FH wants to invite girl who has a thing for him...

JeanetteandSteve Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:10 AM

FH wants to invite girl who has a thing for him...

so FH and i took forever to send out our STDs. we were finally getting them together last night and i gave him a list of his friends whose addresses i need him to get.

he just emailed me and told me he asked one of his friends for her other friend's address too. this other friend used to give me dirty looks and attitude when we were all out together and when i asked FH why she doesn't like me, he told me it's b/c she has a crush on him. this girl is a skinny good looking blonde biotch (i'm not calling her a biotch b/c she's good looking, she is seriously a biotch) and apparently when me and FH were broken up for a few months she tried to hit on him and wanted to date him.

and he wants to invite her to my wedding.

W T F ?!?!??!??!?!?!

so not happy right now.

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Jesses Girl Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:12 AM

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yah i would say NO

a big fat NO! to that.

fh is lucky he's inviting a girl he dated in junior high! hahaha

im not jealous..i just dread the 'if anyone here has a reason that these 2 should not be together'

haha

AmandaLynn04 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:13 AM

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That's a tough one. She is his friend, but, she makes you uncomfortable.

I think you should talk to him, without getting mad, and tell him that you feel very uncomfortable inviting her to the wedding. See what he says, hopefully by staying rational and not getting angry, he will see your side and agree!

GL!

mendi725 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:13 AM

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I would have a problem with that also. Why would you want someone there that isn't there to support you. Ugh!!!!! Is he that close to her that she really needs to be there?

AeroJenn Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:18 AM

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Dh and I had a similar situation. When we were in college, a friend of ours was always hitting on him. I found out later that she was actually trying to break us up because she liked him. He actually wanted to invite her to the wedidng. I basically told him that if he wants her there after knowing that she liked him and tried to break us up that he obviously doesnt care about my feelings. There's absolutely no reason why she needs to be there. In the end, he agreed and we didnt invite her. They no longer speak to each other now.

Dont invite her. Tell him NO -- theres no reaosn for it.

yelley77 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:18 AM

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um, that would be a no!!!

Men just don't get it.

rahana316 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:19 AM

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Hmm that's a tough situation. IT all depends on their relationship right now. Are they like good friends or does she just talk to him because she has a thing for him??

I wouldn't get to upset over it. FH is marrying you not her, and I'm nuts. I would love to flaunt that in front of her face. Biotych I got him, not you.

Then again we dont want to invite her just because of that, because you can invitie someone more important and someone more special to both of you.

Sugaplum08 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:20 AM

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YEa, that would be a definite NO

davenjess Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:23 AM

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Yeah - that's a big, fat no in my book too. I think you need to sit down with FH and explain to him how this would affect your day & ANYTHING that will take away from your happiness is NOT something that's okay...

KickinDandelions Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:24 AM

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wow...that would be a NO for me as well

i know if it was the other way around FH would totally have a cow...

Espo22 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:24 AM

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I know you said she hit on him when you two were broken up, has she since you two got back together? If so then you need to tell him that you will not stand for someone disrespecting your relationship and definitely not invite someone to your wedding who will be disrespectful. Tell him he can't put you in that type of situation and if it were you, you made make sure to keep him away from anyone who would do that not put him in the middle of it

jeffamanda080808 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:27 AM

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BIG FAT NO!

FH mentioned inviting someone that I know he did unmentionable things with back when they were young and stupid. I told him NO. He understood and again tried explaining that it was in the way past, but I put my foot down. None of my past unmentionables are invited so why should his be!

Mizzdimple Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:27 AM

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JUST DONT DO IT...Tell him no thats it! Ask him how it would be if you invited someone that hit on you, how would he like it?

Julybride08 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:31 AM

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I would say no. FH used to know this girl who used to actually stalk him and she would call my house and drive by to see if he was there. I didn't know all of this untill after they weren't friends anymore. and She used to ask him out almost every day on the bus ride home. I would never let him invite her to the wedding.

lilangel369 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:45 AM

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imho .. i would ask him why he wants to invite her. maybe he didn't really think it through and he was just thinking about the gifts u guys might get

angl2001 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:47 AM

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i would tell him you feel uncomfortable inviting her. I would be pissed too ! talk to him about it maybe he will change his mind...but then again if he really wants to invite her...its pretty much a slap in her face to see u guys get married lol

hope it works out chickie!!

DnellD809 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:48 AM

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Yea, that's not ok.
If it makes you uncomfortable then you should definitely express that to FH and he needs to respect your feelings. It's YOUR guys day and there's no need for her to be there.

JeanetteandSteve Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:49 AM

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just so everyone knows, he is not good friends w her.

FH has a girl friend who is one of his best friends, and i love her. her best friend is also one of our good friends. but biotch girl is just another friend of these 2 girls...she comes out sometimes when they all get together. she usually doesn't come when i'm invited out with them.

FH said he wouldn't want her to feel 'left out'.

that's nice.

DnellD809 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:51 AM

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Who cares about her feeling left out. Because if she really did try to get with him at one time then she'll OBVIOUSLY know and should understand why she's not at YOUR wedding!