FH & $$$$
I don't know how to handle these situations with $$$ and FH. Some background:
we've been living together for three years and up until 3 months ago, he had a really crappy job that didn't pay much and I ended up paying a lot more of the bills. Now FH has a good job and makes a lot more $$$ than I do. But, he's also trying to keep a failing pottery studio aflolt and takes $$$ he earns from his good job to pay the bills for his pottery studio. When he got the job, he told me he needed a month to get some bills paid off. I gave him two, which brings us to the present:
I'm not even asking FH to pay most of the bills; I want him to pay half now that he's making good $$$. I think that's fair. So yesterday when he came home (pay day) I asked for $. He already owed me $300, so when he asked how much I wanted I told him $500. He asked why and I told him the $200 was to go towards the bills. He goes, 'what bills?' I say 'electric, cable, LIPA, etc.' He gets annoyed and tells me he'll give me $300. I get annoyed and tell him that he makes more than I do, he should be contributing to the bills as originally discussed when he got the new job, and tell him to give me $400. He gives me the 4, but gets really annoyed. He told me that I'm not being fair because he's got a lot more bills to pay than I do (he's referring to his studio) and I (who want him out of that studio SO badly) say 'well, if you weren't putting your $$$ into a failing business, this wouldn't be an issue.' Now, I know that HE knows its failing but I think he won't close up because its a blow to his ego. I don't know how to fix that...another issue I could use advice on.
So the entire night he's irked and told me that I'm stealing from him. I reminded him of his own words - that it's OUR money. So I say 'I thought its OUR $$$. How can I steal if its OURS?' He thinks that I was trying to trick him to give me more cash, which was totally untrue.
I don't know how to handle this. I know $$$$ is a delicate situation for most people, but it seems to be extra delicate for me. Every Sunday I feel uneasy because I need to ask him for $$$. Any advice on how to handle?
we've been living together for three years and up until 3 months ago, he had a really crappy job that didn't pay much and I ended up paying a lot more of the bills. Now FH has a good job and makes a lot more $$$ than I do. But, he's also trying to keep a failing pottery studio aflolt and takes $$$ he earns from his good job to pay the bills for his pottery studio. When he got the job, he told me he needed a month to get some bills paid off. I gave him two, which brings us to the present:
I'm not even asking FH to pay most of the bills; I want him to pay half now that he's making good $$$. I think that's fair. So yesterday when he came home (pay day) I asked for $. He already owed me $300, so when he asked how much I wanted I told him $500. He asked why and I told him the $200 was to go towards the bills. He goes, 'what bills?' I say 'electric, cable, LIPA, etc.' He gets annoyed and tells me he'll give me $300. I get annoyed and tell him that he makes more than I do, he should be contributing to the bills as originally discussed when he got the new job, and tell him to give me $400. He gives me the 4, but gets really annoyed. He told me that I'm not being fair because he's got a lot more bills to pay than I do (he's referring to his studio) and I (who want him out of that studio SO badly) say 'well, if you weren't putting your $$$ into a failing business, this wouldn't be an issue.' Now, I know that HE knows its failing but I think he won't close up because its a blow to his ego. I don't know how to fix that...another issue I could use advice on.
So the entire night he's irked and told me that I'm stealing from him. I reminded him of his own words - that it's OUR money. So I say 'I thought its OUR $$$. How can I steal if its OURS?' He thinks that I was trying to trick him to give me more cash, which was totally untrue.
I don't know how to handle this. I know $$$$ is a delicate situation for most people, but it seems to be extra delicate for me. Every Sunday I feel uneasy because I need to ask him for $$$. Any advice on how to handle?
