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FH got a wedding invite...

DanaRenee Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:32 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:32 PM

FH got a wedding invite...

And it was addressed to:

'Mr. Charles ___ and Fiance'

I thought this was a little odd, is it just me??

CLMon7906 Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:36 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:36 PM

Re: FH got a wedding invite...

it's not just odd...it's RUDE/hurtful and actually against all etiquette rules.

meanie heads.

neener1211 Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:36 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:36 PM

Re: FH got a wedding invite...

they might not have known your name??

Although, they should have gone out of their way to find it out...or the very least...ask him...

RadioLau Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:38 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:38 PM

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ettiquette NO NO!! They should have found out your name.

FallBride05 Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:38 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:38 PM

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I agree, it's possible they didn't know your name. I had a situation like that when I was sending my invites out. We went all out to trying to find out and we never got any return phone calls or anything from the cousin or his parents, or other cousins who knew the fiancee. I had no choice but to put 'and finacee' on the invite. I felt bad but was up against a wall.

stephanielyse Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:40 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:40 PM

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Posted by neener1211

they might not have known your name??

Although, they should have gone out of their way to find it out...or the very least...ask him...

I agree. Or they just may not know anything about etiquette. When we were addressing our invites, DH wanted to write 'and Guest' for his friend's fiance, because he didn't know her last name! I told him there was no way in hell I was going to do that and made him call his friend and find out her last name. I wouldn't take too much offense, it's most likely them not knowing any better.

DanaRenee Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:45 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:45 PM

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I figured it wasn't the right way to do it, I just wanted to make sure!!

patticakes Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:47 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:47 PM

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Wow, they absolutely should have found your name! That's so tacky.

sr081906 Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:50 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:50 PM

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I realize this is not the most 'appropriate' way to address someone but that person probably did not think it was bad or did not think about asking.

We have to realize that at this very moment we are all breathing wedding in and out. We know all the etiquette rules or we ask here just in case we do a 'faux pas'.

Everybody does not worry so much about it.

Don't worry about it! At least the person included you 'somehow'.

Beth1210 Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:52 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:52 PM

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I think it' s better than - 'and Guest'

it my not be the best way- but I wouldn't not be upset over it

JazzyT Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:52 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:52 PM

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Posted by CLMon7906

it's not just odd...it's RUDE/hurtful and actually against all etiquette rules.

meanie heads.

Agreed

Sunrise813 Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:57 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:57 PM

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Posted by FallBride05

I agree, it's possible they didn't know your name. I had a situation like that when I was sending my invites out. We went all out to trying to find out and we never got any return phone calls or anything from the cousin or his parents, or other cousins who knew the fiancee. I had no choice but to put 'and finacee' on the invite. I felt bad but was up against a wall.

I agree, I'm sure they felt bad not having a name but didn't want to further insult you by puting 'and guest'.

Sunrise813 Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:57 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 02:57 PM

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Posted by Beth1210

I think it' s better than - 'and Guest'

it my not be the best way- but I wouldn't not be upset over it

Exactly.

Tiggeruth Posted: Jun 15, 2006 03:03 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 03:03 PM

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Posted by Sunrise813

Posted by Beth1210

I think it' s better than - 'and Guest'

it my not be the best way- but I wouldn't not be upset over it

Exactly.

I agree. Last Fall FH and I were invited to a wedding by rather good friends of ours (FH was in the wedding) and the invite came to FH addressed 'and guest', I was livid, they know who I am, they know FH and I had been dating a long time and on the verge of being engaged and they didn't use my name.

autumn Posted: Jun 15, 2006 03:50 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 03:50 PM

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I would feel alittle insulted

krispyc Posted: Jun 15, 2006 04:03 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 04:03 PM

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My co-worker addressed my wedding invitation with the 'and Fiance'. The thing is she knows his name (maybe not his last name but she could've asked me). I thought it was really odd but FH doesn't care about things like that so I didn't let it bother me.

MissingTheBGene Posted: Jun 15, 2006 04:05 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 04:05 PM

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Posted by Sunrise813

Posted by FallBride05

I agree, it's possible they didn't know your name. I had a situation like that when I was sending my invites out. We went all out to trying to find out and we never got any return phone calls or anything from the cousin or his parents, or other cousins who knew the fiancee. I had no choice but to put 'and finacee' on the invite. I felt bad but was up against a wall.

I agree, I'm sure they felt bad not having a name but didn't want to further insult you by puting 'and guest'.

Agreed

MissingTheBGene Posted: Jun 15, 2006 04:06 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 04:06 PM

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If it makes you feel any better, DH received an invite while we were engaged and it was marked 'and Guest' and he responded with my name and the place card still said 'and Guest'.

LuckySevens Posted: Jun 15, 2006 04:08 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 04:08 PM

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I think that is so aweful

But we just got one from a family friend of his

Mr. Phillip _________ & Guest

Can you believe that one. We have been dating for six years and they know we are engaged!

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Jun 15, 2006 04:21 PM+

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Posted: Jun 15, 2006 04:21 PM

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How close is this person to your FH? Maybe they didn't know your name and in the hustle and bustle of things they forgot to find out. Does it really matter in the long run?