FH wants to invite girl who has a thing for him...

Original post by JeanetteandSteve

Aug 14, 2007 11:10 AM

so FH and i took forever to send out our STDs. we were finally getting them together last night and i gave him a list of his friends whose addresses i need him to get.

he just emailed me and told me he asked one of his friends for her other friend's address too. this other friend used to give me dirty looks and attitude when we were all out together and when i asked FH why she doesn't like me, he told me it's b/c she has a crush on him. this girl is a skinny good looking blonde biotch (i'm not calling her a biotch b/c she's good looking, she is seriously a biotch) and apparently when me and FH were broken up for a few months she tried to hit on him and wanted to date him.

and he wants to invite her to my wedding.

W T F ?!?!??!??!?!?!

so not happy right now.

***added more in a post below...

poisonivy918 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:54 AM

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I would say hells no it's your wedding. so let her feel left out. it only matters how you feel, and obviously you won't be happy with her around.

megzzie Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:55 AM

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Absolutely not! You guys hardly even hang out with her - you said she comes occassionally. To me, that doesn't deserve an invite to the wedding. Plus the fact that this girl has a thing for your FH and she's a biotch - no way would I invite her!

JeanetteandSteve Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:56 AM

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thanks for all your responses. i just called him and had a talk w him and told him how i feel and why. he understands and he was a little hesitant, but finally said we won't invite her.

thanks again, it made it easier to talk to him about it knowing that i'm not the only girl who would react like that.

lol...that's so much cuter than writing 'xoxoxo'!!

cbcf Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:59 AM

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Jeanette...I say dont invite her. I think it is silly to have her there because FH doesnt want her to be left out- who cares! haha

Plus it makes you comfortable and your comfort as well as Fh's on that day is the most important- so I say No to that.

However- I am a hypocrit haha. FH hooked up with his best friends younger sister before we started dating. They were like 16 and 18 and drunk(yeah I KNOW ) at the time. But I love his best friends family and got close with them- so they are all invited, including the sister. But I know it was a stupid little hook up and nothing more didnt go further or anything. SO it doesnt bother me. And I think after that her crush on him was done haha

megzzie Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:59 AM

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I'm so happy that your FH understands and she won't be invited!

lilangel369 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 11:59 AM

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Posted by JeanetteandSteve

just so everyone knows, he is not good friends w her.

FH has a girl friend who is one of his best friends, and i love her. her best friend is also one of our good friends. but biotch girl is just another friend of these 2 girls...she comes out sometimes when they all get together. she usually doesn't come when i'm invited out with them.

FH said he wouldn't want her to feel 'left out'.

that's nice.

omg .. who cares if she gets left out!! tell ur FH that you guys aren't going to invite her because you don't want to make her feel bad for seeing u guys so happy together

lilangel369 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 12:01 PM

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Posted by JeanetteandSteve

thanks for all your responses. i just called him and had a talk w him and told him how i feel and why. he understands and he was a little hesitant, but finally said we won't invite her.

thanks again, it made it easier to talk to him about it knowing that i'm not the only girl who would react like that.

lol...that's so much cuter than writing 'xoxoxo'!!

w00t!! glad things worked out

angl2001 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 12:03 PM

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if she acts up about it let me know...im not leaving for my HM till the 26th i will come to your wedding and stand guard all day!!

Autumn08 Posted: Aug 14, 2007 12:09 PM

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I feel as though weddings are just to expensive to invite people you don't care about so that they don't feel left out.

I feel weddings are supposed to be a momentos occassion and both the bride and groom should feel good spending the day with all their guests.

Before you send anything out ask him why he wants to invite this girl. Apparently she's not friends with either of you. Is this someone who you feel you want to share this special day? Obviously not. FH should understand and respect your feelings.

FH and I had a similar situation years ago with a girl trying to break us up. I'm not going to go into details but even though I wasn't engaged at the time I told him I better not see her face when I walk down the aisle. So I completely agree its a situation you should not be in on your wedding day.