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We got invited to a few weddings last year (before we were engaged) and his friends addresses the invitation to Mr Michael M and guest.....

ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I have been with him for 4 years. You can't even take 2 seconds to put my name? Even if you didn't know it, you called for his address.

I agree, I think it is completely rude.

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My FH just got an invite to a wedding and it was only addressed to HIM!?!?! And we sent them (BOTH of them) a 'save-the-date'!!!!

WHAT!?!? They know we're engaged too!!!

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some ppl are just so thoughtless...

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Girl, I hear you. . . a wedding that FH and I got invited to this summer was addressed as 'to FH and guest.' This heffa knows my name and she sees FH every Sunday so it is not like she couldn't have asked him for the proper spelling of my name. But this is also the same person who put 'monetary gifts are much appreciated' on her invitations SO TACKY I should put on our invitations to her 'to Mrs. X and guest' but that would be petty

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maybe they did not know your name
they could have put guest....

i did that on some of my invites and to be honest i really did not have time to call people to ask them what their bf/gf/fi names i had other thing to worry about . these people were dh moms list .
and she invited families and we did not know the names but knew they were enaged or whatever the situation was.

eta: we asked people to get the names and they did not get it for us in time so that was our only option. if we had the name we would have done it but we didnt

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They definitely should have tried to find out your name but I think 'fiance' is better than 'guest' as they are acknowledging the fact that you are engaged. I once received a wedding thank you card that read, 'To Mike & Girlfriend' (before we were engaged)...UM, I did sign the card with my name so why couldn't you look it up!!!!!!

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I'm addressing some of FI's friends invites with 'and guest' even though they've dated this girl for years. The problem is that FI doesn't remeber their names and feels bad calling his friends to ask, 'yeah, so what's that girls name that you've been dating forever', hehe.

So maybe they didn't know your name and felt bad to ask, we've gotten a couple 'and guest', it doesn't bother me but it's better than them taking a guess and spelling my name wrong...

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We just got an invite too with '& Guest' from a couple that definitely knows my name and we were engaged before them! I'm chalking it up to the fact that she just didn't know the etiquette... Her name will defintely be on our invites...

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my husband and I wene invited to a wedding when we were engaged and the couple wrote Mr. A _____ and guest. We saw the couple 3 weeks before they sent the invites out. I know they knew my name. Not only that, they knew DH and I were engaged to be married at that time. It soooo annoyed me. I completely understand your feelings.

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Posted by neener1211

they might not have known your name??

Although, they should have gone out of their way to find it out...or the very least...ask him...

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Exactly they should have found out!

I double checked on Ms. Mrs. there were widows.. some women kept their last names.. some were hyphenated. I made sur eto get the correct everything.

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ugh! i can see how you're annoyed!
2 years ago, i was a BM in a wedding. i was engaged at the time, and i got the invite addressed to me ' and guest'- now, the groom for the wedding went to HS with my FI, i went to HS with the bride,so we hung out with the couple A LOT, so they definitely knew FIs name.... when i asked the bride about it, she acknolwedged that she didn't like my FI, and she didn't want him to be invited to the wedding, so they didn't want to put his name on the invite who else was i gonna bring- my cousin?? all this was after i had spent almost $1000 to be her BM, give her a nice shower, etc.....
needless to say, i'm not frends with her anymore!

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Posted by Beth1210

I think it' s better than - 'and Guest'

it my not be the best way- but I wouldn't not be upset over it

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FH got a wedding invite for his friend addressed like this... They know me but still put guest -- i wasnt put off by it b/c we all know that the bride and her family do the work,... she never met me so I didn't care that she didnt do the research

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at least you were invited? one positive thing.

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Listen, I had a similar situation with my STD. FH's cousin's fiance, I never met her, and he didnt get her name for me. SOOO what I did was go to Fortunoff (or BBB), looked up his name and got the proper spelling of her name.
I think its very important. I would be very upset if I was and fiance, or and guest, or and FIRST NAME

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FH was just invited to a wedding of his best friend. This guy is in our wedding party but this guy is only having family! It said FH and guest!!!!!
I was so angry I replied w/ just FH name!

Also, we got into a huge fight b/c it made me feel like I wasn't important in his life to his friends!

People need to think!!!!

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I think it's completely rude of them not to put your name on the invitation as well. If they know enough to know he's engaged, they should darn well find out your name!

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I agree it's odd. I refuse to write 'and guest' on any envelope so I have made a point of getting all gf/bf names and correct spellings.

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I don't know if anyone has mentioned this, but some couples actually don't send out their own invites especially if they arent the host or they have someone planning the whole wedding.

I know I received some wedding invitations from my FH's friend's father who's hosting the party and not only was it sent 1 month before the wedding but it was just address to my FH, not me!

The friend's father has also met me 'cus we were gonna buy a wedding ring from him. :P

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I actually wouldn't take it personally - people are morons, and they probably didn't mean to be hurtful....they are prob just clueless about etiquette.

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Were they a co-worker who didn't know your name? I got an invite addressed to Miss Amanda.... and Charlie (No Last name). It wasn't a big deal.