when i met him i weighed 95 lb. that was 6yrs. ago. now i weigh 130 lb. well i was laying on the couch and he said my tummy looks like i am pregnant. i know i got chubby but did he half to say that....... i am already self concious, this girl i work with always says something mean every time i eat something, like uhh your hips dont need that,, i am ready to just starve myself, i have been so down over this, anybody else feel blah from the way they look lately?
MikeandJess
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what? Since when is 130 lbs heavy? That's ridiculous
catsgirl
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well i guess to them since i am only 5' i look fat.
AMGBride2008
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Did you tell him how much he hurt your feelings?!?! I'm sure he didn't mean it in a mean way... FH is always grabbing my belly, and it annoys me, but before I lash out and bite his head off, I try and remember that he's just being affectionate.... not trying to tell me that he thinks my belly is fat.
As for your coworker... I would totally have a few choice words for her... don't be afraid to tell her to shut her mouth and mind her business.. do NOT justify what you eat or how you live you life by what someone you barely know says to you.... IMO, people like that are so unhappy that in order to make themselves feel better they have to make other people feel like sh!t.
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dont worry guys say the stupidest things. my FH holds on to my stomachs extra fat and says what is this? and i say extra food for the winter in case we dont have enough food. & i grab his back and say you've got more. so who cares. lol
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don't feel down on yourself & dont listen to that lady at work that is insane she should mind her own- also men dont realize that they are hurting us it sounds like it was innocent 130lbs is not bad dont be so hard on yourself!
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You need to tell these people how you feel! Before I got pregnant I was 130... I always thought I was so fat... At the end of my pregnancy I gained 100 pounds... Dont know how it happened, even when I did everything 'right by the book' the weight piled on...I guess I was just prone to weight gain....Now I look back at my 130lb pictures and see how skinny I really was.... 130lbs is NOT fat at all!!!! (im short, 5'2) So Im sorry, these people are NUTS!!!!
AS
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When I first met my FH i was like 100 pounds now Im like 130 , he still tells me Im skinny but I dont see it
teenigrrl
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that was a dumb comment for him to make! boys are stupid. i'm also only 5 feet tall, and weigh 130 lbs, and there's nothing wrong w/ it at all! i also used to weigh 175 lbs, but i know i still get very self conscious about how i look - it's normal whenever there's a shift in your weight whether is a gain or a loss. i'm sure he wasn't trying to be mean. my FH always talks about my 'fat little belly', but it's a complete term of endearment. and tell the biatch you work with that she just kiss your a$$ and to mind her own business.
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Sweetie 130 lbs is hardly fat. Don't sweat it. Even though it may have been a little insensitive for him to say it...wouldn't you rather him say it that someone else.
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you are anything but fat!!! i am 5'2' and when FH met me i was 150. Im 185 now. now that's chunky! =)
and unless your co-worker is a supermodel, she should shut up too. its just rude!
i think you should turn the tables on your FH, and one day mention he is looking a little chunky and see how he feels.
you are beautiful!!!
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yeah since when is 130 heavy???
i have put on weight from being out of work i am around 140 or so.....every so often fh will say...u gotta stop being lazy or your dress wont fit. It hurts but i know he is right... do you think you are heavy?? how tall are you? is he heavier? poke sun right back when Steve dies that to me i poke his belly and say OH YEAH BUDDAH????
so sorry you are sad.....is there any way you can fit in the gym or some excersise at home? maybe losing a few pounds will make YOU feel better about it? i know its hard. i am trying to do this after the holidays...........
SB7308
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aww did u tell him you are hurt??
FH thinks my 'dimples' on my legs are cute... Yea I'd like to punch him when he says that
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aww did u tell him you are hurt??
FH thinks my 'dimples' on my legs are cute... Yea I'd like to punch him when he says that
no, i didnt say anything to him, but i have noticed he dont compliment me anymore i dunno, when i was thin everyone got on me i put on some weight, same thing, cant win for losing i guess.
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aww did u tell him you are hurt??
FH thinks my 'dimples' on my legs are cute... Yea I'd like to punch him when he says that
OMG, FH does that too. He's told me flat out, that he actually likes my cellulite!
teenigrrl
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BTW, I looked at your album, your dress is gorgeous!! You look absolutely fantastic in it. To me, you don't look like you need to lose anything.
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aww did u tell him you are hurt??
FH thinks my 'dimples' on my legs are cute... Yea I'd like to punch him when he says that
no, i didnt say anything to him, but i have noticed he dont compliment me anymore i dunno, when i was thin everyone got on me i put on some weight, same thing, cant win for losing i guess.
Your FH must think you are beautiful-he's marrying you!!! Dont be down. Dont listen to what other people say to you! Who are they to tell you 'you gained weight or you are too skinny?' I know i've gained weight, but i'm taking it upon myself to lose it no matter what anyone else has to say.
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LOVE YOURSELF!!
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i hear you. i feel the same most days anything to be thin...
its also really hard when you have an identical twin sister who weighs 35 pounds less. what makes it even worse is when our friends ask ME 'how is she so thin, what is she doing'? Like uhh ask her, obviously i dont know or id be doing it too
ETS: fortunately, i have a VERY supportive FH, he has loved me fat, thinner, fat again.. he tells me no matter how much i weigh, he'll always love me
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what is wrong w ppl?? i weigh a lot more than 130...i just looked at ur pics and u r beautiful!!
i know how u feel...fhs mom told me if i keep eating ice cream i wont be able 2 fit in my wedding dress. i got so upset. ppl just dont think.
