FH is starting to reconsider our RH...i need your help.

Original post by Ilovebriani

Jan 27, 2007 12:27 PM

Hey girls, i am having such a hard time here! FH and i already booked our RH...but now he is REALLY starting to doubt it b/c he is worried that it will be too much $$$. He just does not want it to end up breaking us in the end! We are going to have about 250 guests (both have big families) and are going to end up paying most of the wedding ourselves! So, now he has been trying to convince me to change our RH! (with good intentions, but sometimes it makes me feel really guilty...i already explained to him how i felt so he knows, it's just a tough situation.) The thing is, we know we can afford the wedding, we make decent money and i work en extra job on top of that....i am even willing to get a third job if need be. (he just dosnt think i should have to do that...or if i do, the money should go towards a house instead of a wedding) basically we would end up using a year of savings to pay for the wedding.

So now, being the girl that i am...i have always dreamed of an a fairytale type wedding. I really wanted to have it in a beautiful RH ! The way weddings are on long island, it's so hard to make it less expensive without feeling like you are downgrading (at least to me, that is how i feel). All of my life there were times when i felt like all these people around me had all these things and i couldnt afford them...but now that i am working and make my own $$ i feel like the wedding is something i want to splurge on. I just feel stuck and do not know what to do. FH insists that he wants me to be happy so whatever decision i make he will be fine with....but i know if i stick with our RH, i will end up feeling guilty. Today he is taking me to look at the ballroom at Adelphi University (he works there). Does anyone have any suggestions of less expensive places on L.I. that are still classy?? (or can be made classy?) I would even consider having the ceremony upstate NY since things are a lot less $$ there, but then i dont think a lot of my work friends would be able to come since it is farther away...i really want them to be there. I just dont know what to do! I am so upset about this! any advice would be SOO greatly appreciated!

Ilovebriani Posted: Jan 27, 2007 10:01 PM

Re: FH is starting to reconsider our RH...i need your help.

wow! i just logged on and i was so surprised to see all these new responses! once again, thank u all for your advice! i might look into changing the date....that is a possibility! FH and i went to look at Stuart Thomas Manor and it was nice, but i still like CLM a lot better! The price at STM was really good....but to me, the lobby was a little outdated, and there was no outdoor scenery at all. They did have a good package deal though, and it would be for a night time wedding! FH also took me to look at the ballroom at Adelphi. The ballroom was HUGE and you could do a lot with the room i am sure, space would not be a problem at all. but, the building it is in is very institutional looking since it is in the student center at the college. it's just not very pretty looking. so, that is out. I will def. look into Larkfield Manor and Mediterranean Manor as well and see what their deal is. As for the ceremony, the most important thing to me about this whole wedding was to have it in a church (and if possible, the one where i grew up- which is where we are booked) so that is not something i am willing to change. But it is a good suggestion in order to allow for an April wedding. It is true that our future together is more important than having a big extravagant wedding. So i am willing to look into other options. Unfortunately i can be a picky person with things which makes this wedding planning on a budget thing so difficult! lol. i know it is something that i will just have to get over As of now though, no changes...and FH made a good point, we are already booked at CLM, so if we dont find anything else then we are still in pretty good shape.

Ilovebriani Posted: Jan 27, 2007 10:08 PM

Re: FH is starting to reconsider our RH...i need your help.

by the way...i just checked the larkfield manor website and it's really pretty! i am thinking about checking it out. i have to see how far it is from me. Thankss!

maybride75 Posted: Jan 27, 2007 10:11 PM

Re: FH is starting to reconsider our RH...i need your help.

aww sorry guys i hpe the 2 of you come to a decision! someone said the mediteranian manor. its beautiful and they do have all inclusive packages take a look at the. also windows on the lake has a package as well. good luck girlie!