FH is now 'upset' that the 'no' didn't send us anything.

Original post by CubanBride

Feb 03, 2005 08:39 PM

She gave us no money, nothng, and he isn't happy.

FriendoftheBride Posted: Feb 04, 2005 09:48 AM

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I know someone that got a decline but there was a giftcard with it. Would you believe she was pissed it wasn't cash? How ungrateful can a person be?

newnybride2be Posted: Feb 04, 2005 09:48 AM

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if the person is a close friend then she most likely is waiting until later to send the gift.

Jan05Bride Posted: Feb 04, 2005 09:54 AM

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Some sent gifts closer (or after the wedding), some didn't send anything, and some that came to the wedding didn't bring a thing ... it's gonna happen, it happens to everyone, and unfortunately there is nothing you can do about it.

AJsMommy122 Posted: Feb 04, 2005 10:14 AM

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We had a few people who said no and didnt send anything but a nice note congratulating us with the rsvp card. Some people included a check and many 'no's' have told my fmil they will send an envelope with a family member/friend who IS attending the wedding.
They didnt feel right sending it before the actual wedding.

Summer05 Posted: Feb 04, 2005 10:53 AM

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I usually send the gift closer to the wedding if I am not able to attend.

dpli Posted: Feb 04, 2005 10:55 AM

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It may be unexpected for him, but according to etiquette, no one is ever required to send a gift for a wedding, even if they attend the wedding. (It's in the Peggy Post book, I swear....) Most people expect to receive a gift, but honestly, I haven't always sent a gift if I didn't attend a wedding, depending on how close I was to the person.

We got a lot of nos, since we had a lot of OOTers. Some sent gifts and some didn't, but most of those gifts came seperately with a card. she might send something later.

Janice Posted: Feb 04, 2005 11:04 AM

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cuban bride, you might want to get him ready for what's in store the next couple of months. Atleast this was a no, just wait until people show up and don't give a card, or even worse, no shows no card...

ckgmwedding Posted: Feb 04, 2005 11:08 AM

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Oh my God you just reminded me I never send a gift to my friend who was married last July and whose wedding I didn't attend. Two of my friends got married and I couldn't attend their wedding as well but I took them out to dinner as a 'gift' since I couldn't be there.