FIL/GM/VENT!!!!!!!

nrvbrd Posted: Mar 05, 2003 12:56 PM

FIL/GM/VENT!!!!!!!

Last night I had it out with FBIL who is a GM in my wedding.

To reiterate for the umpteenth time I am having a MOh and the rest GM 5 in total.

Well three of the Gm (2FBIL,& friend of FH) told me last night out of the blue that there is something wrong with me because I am not having women in the wedding and that typically this is how things are done. Mind you this was explained to them from the beginning that this is how things will be.

They said that I am going to make them look stupid by having them stand at the altar by themselves. They said that they do not want to be in the wedding if they do not have girl on the arm.
They then proceeded to call me a dicator because I do not want children at the wedding and because I am not having a dais. According to them I am not following the traditions of the wedding.

I am so mad. I really told them off.

nrvbrd Posted: Mar 05, 2003 12:57 PM

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One more thing we did not have to put his 3 brothers in the wedding We were fine with a MOH, and BM, But naturally we wanted the brothers and this one special friend to stand out.

Sassy Posted: Mar 05, 2003 01:03 PM

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You know what I want to say to them
How dare they say ANYTHING to you at all !!!!!!
If they knew anything about weddings at all, they would know you could do whatever you want, and you don't have to follow ANY century old traditions.
I know you can handle yourself quite well, and tell them all where to go

littlecat Posted: Mar 05, 2003 01:03 PM

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They are just being ridiculous! First of all, the only girl that usually stands at the altar is the MOH. The BM's sit in the 1st row, so they are not up there anyway. At my friend's wedding only the best man stood with the groom, the rest of the guys sat in the 1st row. Anyway the guys don't have to walk down the aisle, they can just be up there with the groom or maybe one of them can walk your mother down the aisle (that would be nice) - If they don't want to be in the wedding then KICK EM OUT! IT IS YOUR DAY, YOU DO IT HOW YOU WANT!!!

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Mar 05, 2003 01:14 PM

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Since I am TRYING to behave for lent I will tell you this....

ITS CALLED A KINGS WEDDING AND IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT DON'T LET THE DOOR HIT YOU ON Y)UR ****...

I hate people who can't mind their NECK!

nrvbrd Posted: Mar 05, 2003 01:17 PM

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Thanks ladies, I am so annoyed.

I was going to have the stand at the altar while the FG, RB and MOH walk down, once that is done, they would sit down.

After the ceremony is over they would walk down the aisle single file. I thought it was simple.

Again we really do not need them, but since they are my FH brothers we wanted them to be a part of the ceremony.

They are so selfish and ungrateful. It is not about them, don't they get it. They should be honored that their brother wants them to be recognized.

Niecey Posted: Mar 05, 2003 01:17 PM

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They are just acting childish.

I am all for T's response!!!!!!!!

nrvbrd Posted: Mar 05, 2003 01:18 PM

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Also, unfortunately my Fil's are not the most exposed people in the world, and they are not open minded, but I though since this is their brother's wedding they would put their selfishness aside.

OctBride03 Posted: Mar 05, 2003 01:21 PM

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WHO THE HE** DO THEY THINK THEY ARE!!! I actually read your post, with my MOUTH wide open, in SHOCK!!! That takes some nerve!!! What did your FH say?? Do NOT even bother with them!!! They're not worth it... hey, if they don't want to be in the wedding, then let them go!! Less stress on you for the day!

So sorry, they are giving you a hard time...

Sassy Posted: Mar 05, 2003 01:21 PM

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Well, if they don't like it too **** bad. They all need to get a LIFE instead of trying to be all UP in yours

nrvbrd Posted: Mar 05, 2003 01:23 PM

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I told FH about it in somewhat little detail, he did not respond. I am waiting for them to tell him how they feel.

To be honest FH is not completely thrilled with the idea of me not having a BP, but he respects my decision and it was smooth sailing until people like his family or his friends that lack any type of social grace tell him how odd it is.

janatlantica Posted: Mar 05, 2003 01:25 PM

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That's just mean and rude! Very insensitive to you, are any of them married? Wonder how 'proper and Perfect' their weddings were if they are! Sorry to hear this! Tell them to butt out! Anything goes at weddings now, it's truly up to the bride and groom! We had no best man or Gm, my husbands daughters stood up for him by his side and that was exactly how we wanted it! Don't worry!

nrvbrd Posted: Mar 05, 2003 01:28 PM

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No, none of them are married.

His three brothers ages 28, 27, 18 not married unemployed, his other groomsmen 27 not even dating anyone.

They have no idea of what goes into a wedding. I should not let them get to me, but the sheer nerve.

If any of them were to get married it would have to be to a woman with money because they are all constantly broke.

janatlantica Posted: Mar 05, 2003 01:30 PM

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LOL nvrbrd! That's why they're probably so crabby! They were hoping to hook up with your girlfriends! Shrug them off! They gots no clue!

ChristineC68 Posted: Mar 05, 2003 01:31 PM

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Wow, I think I heard it all!!! I cannot beleive they had the nerve to say do it our way or we don't want to be in YOUR WEDDING!!!

nrvbrd Posted: Mar 05, 2003 01:47 PM

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Thanks ladies.

I just remembered they had the nerve to say my wedding was going to be a fiasco.

shelzyp Posted: Mar 05, 2003 01:51 PM

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Why do they want to sit at a dias? Most people don't want to sit up there becasue their dates will be by themselves. What does your FH say. If anyone called my FH a dictator I would kick them out of the wedding party so fast. People really have some nerve, if you wanted to have 25 GM and One BM that is your perogrative, and they can have the BP that they want if they ever get married. Traditions were made to be broken!!!!

Cindy Posted: Mar 05, 2003 03:20 PM

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First, I havent been to a wedding in years where they have a dais. That goes to tell you the way they are thinking. There are so many different ways of doing things today when it comes to weddings. It would irritate me that someone who is ignorant on a subject is being critical on the decisions made. Personally I think they are totally out of line. What does you FH say about this. Hang in there!

nrvbrd Posted: Mar 05, 2003 03:24 PM

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Thanks Cindy.

FH is playing the dumb role, much to my chagrin.
He, laong with his brothers/friends have the same mindset.

I have been trying to educate him on how times are changing.

This is a case of people who really are not exposed to a lot of things.

Fh looked at me in horror when I said I would prefer flowers at the top of my cake instead of a cake topper, because that is what he has seen in the past.