FMIL And Table Seating

I need opinions -- i have to decide if this is worth arguing over.

FH cousins - they are around our age so we wnat to sit them right near the dance floor. FMIL thinks the old aunts and uncles need to be at the front tables as she says 'Priority and Respect first'

So then i said that i would talk to FH and let her know what we think and what we would like to do.

She then replies back with 'i will position and seat my family wherver i want to'

WHAT THE F -- why wouldnt you put the old aunts and uncles BEHIND the younger cousins -- it is not like the old aunts and uncles will be dancing.

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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We let our parents do their own seating..and we did our friends...

in regards to the arrangements - we put our family and bridal party in the front - closest to us, and the friends further away from us....

i understand the whole 'respect' thing...and I kind of agree...in the end, no one's going to realize where they're sitting b/c they'll be up and dancing the whole night, or admiring how much of a gorgeous bride you are!

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Will she even see the seating chart? If not then I would just okay her death and then do what you want. The day of the wedding she won't be able to do anything about it anyway.

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Posted by ChrissynRicky

We let our parents do their own seating..and we did our friends...

in regards to the arrangements - we put our family and bridal party in the front - closest to us, and the friends further away from us....

i understand the whole 'respect' thing...and I kind of agree...in the end, no one's going to realize where they're sitting b/c they'll be up and dancing the whole night, or admiring how much of a gorgeous bride you are!

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i agree! it's not worth arguing over. in the grand scheme of things, it won't make that big of a difference. don't sweat the small stuff!

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I'd let them sit wherever... besides, as you say.. if the younger ones are gonna be up and dancing, at least the older ones will be close to watch, to feel more like they're involved, know what I mean?

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Posted by siobhanB

I'd let them sit wherever... besides, as you say.. if the younger ones are gonna be up and dancing, at least the older ones will be close to watch, to feel more like they're involved, know what I mean?

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Exactly what I was thinking!!!

They'll have a good view!

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Posted by siobhanB

I'd let them sit wherever... besides, as you say.. if the younger ones are gonna be up and dancing, at least the older ones will be close to watch, to feel more like they're involved, know what I mean?

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I have to agree. But she could be nicer about it, rather than demanding.

The younger crowd will be up dancing and the older can sit a watch. It is about respect.

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ok, i agree. Thank you for setting me straight.

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woohoo, that was brazen of her. That is like a mom-zilla moment. I would keep her request in mind, but she went about getting her point across in a very inappropriate way! Demanding isn't the best way ever.

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Posted by FutureMrsLoRe

woohoo, that was brazen of her. That is like a mom-zilla moment. I would keep her request in mind, but she went about getting her point across in a very inappropriate way! Demanding isn't the best way ever.

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i totally agree. that was not right. wow ang, her and my FMIL are long lost sisters i think

i would keep what she wants in mind but don't brake your back to make her happy b/c her requests are not asked in the right way.

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Posted by FutureMrsLoRe

woohoo, that was brazen of her. That is like a mom-zilla moment. I would keep her request in mind, but she went about getting her point across in a very inappropriate way! Demanding isn't the best way ever.

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yeah it is beause she is pretty much out of her mind.

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Posted by angnick

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Posted by FutureMrsLoRe

woohoo, that was brazen of her. That is like a mom-zilla moment. I would keep her request in mind, but she went about getting her point across in a very inappropriate way! Demanding isn't the best way ever.

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yeah it is beause she is pretty much out of her mind.

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oh, well that explains it...
i love how you wrote that so matter of fact!!! haha!!
LOL!!!!!!!

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Posted by nov06

Will she even see the seating chart? If not then I would just okay her death and then do what you want. The day of the wedding she won't be able to do anything about it anyway.

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I agree. You and your FH should be taking care of the seating chart and just yes her to death

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wow, that sounds like something my FMIL would say...actually she has. I'd give her half of the 'good' tables and keep the other good ones for you. fair and square. but if all else fails, you can always switch the table numbers so that number 9 for example, that was 'supposed' to be in the front is suddenly in the back. you can blame the hall.

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Actually, not to be opposite...BUT...

I had my MIL and DH do it together without me. I made no objections and didn't even look at it. My mom did the seating cards so she double checked but everything was right.

No, don't get mad, but I did put my own relatives closer to the dance floor because many of them weren't on it and at least they would be close enough to see everything.

Chances are your young friends will be at the bar, or will walk to get a good view...but the older folks won't/can't and you want them to see you dancing with your hubbie...it makes them feel important.

I also think it's just one of those things you should let lie...just let her have the seating she wishes. HTH.

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Hahaha! I've grown quite fond of the 'say ok but do what you want anyway approach.' I know it may be terrible but it really helps reduce stress and saves me time from hopelessly arguing with people that just don't get it.

But.... i would consider placing the older people not too close to speakers (if you're aving a DJ) and up close to the dance floor or sweetheart table so they see you cut the cake, dance, etc. -- In reality, the younger people will be up and dancing, maybe mingling, or just BS'ing at the table.

Good luck!

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keep the old aunts and uncles up front so they can watch and see all that is going on...the younger ones will be on the dance floor ansdfloating around all night

the last thing you want to hear are complaints after your wedding fro,m the elders that they couldnt see or hated their seats...trust me, friends dont pay attention to where they sit, family does.

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Posted by siobhanB

I'd let them sit wherever... besides, as you say.. if the younger ones are gonna be up and dancing, at least the older ones will be close to watch, to feel more like they're involved, know what I mean?

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I agree with this..who cares after all. Don't sweat it.

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My parents are divorced and I knew it would cause alot of drama over who was at table #1, so to avoid any fights and headaches, we just put my mother there Who knew table #'s would cause so much stress!

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ok her and then move it you get final say!! hahahahahahahah

be a bridzilla!