FMIL And Table Seating

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Posted by elisabeth71506

keep the old aunts and uncles up front so they can watch and see all that is going on...the younger ones will be on the dance floor ansdfloating around all night

the last thing you want to hear are complaints after your wedding fro,m the elders that they couldnt see or hated their seats...trust me, friends dont pay attention to where they sit, family does.

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Totally agree...let them be in a position to at least watch everyone and who knows if the younger ones have to walk past them to get to the dance floor, maybe they will get some of them out there too!!

We put all of our older people at one table as FAR away from the music as possible because they would complain- which they did!

BUT....think of it this way....if all the young people will be up and dancing anyway, and the older people sitting towards the front, THEN in all pictures during the reception, you wont see any empty tables!!!!

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Posted by ChrissynRicky

We let our parents do their own seating..and we did our friends...

in regards to the arrangements - we put our family and bridal party in the front - closest to us, and the friends further away from us....

i understand the whole 'respect' thing...and I kind of agree...in the end, no one's going to realize where they're sitting b/c they'll be up and dancing the whole night, or admiring how much of a gorgeous bride you are!

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I agree and did the same. The seating chart was something I was more than happy to pass off the seating chart responsibilities!

i am sorry i agree with your mil - the older people need to be in the front for the simple reason that it will be easier for them to get to their seats. this way they dont have to climb over other people when they have to make trips to the loo ( sorry if tmi but it is true)
your younger friends wont have a problem sliding between chairs to get to the dance floor.
i think it is common respect to sit the older folks where it is most comfortable for them to be. why make it harder for them than it has to be?

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Posted by angnick

I need opinions -- i have to decide if this is worth arguing over.

FH cousins - they are around our age so we wnat to sit them right near the dance floor. FMIL thinks the old aunts and uncles need to be at the front tables as she says 'Priority and Respect first'

So then i said that i would talk to FH and let her know what we think and what we would like to do.

She then replies back with 'i will position and seat my family wherver i want to'

WHAT THE F -- why wouldnt you put the old aunts and uncles BEHIND the younger cousins -- it is not like the old aunts and uncles will be dancing.

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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its your wedding you get the final say and if you want the aunts in the back that is where they are sitting!

Okay, had the same exact problem with my wedding seating. I had them pick the seating and then I chose where the tables were placed on the reception floor. I agonized and cried over it. I gave everyone equal seating close to the dance floor (his family, my family and our friends). My cousins were placed in the back because my sister was sitting with them and wanted to be by the exit b/c she had a newborn.
DO WHAT YOU WANT!!!!!
I wanted some of my friends close to the dance floor my mil thought that was ridiculous that we should have husband's family (who I need to remind him their names) close to the dance floor because they're family.
Just say okay to her and do what you want. She will get over it. It worked for me.

Bottom line, it is your wedding and you should do what you want. Isn't it funny when we first get engaged everyone says do what you want but as it gets closer everyone has an opinion. I say sit them where you want, you MIL will get over it.

Wow I must be really PMSing