Seriously, I'm like the only one who's booking and making appointments to see all these places. He really doesn't care about being involved and really isn't interested in wedding stuff except being there for the day. Does anyone else have a fiance like this? It kind of upsets me.
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I think it's a guy prerequisite to not care about this stuff. He says, 'All I care about is that we have little pigs in a blanket and ice cream cake'
Don't feel badly--I am getting angry too, because I do everything, but most of the guys I know have no interest whatsoever in the details. If you ever saw 'The Wedding Planner', you will see that lots of guys are NIDs--Not Into Details.
It's hard to do everything... but know its a guy thing, not a Your Guy thing.
Danielle
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my fiance cares about what hall we picked(to a certain extent) and what dj/mc we pick, other than that its completely up to me
once i got frustrated and told him and he simply told me just make the appointments and tell him when instead of asking
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I've just been getting kind of sad where it feels like everything is up to me, and I really can't handle the stress. I would appreciate his input. Geez, when he had to go to the reception hall, he was complaining about having to be there. I'm just starting to get frustrated. But I guess some guys are like that.
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I keep getting the, 'Whatever you want, babe,' from my man, so I know how you feel. And then, it will be later on, 'Why'd you pick this, or why'd you pick that?' So maybe make a list and ask him what he really could care less about and what he wants a say in. And then if that doesn't work, plan the most extravagant wedding and hand him the bill. He'll start caring then
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that is so funny i just hung up the phone with Fi and we were talking about him not being intrested in all the little things such as the table number cards and the cake decorating I said do you even care and he said yes I want to know but doesnt need to be involved in picking it out he trusts me and said he thinks I will do a beautiful job. It is a lil fustrating though.
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Don't feel bad. I'm going through the same thing. The only thing he is doing is booking the photograoher and videographer. I wish he was more into it but his eyes just glaze over when I start talking about flowers or favors.
peeweesgirl
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he was involved in the hall the dj,photographer/video (gotta have that dvd lol) but that is it when I talk about flowers he looks at me like i have 6 heads and forget about the price he would have a nervous breakdown.
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My FI is/was the same way. We only have a month to go, and the last two weekends it has all got to me. I have arranged appts to do last meetings with vendors and all I've gotten was 'does that mean I cant play golf' or 'you do know Ireland is playing in the World Cup this weekend'....I got to the point where I yelled at him and I dont yell.
After I yelled at him, he has been a bit better. I told him that all his little comments didnt help and that he needed to stop. I dont know how he expects me to explain to the priest that he couldnt make it to a meeting to discuss our ceremony because he wanted to watch Ireland play soccer. So tomorrow, we are meeting with the priest, going to get his wedding band and finish painting the apartment. I love him, but his constant procrastination is getting on my nerves.
violet
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Nooo, the fiance HAS to come to meet the priest. Am I right? He's not getting out of that one. I know you're supposed to do other things for when you want to get married in church, and I better not hear it from him about it.
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Hmmm ... we decided on the ceremony & reception site together, and photgrapher. I did the florist myself. And that's all we've done so far. One night he actually said, he didn't care about any of the planning but he's excited about the day. Which would be fine except when I make decisions, he puts in his two cents. Either be involved or don't be!! In all honesty though, I can't complain, he's been pretty good. And all I ever do is talk about the wedding plans so I wouldn't be surprised if he was just sick of hearing it. I consciously did not mention the wedding at all when I was home last night. I think it can be overwhleming for guys - they most likely have not been planning their dream wedding since childhood!! Give em a break.
violet
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It just stinks because I'm not much of a wedding person either. I would be so freaking happy if we could just elope, but his mother would be upset if we did that. So now I'm stuck with all the responsibilities!
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I have the opposite proble--Fiance is way too involved--He does everyting--Oh well :)
I am not a planner at all, so it was either he does it or it does not get done (I would prefer to elope!)
JimmysBride
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Oh please. My FH tries to act like all he needs to do is know where and when to be and he doesn't care about anything else.... calls me a 'freak' for planning things so far in advance. But as soon as it comes to actually making a decision -- OMG has he got stuff to say!! LOL
I think it's just normal for the guys to act like they don't really care about the wedding day details just as much as it is normal for us to care so much. Just enjoy the planning yourself and give him little tasks (nothing girlie though -- I think that's what they really have a problem with .... notice how your FH had nothing to do with the florist but was involved with photo & video) that he can get excited about. For example, I told FH, it's his job to book the HM -- and he is totally into it!
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My FI has done nothing except come to the hall w/ me to look at it and to the photographer. I dont really mind doing it but now I am asking for a guest list w/ addresses (the only thing he had to do) and I havent gotten one. MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
wc0143
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Actually, I gave him HM planning too (but it has to be cleared with me!! LOL). I told him at the ouset, he needed to be involved in things that could involve negotiating - he's a salesperson and I am a pushover!!
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Valentinegirl...I asked for a guestlist from him...I got nothing. I asked his mother...it came complete with formal names and addresses. Men are just not into these things. However....when I need something fixed around the house...he's the MAN!
jenny2penny
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he only cares to a certain level. he does not want it to me 'Drawn out' by the time it comes.
violet
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On the other hand, his mother is very involved. But I'm very picky. It was so hard when we were looking at reception halls, and I was like 'this one is okay, but I don't think I want it', and I felt like there was pressure when I kept changing my mind about when the best time to do it was.
Valentinegirl
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I find myself getting HIS guestlist addresses! Too funny. He likes to leave things til the last minute.
