FH and I are considering postponing - See page 2

I would have a small ceremony, with only close imediate family, maybe have everyone over to your family home, for a nice dinner. Hope everything works out for you and your FH!

Just remember that the important thing is that the 2 of you are together. The party to celebrate is nice, but not the point of two people getting married. Don't let the pressure of what everyone else does get in the way of what you can or can't do. In the long run, it won't matter if you had a big wedding or a small one, what matters is that the 2 of you love each other.
Good luck!

Whatever you decide we'll be here to support you!!! Only the 2 of you know what's best for you!!

i am sorry

Maybe you can sit down with everyone and explain your situation. Also include that you want to postpone due to $$. Maybe they will step up. Get all of your numbers together before.

I bartended all thru college- I worked 2 or 3 days a week and brought home a TON of cash-
yes you have to work weekend night- but it;s CASH

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Many

I've been going through teh same thing. But really think about it. First of all, we may be out $4500 if they can't rebook our date. Secondly we figured we would postpone. Then we'd be able to afford the wedding, and we'd have more breathing room, etc. It was a relief but heartbreaking. But now the more time goes by, the more we realize we just want to be married already. We took the test for MIllionaire Wedding Week and we passed and we were just so excited to go on the show because of the possibility that we woudln't have to postpone. Then we got the postcard that said we didn't get in, and we were both heartbroken, and I realized this all happenned for a reason. I really realized how much we don't want to postpone and how much we really want to get married, so now we're talking about scaling the wedding down, scrimping, putting off grad school and not postponing. I think it's heartbreakikng now, but when more times goes by and you're looking at a long time, it'll be worse.

I just realized you said you want to get legally married now and have a renewal. The reason I kind of didn't want to do this is because I want everyone to be there on the day of, and I feel like once we're married we'll ahve even more responsibilities and it'll just be anticlimactic, not the same as the joy of our actual wedding day. You have to do whats right for you, but really really think about it. Many I know what you're going through!

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Posted by Preshy7

do you have any other options? like-

- can you change the date to a weekday?
-do your own flowers?
-candle centerpieces
-get the most basic photo package and make albums later?
there are ways to have a great wedding but still cut costs.

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I totally agree with Melissa. Do you really need a 'BIG BASH'?? Why dont you have something small & intimate like on an island or just cut corners? Theres so many ways to do it. Remember the reason why you are marrying your FH.. because you are both in love. Nothing will come in betweenyou-even money. Weddings are rediculously expensive, but noone says that you cant have one because your not rich.. Some of the best weddings I have been to were heavy budgeted. Hang in there honey. Im sure you will work it out somehow.