FMIL DRAMA HAS COME TO A HEAD...today's update...again

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Posted by Suzanner

I'm like an old lady watching 'her stories' over here. Why am I so swept up in your family drama??? What did your dad say to her?? Who is Gina and what does she have to do with it?? Why is it up to you to fix it?? What did she say to your parents on the phone???

In all seriousness, though, I am so sorry you have to deal with this, and I am especially sorry for FH. I mean, it's one thing when a future in-law is cruel to you, but when it's your own mother, that's just too much. And add to that the stress of his job, and I think he must be having a massively hard time.

You know, if you talk to her, I wonder if you could make that point you just made to us?

'Listen, if you don't come, it's not hurting me AT ALL. However, if you have any concern at all about the feelings of your son, I think you may want to reconsider your threat. If not, don't worry about it- I'll make sure he'll be very happy, and my family will be thrilled to welcome him into his new family with open arms.'

This woman needs some sausage.

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My dad told her listen, I let the things you said about my daughter go, because I gave you the benefit of the doubt, but I won't have you talking about my wife (mom) and she denied it all because shes a pathological liar, and turns everything around on other people. He told her look, the wedding is 30 days away, lets be civil for the kids, my main concern is that they have a happy day, just let it go, and she was crying and off on like 5 other tangents, totally BATTY!!!!! Gina is FBIL's ex girlfriend and the person FMIL blames for the drama that occurred in february, she told me all of the lovely things FMIL said about me, and I haven't had contact with her since (she said I was a controlling b!tch that was forcing her son to marry me, that I'm a spoiled brat who never had to work for anything and had everything handed to me by my rich family) So instead of owning up to what she said at the shower and to me afterwards, she turns it around on this poor girl who hasn't been seen or heard from in like 6 months or so. I'm fixing nothing, honestly, I could care less whether or not she comes to the wedding at this point, she doesn't know how to act like an adult and all she does is lie, nothing is her fault, shes just perfect and caught in the 'unfortunate situation' of having people around her that 'try to sabbotage my relationship with her', totally insane, and as my dad is talking to her she's making less and less sense and it makes me wonder how mentally stable she really is. The fact that she can't even make a phone call without her 28 year old daughter screaming in the background makes me wonder, why do you need an audience? Same reason she's always got to be in everyone's business, she can't keep her mouth shut and neither can FSIL.....I dunno what's going to come of this, but I know one thing, if FH wants to see her at all, he should go alone, I have nothing to say to her, she drew the line in the sand last night, and she will NOT be welcome in the home I make with FH, not after the way she treated me and my family. It's unfortunate because we used to gvet along so well, and then about 3 years ago, everything changed (when FH's dad passed) it's like she was a little kid alone at home with no parents and could do whatever she wanted (he was much older, 81 at the time and she was 56) so something flipped in her head and that was it, she needs professional help, and if she doesn't get it shes going to lose her son that again, she claims to love so much!

i'm so sorry you are dealing with all this before the wedding!!

I totally understand how you feel! we are 9 days away and the past two weeks has been a issue between FH and his uncle and whether or not he is coming to the wedding - long story short FFIL is not coming to the wedding, he wasn't invited and he just in the past month decided that he needed to be there and is causing more drama than necessary.

this biggest thing we have learned from the whole thing - like lauren said, you have to stick together.

also, your wedding day is about you and FH, whoever doesn't want to be there is missing out on an incredible day and they have no one to blame but themselves. GOOD LUCK!

i'm so sorry you are going through this, just wanted hugs

SO sorry to hear about all the drama going on. It's one thing to talk about you.. it's another thing to talk about your family. I'd punch someone if they said anything about my mom.

Honestly... she's scared of losing her son (even though she doesn't realize that by acting the way she is she's pushing him away even more).
It sounds like something snapped in her when your FFIL passed away and she apparently hasn't come to terms with that yet. One man is gone and the other man in her life is 'leaving' her.

I'd yes her to death, speak to her only when completely necessary, and do what you want anyway. If she goes to the wedding and makes a scene that's her problem.. dont' let it become yours. If a child had a tantrun you gotta just leave them alone and let them be... your FMIL is the same way.

Hope everything works out for you.

You have FM

My sister had a similar problem with her MIL when she and BIL got married a few years ago. Her ILs were telling my sister and BIL that my parents said things they didn't, saying I said things I didn't, all sorts of bad stuff.

At the bar at the hotel after the wedding, my dad and BIL's parents had it out and they haven't spoken since. Luckily they've always been pleasant to my sister but I know it's rough when the families are completely separate like that. Some women just go crazy when their sons get married it seems. You're very smart to keep your distance from her and hopefully FH realizes it would be smart to do so too. It sounds unhealthy for him to be caught in their drama. I hope everything works out for you!

i think u said it all....if she dont come,then her loss..she is really something

Jenna

i had no idea you were going through such awful stuff with your FMIL.

You have FM

Well, nothing from FMIL today, things have been quiet thus far, FH is not speaking to her, I asked if he had heard from her, he said no, and he refused to call her, can't say I blame him, still not sure as to whether or not she's coming to the wedding and we don't know if FSIL is going to back out of the bachelorette party, we shall see.....

so FSIL did a nice childish thing and deleted me and FH from her facebook.......she acts like a 4 year old, and it's not even her battle

Insanity... immature insanity!

People change (thankfully) and even sometimes mature.

I wish you all the strength you need to power through this! You and FH will be great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :::HUGS:::

she is unreal this lady

ITA with you if they don't want to come that is there problem - less people to pay for

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Posted by jennaandguy09

so FSIL did a nice childish thing and deleted me and FH from her facebook.......she acts like a 4 year old, and it's not even her battle

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Apparently MOH just called to tell me FBIL (FSIL's husband and the Brother of MOH's BF)to tell him that FSIL, the one that deleted me from FB, is NOT coming to the bachelorette party, COWARD!!!

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Posted by jennaandguy09

so FSIL did a nice childish thing and deleted me and FH from her facebook.......she acts like a 4 year old, and it's not even her battle

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ooooo she deleted you from facebook!! now its serious!

in all seriousness, I am sorry you are going through all this. wedding planning is stressful enough, we all know that, but some people have to make it 100x worse!!!

Just try to remember that all this planning and your day is all about you and FH and NO ONE ELSE!! Try your hardest to block everyone else out and focus on only you and FH.

OMG!! I'm sorry about all this. Like Suzanner... I have been hooked on your family drama since I first started seeing the posts about it. And I too wonder why! HAHA~

But on a serious note.. I'm really sorry things are more positive with this nut job of a woman. She might just needs meds! Lots of them.