FILs have LOST IT! - Update

im soo sorry and i hope they get their heads out of their @ss,

sorry youre all going thru this

but hwat about FSD mother? what does she have to say about all this?

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Posted by grkbarbie

sorry youre all going thru this

but hwat about FSD mother? what does she have to say about all this?

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Ugh, she's a piece of work all on her own...she lives in Georgia and calls sporadically...just another woman who is in and out of her life and only cares about themselves.

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Posted by scatteredx12

You guys are definitely doing the right thing with your FSD... She definitely needs structure and you are doing the mature thing by making this decision, even though it is hard and not everyone is happy. Although I'm not a parent, that is what being a parent is all about - making a decision that benefits your child, not yourself. I hope everything works out for the best...

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agreed. stay strong. FILs might also be just upset at the whole situation and this is the easiest/quickest remedy for getting back at you. i have a feeling they might come around and stick to their original plan.

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Posted by MikesBride2B

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Posted by grkbarbie

sorry youre all going thru this

but hwat about FSD mother? what does she have to say about all this?

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Ugh, she's a piece of work all on her own...she lives in Georgia and calls sporadically...just another woman who is in and out of her life and only cares about themselves.

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dont involve his parents as much as u do. even if its very little. the more u involve them, the more they think they have a say. they should know their place. train them.

yes FSD will be missing out on showing her grandparents around..but guess what? is that worth the problems u will have once you get back to your normal routine? i doubt it. dont ever let them put the guilt trip on u or your fh. ESPPPECIALLLY the ultimatums they give u. thats bshyt!

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Posted by grkbarbie

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Posted by MikesBride2B

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Posted by grkbarbie

sorry youre all going thru this

but hwat about FSD mother? what does she have to say about all this?

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Ugh, she's a piece of work all on her own...she lives in Georgia and calls sporadically...just another woman who is in and out of her life and only cares about themselves.

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dont involve his parents as much as u do. even if its very little. the more u involve them, the more they think they have a say. they should know their place. train them.

yes FSD will be missing out on showing her grandparents around..but guess what? is that worth the problems u will have once you get back to your normal routine? i doubt it. dont ever let them put the guilt trip on u or your fh. ESPPPECIALLLY the ultimatums they give u. thats bshyt!

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No worries, they are seriously uninvolved...we keep them on a 'need to know' basis and there is almost nothing they need to know since everyone is alive and healthy. We told them they could have her and now have made the correct decision based on what is best for FSD. If they don't like it the can go screw...they can't guilt me into ANYTHING, esp not with this sort of behavior. They are messing with the wrong NY bish.

not worried about u.. if anything they are prob afraid of u. but mike is feeeling it hard. just give him reassurance..tell him hes making the right decision. guys need that more than girls.

wow. I'm so sorry.

I have to say I totally think that you're making the right decision with keeping FSD structured. One of my younger brothers is 9 and has a lot of behavioral problems. He needs that structure and my dad and step mom make sure that he goes to camp during the summer to keep the daily routine going.

I'm so sorry to hear that your FILs are putting themselves before FSD and your FH. I just hope they come to their senses and don't let their disappointment ruin things for FH. I'm hoping for you!!!

wow this is aweful!
im sooo sorry this is what ure going thru....

Ugh.

Ilana, you know I think they're douchey-mc-douchefaces.

I hope they answer soon.

You and Mike don't deserve this.

I will think good thoughts for you guys.

<3 <3 <3 I love you!

I am so sorry you and your family are going through this! Nothing hurts more than to watch your FH go through something such as this. I know first hand what you are going through..I'm here if you need me! Hang in there!

sorry u and FH are going thru this....hopefully they will come to their senses and stop being so selfish.

Im sorry.

So sorry how this is affecting all of you

Please don't take this the wrong way at all...
but from a fellow Step Mother...

please get a suit or armor b/c your life is going to have many challenges.

I am totally on your side 100% but no matter how right you are, your IL's are going to blame YOU.
YOU are the scapegoat, of course, b/c God forbid it's their Grandaughter that has behavior problems.

Go get the book Step Monster and seek out support wherever you can.

Please, again, I am not saying this to be mean or to make you think it's futile, I have a great Step-life but it has MANY challenges.

Disney does not help either....

You need to detach and not get involved. Let FH (who you should be happy supports your decisions 100%, some don't)handle his IL's. Or your life will be hell.

I give you a lot of credit to be custodial at such a young age. Seems like you care about FSD so much.

I think you are wonderful!

SO Sorry, this is insane. You are dealing with so much right now!

Sorry for your stress..I think at 7 years old if this is happening now, then it must be brought under control now or else she will be completely out of control as she gets older. Therapy is a good start.. As for the FIL's I would not play into their games.. They were invited, if they come, fine, if not, as sad as it is for FH, it would be worse for him in the long run if something should happen to his daughter. Structure is important, and as for a female role model and someone who can love her, you can step in and fill alot of those roles especially once she is under control.

I worry that she would get into serious trouble later on and ones you won't be able to undo...(drugs, alcohol, running away, pregnancy etc etc..stealing as a kid could lead her to steal from someone outside the family and then there will be bigtime problems..

You are doing the right thing.. Just be there for FSD and get conseling together also...It will help the family...

Wishing you a happy wedding day.

This is totally immature of them, they should know that your first priority is the child and not their feelings, and I can't believe that they are doing this to their only son. I hope everything works out for you all.