Re: FH RANT !!!
Thanks girls.
I didn't have a huge problem sending announcements... but I wasn't finding anything appropriate and he was like, OMG, it's old news already just send something out NOW. The ultimatum is what made me angry because I had perfectly valid reasons for wondering if we should send engagement announcements or not since we're going to do STD's ALSO and about what we should send since nothing seemed right.
As luck would have it, while I was looking last night for the 9287494872 time for something appropriate, I found something great. And he loved it. And now HE'S paying for it, cause I made it clear that I was not.
Marianne: It's very true... a lot of my cousins (I have almost 40) have gotten married or had kids and I had no idea, so we didn't give them gifts. We're just not close. And my aunts and uncles will come to the wedding and give a generous gift, but they don't acknowledge all of the pre wedding stuff the wame way his family might because there are just TOO many kids! No one has that kind of money. He got birthday gifts from his aunt and cousins.. I never did unless I was having a party, same for how my mom treated my cousins.
UGH, I'm just glad THIS issue is over. We really almost never fight, so this really ticked me off especially since it was over something relatively not a big deal in the grand scheme.
I just needed a forum and some feedback to work through it for myself before I could try to get through to him again without it turning into another non-productive argument.. And I got all that. Thanks again.
I didn't have a huge problem sending announcements... but I wasn't finding anything appropriate and he was like, OMG, it's old news already just send something out NOW. The ultimatum is what made me angry because I had perfectly valid reasons for wondering if we should send engagement announcements or not since we're going to do STD's ALSO and about what we should send since nothing seemed right.
As luck would have it, while I was looking last night for the 9287494872 time for something appropriate, I found something great. And he loved it. And now HE'S paying for it, cause I made it clear that I was not.
Marianne: It's very true... a lot of my cousins (I have almost 40) have gotten married or had kids and I had no idea, so we didn't give them gifts. We're just not close. And my aunts and uncles will come to the wedding and give a generous gift, but they don't acknowledge all of the pre wedding stuff the wame way his family might because there are just TOO many kids! No one has that kind of money. He got birthday gifts from his aunt and cousins.. I never did unless I was having a party, same for how my mom treated my cousins.
UGH, I'm just glad THIS issue is over. We really almost never fight, so this really ticked me off especially since it was over something relatively not a big deal in the grand scheme.
I just needed a forum and some feedback to work through it for myself before I could try to get through to him again without it turning into another non-productive argument.. And I got all that. Thanks again.
