FMIL RANT (ohhh, its a doosey)

eternitybride Posted: Dec 21, 2009 01:27 PM

FMIL RANT (ohhh, its a doosey)

So I was just informed by FMIL that someone needs a new invitation sent to them. They were upset that the invite came in the husband's name, not including the wifes, which I can understand, but I was never told he was married.

So I ask why cant she call and say that they are both invited, and given the circumstances with my mother, that accidentally the name was left off?

'well, her husband ripped it up. Send them another.'

OK, am I wrong to be upset, hurt and TICKED off that I am being demanded to send another invitation to a couple that I have been waiting for 3 weeks for their RSVP, to find out 26 days before the wedding 'HE RIPPED IT UP' Who the heck does that.

I am so livid right now. If it had been a month ago, not so big an issue. 3 weeks before, being told that the invitations I HAND MADE was ripped up, and I HAVE to send another invite to them, am I wrong to be going through the roof?

AngnShaun Posted: Dec 21, 2009 01:29 PM

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WOW... thats unbelieveably annoying... and rude... you should have been given the correct information... if FMIL wants them at your wedding, how did she not know they were married... and to rip it up... thats so ridiculous....

AdriandSteve Posted: Dec 21, 2009 01:29 PM

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WOW

I wouldn't send them an invite. Well.. i would eventually.. but i wouldn't want to.

Becca2010 Posted: Dec 21, 2009 01:29 PM

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I'd be really upset too. Why don't you call them and let them know that you can't sit down and hand write another invitation, but that you apologize for the mixup and would love if they could both be a part of your special day.
Eff 'Em!! They ripped up the info, now they lost out!

PS: I'd TOTALLY be screaming at this point!

heathery72 Posted: Dec 21, 2009 01:30 PM

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No you aren't. I'd be pissed too- you handmade them so you put in a lot of time and probably a decent amount of money. And yeah why didn't they let you know when they got the invite? I wouldn't send them another one.

KrisD72310 Posted: Dec 21, 2009 01:37 PM

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I wouldn't send them a new one. How rude can people be? My uncle did that to me for my Sweet 16. I wrote 'and guest' on his invite and he got pissed that I didn't write in his gf's name and sent it back. Frig them!

TheFutureMrsPM Posted: Dec 21, 2009 01:37 PM

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ewww I would be annoyed too! But I think you gotta send it as annoying as it is!

grrulz Posted: Dec 21, 2009 01:39 PM

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fk'em don't send anythingggggggg ugghhh

sugarnspice Posted: Dec 21, 2009 01:42 PM

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sometimes guilt is best... get his number and call yourself

'I wanted to apologize that i labeled your invite incorrectly. Of course you are invited with your wife. Unfortuantely, due to the recent passing of my mother I am emotionally unable to hand do another invite so hopefully you can just use the one you have'

NO way he will say he ripped it...

BTW and more importantly... how are you doing???

miamimerger Posted: Dec 21, 2009 01:44 PM

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yeah, just don't send it. tell FMIL to give him your phone number if he has a problem with it. that's so annoying.

AngnShaun Posted: Dec 21, 2009 01:44 PM

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Posted by APastries2010

sometimes guilt is best... get his number and call yourself

'I wanted to apologize that i labeled your invite incorrectly. Of course you are invited with your wife. Unfortuantely, due to the recent passing of my mother I am emotionally unable to hand do another invite so hopefully you can just use the one you have'

NO way he will say he ripped it...

BTW and more importantly... how are you doing???

but if he did rip it...then he cant use it...

i would just tell him that you dont have another one to send but would be happy to put he and his wife down as a yes... maybe they can email you just as written proof that they are coming?

dfw343 Posted: Dec 21, 2009 01:45 PM

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why are people so damn sensitive? JEEZ!

FutureCap Posted: Dec 21, 2009 01:48 PM

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a normal person would have just repsonded with the correct names on the response card so you would know the correct info for escort/place cards. insane. i would not want to re-send either !

brittndave Posted: Dec 21, 2009 01:48 PM

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ita .. i wouldn't hand make another invite for the asss that ripped his up in the first place. just get their number and call and say,

'hi mr. (or mrs.) smith, this is janna. i just wanted to call and apologize for the miscommunication regarding the addressing of your invitation to our wedding. with the recent passing of my mother and the wedding coming up in just a few short weeks, i'm sure you can imagine the stress and emotion i've been experiencing, and i sincerely hope that you can forgive me and will be able to come to the wedding. unfortunately since i hand made those invitations, i don't have any spare time or the materials left to send you a new correctly addressed one, but i can assure you that your names will not be left off of your escort cards or any future wedding stationary related to our wedding. i would very much appreciate it if you could send back your rsvp, and i look forward to meeting you at the wedding!'

MrsCM Posted: Dec 21, 2009 01:49 PM

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Your FMIL is unbelievable. I'd tell her there are none left.

Rosalind_75 Posted: Dec 21, 2009 02:01 PM

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YOU WILL NOT SEND THEM ANOTHER INVITE!!!!!!!!

who are these people?
do you really want them at your wedding?

AwaitingAugust Posted: Dec 21, 2009 02:01 PM

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That's really irritating ... so sorry you have to deal with it.

I would call and pretend I don't know that he ripped it up. I would say something about needing a final guest count for the RH and i need to know if he and his wife will be attending

he'll just give you a verbal RSVP ... your FMIL can hand-write an invitation and mail it to them if she feels so strongly about it.

allegracristina Posted: Dec 21, 2009 02:02 PM

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UGH!!! I would have to control myself!!! Holyness!!! I would NOT send another invite. Screw these rude people! Who rips up someone's invite because they were offended by something so insignificant! Gross! Rude!

Spring143 Posted: Dec 21, 2009 02:03 PM

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why did she even tell you he ripped it up- like thats kind of mean n hurtful.
we had problems too with invite and ended up having to send another one out to have them wait for the lst day to rsvp no.

MrsCM Posted: Dec 21, 2009 02:04 PM

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Posted by allegracristina

UGH!!! I would have to control myself!!! Holyness!!! I would NOT send another invite. Screw these rude people! Who rips up someone's invite because they were offended by something so insignificant! Gross! Rude!

I honestly don't even look at envelopes when I open the mail I got yelled at on Saturday for accidentally opening a Christmas gift.