ALONE!!!! My FH really hasn't helped with ANY of the planning and its really starting to piss me off. He helped pick out the band and that's it. Meanwhile all my free time and vacation time is spent going to NY, meeting with vendors, etc. Its like a second job. The final straw came last night. I finally found a free Saturday and a church out here for Pre-cana. We were all set after much research for March 5. Last night I reminded him AGAIN about the date and he was like, oh, I am out of town that weekend visiting my sister before my business trip. I thought that was the following weekend! Sorry... I am sick and tired of being responsible for this whole affair. The least he could do was remember the date for pre-cana and plan his trip around it.
He was away at a conference last night and I was so angry after he told me this that I started screaming that I am sick of all the wedding crap and no help from him. I know I sounded like a b***h but I really don't care. I finally just said good night and hung up. I still haven't spoken to him.
I know I am overreacting but his attitude was like, so what, we will reschedule. NO, I will have to reschedule since I can't even trust him to do that! I am just sooo annoyed but his attitude about all this.
Sorry so long but I needed to get this out....
UPDATE-Edited to say that Fh is a lucky man- I was able to find a church about 1/2 hour away for the following weekend and we got the LAST spot. He is sooo lucky....
Jamie&MarkSept.'05
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I think most of the FH's are this way (not that that makes you feel any better).
I am planning from MA and when we go down to NY I pretty much book up the whole weekend with wedding things and FH complains...
I have flipped out on him many times...your FH needs to be made aware of the stress you are under! I say....when he pulls this crap again, yell at him, no holds barred!
Eventually he will get the message!
David'sbride
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Christine,
You are preaching to the choir!! I just had a meltdown last night. I've spent my entire winter break (haven't even cleaned in two weeks or graded the huge pile of papers I have) doing stuff for the wedding, all day, every day, and he is lying on the couch His mom hasn't found a dress yet or booked a rehearsal dinner place.
This might help. I made a list last night of five things for him to do with deadlines. Some take literallly 5 seconds. The biggest one was the rehearsal dinner.
I also put everything on the calendar on the fridge. Would that help?
pattyp
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Sometimes I just don't think men fully understand everything involved. In 4 months I have to continue working full-time, going to school part-time, finish planning a wedding and move!! Some days I'm fine, some days I'm completely overwhelmed. We all do understand!
