My FMIL wants to wear black to my wedding! I dont know whether to be bothered by this or not. I don't think she is doing it to look 'sad or dark' in any way but I don't know if her wearing black would send the best message. I am getting married in July, a time of the year when people wear brighter colors. My bridesmaids gowns will be aquamarine and very bright. Also my mom will be wearing a brighter summer color. I'm thinking that a black gown will look very drab in pictures where everyone else is wearing bright colors. What do you think? Am I over reacting? Has anyone elses MIL worn a black gown to their summer wedding?
Any input you have would be appreciated.
AMGBride2008
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Hey, think about it this way... she could be wearing white.
I think the whole black = mourning/sorrow thing is so old school.. I know that if I went to a wedding where either mother was wearing black, I wouldn't think twice about it.
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We got married Memorial Day weekend (not really summer yet) and I had my bridesmaid's in black and my MIL wore black and white. I don't think it's something that should upset you. People don't really look at it as being a sad color anymore. I think it is very elegant.
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I think the whole black = mourning/sorrow thing is so old school.. I know that if I went to a wedding where either mother was wearing black, I wouldn't think twice about it.
i agree with that!!
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I don't know what my FMIL is going to wear to my wedding, but if she chooses black, I won't mind. I want her to wear something she feels great in and I don't think it'll look bad in pictures. But. my wedding will be in November, so I guess its a different story.
I don't think you should read into this too much.
skinny237
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Don't sweat it. Mine is wearing navy blue and it's the same dress she wore to her daughter's wedding 5 years ago. Oh well! Could be worse things to worry u! ;)
Kara and Todd
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Posted by JillBride08
Am I over reacting?
Yes.
Seriously, she's a grown woman. Let her wear whatever she wants. It's no reflection on you.
Getting upset over this is FAR from productive. Don't cause drama over this - it is NOT worth it. Trust me.
bonch20
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my mom wore black to my brother's wedding and i'm sure she'll wear it to mine too. i don't think it looked drab...i thought she looked great!
Nirvin
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I don't think its something worth getting upset about. I'm sure she doesn't have malicious intentions.
evnme
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we had a late spring wedding and everyone wore black- my bms, my mom and my MIL. it was my choice to have everyone wear those colors.
black works anytime of year or any occasion--it's not only a color of mourning.
Kara and Todd
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Trust me, many of your guests - even in July - are going to be wearing black.
August didn't stop my guests from wearing it... I think... I honestly had better things to pay attention to that day.
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My mom wore black and she looked stunning.
npwedding
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I think it will look elegant - she's probably most comfortable in that color.
MrsQ-in2007
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I really wouldn't worry about it. My stepmother wore black and I thought she looked great - never once did I think it was an inappropriate color.
As for it being a summer wedding, I think wearing black to weddings is becoming more the norm than the exception, so for your FMIL to wear it won't be an issue.
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I went to a wedding in August, and i was honestly the only female NOT wearing black. it was a day time wedding.
it was the strangest thing. i felt so out of place wearing colors.
don't worry about her wearing black. apprently it's 100% acceptable these days.
my FMIL will probably wear black too. It's something she's comfortable in so i don't care.
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My mom is wearing black, most of the bp is wearing black and honeslty never though of it as something bad. I think its a safe color to wear even in the summer.
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I personally dont think its a big deal if she wanted to wear black to the wedding....just my opinion.
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Posted by AMGBride2008
Hey, think about it this way... she could be wearing white.
I think the whole black = mourning/sorrow thing is so old school.. I know that if I went to a wedding where either mother was wearing black, I wouldn't think twice about it.
I agree - at least it's not white!
DanNette
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I've been to a few weddings recently where the mob and mog have worn black dresses.
missliss
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I wear black to every wedding I go to, no matter what time of year. I'm not a color dress girl.
Not wearing black during a certain time of year is a very outdated 'rule'. There are no rules and as long as she's not wearing white, your FMIL or even your mom can wear black. It will not be looked upon as sad or morbid or anything. Black is elegant.
