Fiances family from Ireland

Anyone marrying some one from a different country...my fiance is from Ireland. I'm a little worried that his family is going to think we went over board with the wedding, but I'm not doing anything different then any of my friends who has gotten married.

My fiance just can't believe how much wedding cost here and that they are only for 5 hours, I guess in Ireland once you pay for a reception site you get it all night. Though in Europe they do not have open bar, and FI said that is going to floor his brothers..free beer.

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If anything his family will think all Americans are crazy, not just you if that makes you feel any better! LOL. I'd just suggest having your FH fill them in a bit on how weddings work around here to prevent an uncomfortble situation! Have you gone to Ireland with him yet? That would be so wonderful, it supposed to be beautiful and I'm sure he'd make a great tour guide!

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My cousins from California were overwhelmed by our LI wedding.

I agree with Valenia - his family should get a little heads up but I am sure they will have a great time!

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I went to Ireland last July and met most of his brothers and sisters and of course his mom.

Your right I should have him give them the heads-up....

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I'm from Ireland, so you could say my Fh' Fh is from Ireland (JK)

Where in Ireland is he from? Depending on whether the family is from the city or the country, they might have different expectations.

I know someone in Ireland who just paid $17,000 for their wedding - a lot less than ours, but I think everyone expects that now

2 major differences though
1. there is usually no open bar in Ireland, so be prepared for it to perhaps be taken advantage of
2. the meal is usually served from start to finsih without dancing in between, and once the meal is over, the party begins

Not sure if this helps

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Dubliner-

That helps alot. He is from County Kerry, though he has lived in the United States for the past 12 years his entire family is still back in Ireland.

I just don't want them to think.....trying to think of the word. But you know what I mean.

I'm also worried that, though we are not having a very dressy formal wedding (the reception starts at 12:30) will the reception be a little dressier that what they are used to...

What do you think Dubliner should I have FI say something to them?? I don't want them to feel uncofortable...

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My DH's family is from Canada and I went through the same thing. In the end it was fine, you can't worry aboutv them or what they will think, believe me, they will have so much fun and they will be talking about your wedding for a long time to come. In Canada, the weddings are similar to those in Ireland)no open bar, full meal then dancing etc.) My DH's friend's and family walked around amazed all night! Thet thought the wedding was just the cocktail hour! They couldn't believe there was more! The next day they were all raving and sayoing it was the best time ever and the best wedding they'd ever been too!! I'd say that's pretty good reviews...no?
What it comes down to is that you have what you've always dreamed of, don't let the day pass by worrying about others...they'll have a blast!
Good luck!!

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I htink you should say something (or FH should), but it should be to someone in Kerry he trusts to get the word out, without causing any embarassment.

Better to be prepared than not.

I am sure the wedding will be a great day

Are you adding any irish touches?

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He'll get used to things. Americans are known for going overboard. But hey thats why foreigners dont like us
Have fun. I cant wait for my family from Italy to come and see how an American wedding is. They are dying to come.

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Regina-I to am marrying a country boy from Ireland(Tiperrary). (My family is from Dublin) I JUST said to my friend just 3 days ago the same thing you did. (Her husband is also from Tipp) But as she said (& I just read your post to my Fi) and he agrees that who cares what they think. It's your money!! They will love the free drink & music! Don't worry about it!! Enjoy your planning!
-Tracy