31
Honestly, if your FFIL wants to be ordinary in an ordinary suit.. then let him! He will be the one that will look silly not dressed up like the BP. If I were you, I would just pick your battles. This may seem like a huge deal now, but when you look back on it, you will giggle that he was being so stubborn for no reason!
I know what you are going through 100%. My FMIL shows NO interest whatsoever in anything wedding related and I'm sure if FH's father was in his life, it would be the same thing!! She showed up to my shower late, left early and gave me the trash can for our bathroom as our gift!
wow -- was it a nice trash can? lol
It was GORGEOUS!!!
I double dare you re-wrap it and give it back to her this christmas
OMG I totally should! She prob wouldnt even remember! I'm not sure what it is, but his whole family is just clueless when it comes to showers and big weddings... I guess it's not something that they do in their culture??
FutureMrsCarrieri
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Posted by Maria31
Posted by FutureMrsCarrieri
Posted by Maria31
Honestly, if your FFIL wants to be ordinary in an ordinary suit.. then let him! He will be the one that will look silly not dressed up like the BP. If I were you, I would just pick your battles. This may seem like a huge deal now, but when you look back on it, you will giggle that he was being so stubborn for no reason!
I know what you are going through 100%. My FMIL shows NO interest whatsoever in anything wedding related and I'm sure if FH's father was in his life, it would be the same thing!! She showed up to my shower late, left early and gave me the trash can for our bathroom as our gift!
wow -- was it a nice trash can? lol
It was GORGEOUS!!!
I double dare you re-wrap it and give it back to her this christmas
OMG I totally should! She prob wouldnt even remember! I'm not sure what it is, but his whole family is just clueless when it comes to showers and big weddings... I guess it's not something that they do in their culture??
some of it is cultural and some of it is just plain old fashioned rudeness, bad manners, and poor attitude
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Posted by FutureMrsCarrieri
Posted by Maria31
Honestly, if your FFIL wants to be ordinary in an ordinary suit.. then let him! He will be the one that will look silly not dressed up like the BP. If I were you, I would just pick your battles. This may seem like a huge deal now, but when you look back on it, you will giggle that he was being so stubborn for no reason!
I know what you are going through 100%. My FMIL shows NO interest whatsoever in anything wedding related and I'm sure if FH's father was in his life, it would be the same thing!! She showed up to my shower late, left early and gave me the trash can for our bathroom as our gift!
wow -- was it a nice trash can? lol
It was GORGEOUS!!!
I double dare you re-wrap it and give it back to her this christmas
OMG I totally should! She prob wouldnt even remember! I'm not sure what it is, but his whole family is just clueless when it comes to showers and big weddings... I guess it's not something that they do in their culture??
some of it is cultural and some of it is just plain old fashioned rudeness, bad manners, and poor attitude
Are you sure our FH's aren't brothers?? I'd definitely think they had the same parents, except my FH is Dominican, not Argentinian!
FutureMrsCarrieri
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Are you sure our FH's aren't brothers?? I'd definitely think they had the same parents, except my FH is Dominican, not Argentinian!
lol -- I think I have more in common with Dominicans. At least they know how to have fun :)
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OMG i was just talking about this to a therapist! that is how far it has gone with me! how am i going to be able to look at fh's mother in the face!!!!
just think of your fh's parents and family being a small # of people compared to the larger number of people that will be there and surround yourself with them
I totally understand what you mean but since FH and I paid for everything we are technically the hosts and I know that i do not have it in me to smile and pretend.
I wish I had a therapist
