fmil wants to wear

Malone130 Posted: Apr 04, 2006 12:50 PM

fmil wants to wear

The same color dress as the bridesmaids. What do you think?

ewickens Posted: Apr 04, 2006 12:51 PM

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I wouldn't. MOB and MOG dresses are supposed to compliment the bridemaid dresses. There are so many colors to choose from - she doesn't need to select the same color your BM are wearing - think of how the pictures will look!

carlsbride Posted: Apr 04, 2006 12:54 PM

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Personally, I wouldn't care, no one is going to mistake her as a BM. I don't think my MIL is in any photos with my BM's.

FallBride05 Posted: Apr 04, 2006 12:54 PM

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personally, I wouldn't care.

ML110 Posted: Apr 04, 2006 12:54 PM

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i would pick a different color.... it should compliment the girls, not match it exactly.... maybe a darker or light shade of the BM color...
MIL wore a dark green dress, and the BMs wore a sage green... they complimented each other, but MIL ddn't look like part of the BP....

tann22 Posted: Apr 04, 2006 12:58 PM

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My MIL wore a similiar color to my BM dresses and it didnt
bother me in the least.

Malone130 Posted: Apr 04, 2006 12:59 PM

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Well the dress is completely different then the bridesmaids dresses and The only pictures she would really be in would be with FSIL.

Mikeysgirl Posted: Apr 04, 2006 12:59 PM

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I think it might look funny in pictures. Maybe she can get something a shade or two darker ro lighter. If the stly of the dress is very different then it might not matter at all.

October Bliss Posted: Apr 04, 2006 01:02 PM

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I wouldn't. Not that FMIL would be mistaken for a BM, but IMHO FMIL & MOB should wear colors that compliment one another and are in a completely different family than BM color.

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Apr 04, 2006 01:07 PM

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IMO, its not worth it to argue about . My FMIL got an ivory dress, and I was upset for about 5 minutes and then got over it. You have to pick your battles, and for me this wasn't one of them.

FallBride05 Posted: Apr 04, 2006 01:10 PM

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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ

IMO, its not worth it to argue about . My FMIL got an ivory dress, and I was upset for about 5 minutes and then got over it. You have to pick your battles, and for me this wasn't one of them.

definately pick your battles. I was so upset for months over my mother's dress that she bought for my wedding. And if you ask me what she wore on my wedding day, I couldn't tell you unless I look at the pictures, it was the furthest thing from my mind that day.

weddingbunny Posted: Apr 04, 2006 01:10 PM

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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ

IMO, its not worth it to argue about . My FMIL got an ivory dress, and I was upset for about 5 minutes and then got over it. You have to pick your battles, and for me this wasn't one of them.

I couldn't agree more. There are always so many other issues that come up, this really just isn't one worth arguing about. Remember, you are now forging your relationship with this woman for the rest of your lives together... is it really worth arguing with her over such small details?

All I would do is maybe just ask that she keep an open mind while dress shopping and try on a few different colors and see what she likes best, but I wouldn't insist that she wear something different, especially if she already found a dress that she likes.

kmkelly Posted: Apr 04, 2006 01:38 PM

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Whatever, my mom's wearing ivory and it's beautiful and I couldn't care less ! (after initial shock of course.)

R&J0806 Posted: Apr 04, 2006 01:57 PM

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ideally, i know the moms are supposed to wear a color to complement the BMs so i can understand your frustration if your FMIL wants the same color as your BMs. Another bride is right, people will know she's not a BM.

And as another wise bride once told me (when my FMIL was looking at a wedding dress!), let her wear what she wants. if she picks something ridiculous (and I'm not saying she necessarily is in this case -- just giving some general advice) she'll be the talk of the party...in a not-so-good way.

Mrs. Powell Posted: Apr 04, 2006 01:57 PM

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Posted by FallBride05

personally, I wouldn't care.

Yup.

SPITSBRIDE Posted: Apr 04, 2006 03:50 PM

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Personally speaking it would bother me a little but is it worth the argument, not at all. I wouldn't even bother throwing a fit about it.

One of my DH's neices wore the same color dress as my BM's, I guess she wanted to feel like she was part of my BP...I didn't mind at all.

It's not worth stressing over.