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I think I am going to lose it before next November. I really think she is over stepping her boundries on a lot of things. For instance, this morning she e-mailed me telling me she got a list of all the hotels in the area where I am getting married and she is going to start calling them and find out prices. I think she has no right to do this. And then she had the nerve to tell me that I must find reasonable places for people to stay. Well I am not going to go to a local dump, I want it to be nice. She is also telling me how I should do things at my ceremony as far as the band goes, children and many other things. When I bring these issues up to my FI, he says that if I feel she is doing something wrong then I need to talk to her, he thinks she is not doing anything wrong. He says that I really need to include her in this wedding. This is such a probelm for me. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with FMIL or has anyone been in a similar situation??
Wow Marcella, it seems like you have it a lot worse than I do. Does your FI support you at least???
at first he didn't believe me cause I wouldn't tell him, her being his mother and all, and I would explode from keeping it bottled up for so long... then after we moved in together, he finally began seeing it for himself...then one day, we were all out one night and he pulled me over held my hand and her hand and told her to look at me and when she did he said, now look at me, and then she looked at him and he said, 'you see this woman, I love her and I'm going to marry her, and there's nothing you can do or say about it, so live with it'
My MIL has come around alot since we got married. We all spent thanksgiving together and she got me a gift and called the next day to tell me how beautiful things were. Even called for my bday this past weekend. I will never warm up to her for all of the garbage she did to me during my planning but at least the holidays wont be a nightmare for us of who is going where and who isnt going there.
Theresa! LOL funny you should say that! FMIL is Irish and Italian lol and FFIL is 100% Italian..
Wow! marcella- Your story is making me shut up about my own situation. What an unbelievable man your FI is to say that to her and totally stand up for you. What you said made me giggle- about making you stare at pics of pretty ex-girlfriends. Remember that movie Meet the Parents--- DeNiro did the same with his daughter... I would have been like 'Get the F out of here!!!'
OMG, Theresa, you made this Sicilian girl LOL!!!!!!!
Oh my, thought my FMIL was bad. Listen to what she has to say and do the opposite. Thats what I do. As for your Fh he needs to open his mouth.
Oh Marcellabella, thats horrible. Jesus Christmas cant these women realize that their little boys grow up to be men.
Thanks guys.. it's not bad anymore but it's amazing how f'd up it is you know?? although she has changed soo much within the past 6 months or so.. it's like I can't trust her or what she says you know? I guess she's made me paranoid...
We need to have one big FMIL thread,
Luckily for me FI has three older sisters, two of which are married. I am the only giril in my family, so FMIL knows the old idea that when it comes to wedding planning, FMIL should just 'wear beige and be quiet!'. But seriously, she has been great. No pushy suggestions at all. Just pure excitement to come to NY for the wedding.
Wow ddunne23, you're so lucky... unfortunately, like the other girls who have posted I have accumulated so many horror stories of my own from my fmil that I could write a book.
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