FH best friend vent

Maybe I'm wrong to be annoyed but I am. FH best friend has been dating his gf for probably around 6 years. He has time and time again told us (in confidence) that he has no intention of marrying her and is only with her because true love isn't out there. FH told him that we are getting married at a bbq on 4th of July...well, we went over there last weekend and she pulls me aside to tell me that they are getting married now and went looking at rings and venues the past week. She then pulled me inside away from the guys and told me that I can't getting married during such and such months, can't have it at her possible venues, her colors, etc. and then pulled out menues and was picking out appetizers. He hasn't even proposed to her yet!!!! FH said he only told her that they will get married because we mentioned it and he didn't want to be the last of the friends (who has been dating his gf the longest) to get married.
I told my FH that I will not adjust my plans to accomendate them. Their marriage to me is going to blow up in their face. She has nagged him for years to get married, even moved out because he refused to propose in the past, but now because we announced it, they are suddenly all gung ho about getting married (and conveniently around the same time as us). Aaaaahhhhh!!!! Am I wrong to be annoyed? Thanks for letting me vent

Re: FH best friend vent

OMG she is just as bad as the guy!

in terms of the guy, yes i'd be annoyed at him for just being who he is lol. and i've known my DHs friends for so long now that unfortunately i would say something straight to him, although it's probably best not to.

in regards to her, ignore her or tell her straight up that you'll plan your wedding the way you want to and if you kept months/venues off limits because of other people, you'd never be able to get married.

where do people get off saying things like that?!!

anyway, good luck and have fun planning!!

FH best friend vent

Oh my god, they're the one-uppers. I'm sure it'll die down soon. Just try not to discuss too many of your wedding plans with them, because it'll always be something. I would be annoyed too, so you're not wrong. But try and let it go. Just concentrate on your planning, and like I said, don't discuss it with them too much.

FH best friend vent

That is just pure jealousness for her to tell you something like that!!

Go ahead with your wedding and don't let anyone spoil your moment!

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Posted by Alimm729

Oh my god, they're the one-uppers. I'm sure it'll die down soon. Just try not to discuss too many of your wedding plans with them, because it'll always be something. I would be annoyed too, so you're not wrong. But try and let it go. Just concentrate on your planning, and like I said, don't discuss it with them too much.

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i agree. for your own sanity, discuss no details with them and instruct FH not to as well. because i could see this girl make your crazy by saying she's doing the same, etc.

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It is understandable to be annoyed... I would be more mad at him than her personally, but she has nerve to try and tell you when to plan your wedding. I say do as you please and pay no mind to it. If she gets mad let her, sooner or later she will find out (unfortunately the hard way) that it is not in the cards for the two of them.

FH best friend vent

Unfortunately she can not help who she is let alone who she isn't. You have every right to be upset and justifiably so. Truthfully, I would pay her no mind whatsoever. You and your FH continue your planning and do not allow her to rain on your parade. Your FH best friend is eventually going to have to man up and own his words as well as his actions.

FH best friend vent

That is really upsetting to hear that they are both acting like that. I would not talk about any wedding plans with her at all and just continue your plans as is. Just make sure that they do not choose your weekend, esp if you have mutual friends that will be at both weddings.

FH best friend vent

Damn, that is crazy. Wow. The nerve of some people. I've seen people like that before too. I would've been beyond annoyed.

Although, my MOH is in a situation right now. One of my sisters Best Friends, who lives in Florida now, was recently engaged. The fiance had the ring for a while, even went out with my sis' BF to pick it together. They'd known each other for 10 years and had been going out for the past 2 I believe.

My sister told her BF that my wedding date, her very own sister's wedding date, is May 15, and her BF was thinking about May or July, possibly leaning more toward July since she likes 4th of July. And what does her friend do? Books her wedding for May 25th. Now, my sister has to work out her work schedule because there is a chance that she may be in the bridal party and its in Florida. My sister is a little mad about this, as am I.

FH best friend vent

Don't let her get to you! Plan your dream wedding and pay her no mind!

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Posted by Dani10

OMG she is just as bad as the guy!

in terms of the guy, yes i'd be annoyed at him for just being who he is lol. and i've known my DHs friends for so long now that unfortunately i would say something straight to him, although it's probably best not to.

in regards to her, ignore her or tell her straight up that you'll plan your wedding the way you want to and if you kept months/venues off limits because of other people, you'd never be able to get married.

where do people get off saying things like that?!!

anyway, good luck and have fun planning!!

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This! I think she is worse than he is!

FH best friend vent

She sounds crazy! Don't listen to her, plan whatever you want for whenever you want. Don't tell her anything more about the wedding. I have one upper friends and I had to stop telling them about my wedding for this reason.

FH best friend vent

I am going to avoid them until my aggravation with them subsides and then will never discuss my ideas with them. FH was pissed too. He said never did I think he'd do a **** move like that. I should be proud and excited to share our joy with friends, now i'll say nothing.

I feel horrible that he doesn't feel like he can share his happiness and plans with his best friend

FH best friend vent

That is just soooo annoying, I would be very irritated also. I would've said somtheing along the lines of 'you should probably wait until he actually proposes before planning your wedding'...but I can be a little b**chy sometimes lol.

Like everyone else said, don't share your plans and ideas with them. I'm sure in another month or so when there is STILL no ring on her finger she will not want to talk weddings anyway. Just plan your wedding the way you want it, when you want it.