Hey girls... for those of you who took this test for pre cana, my FH and I were wondering what questions they ask. 150 questions is a lot!!! what do they ask you?! Thanks ladies... just curious
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They are just what you think about life, work, family, friends ... and then they compare answers and you have to talk about it when you get the results back. There are no rightt or wrong answers. It's just time consuming.
Ex. Have you ever had feeling towards the same sex.
It's important to go to church every sunday.
You can only agree, disagree or say not sure
FutureMrsBeck
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Thanks Any example questions people could give me would be awesome!!
Mrs_C_in_'07
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'Your partner wants to try a new sexual position so you agree to do it'
Agree Disagree I don't know
I nearly fell off the chair when I read that question on my FOCUS test!!! What does that have to do with the church!?!?
FutureMrsBeck
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Posted by Mrs_C_in_'07
'Your partner wants to try a new sexual position so you agree to do it'
Agree Disagree I don't know
I nearly fell off the chair when I read that question on my FOCUS test!!! What does that have to do with the church!?!?
OMG!! I know that the point of this test is to get people to talk about stuff they normally woudn't.... but seriously!! lolol wow thanks cuz i'm not mature enough not to pee myself while taking the test when i see those questions!
Keep em comming girls please these are so helpful!! haha
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To be honest, yes it is called a 'test' but this isn't something you need to study for or have the answers to everything. There is a misperception with this test because even when you answer them, they are still not the 'correct answer' they are looking for....There were questions my FH and I answered that we felt were right for the both of us and our relationship, but we didn't give the 'suggested answer' so it was marked as something we needed to talk about....I believe there is 10-15 topics that is covers, about sex, religious background, families, financal issues, Work w/ children-- Just things to bring to your attention that you might not have ever thought about...or things to consider before getting married....FH and I have been together just shy of 7 years and we talked about all of that stuff, So it pretty easy for us...All I will say is answer the questions because you feel it is right for you and only you...don't just answer a question because you think that is the suggested answer your FH will give. You will get alot more out of it. Best of luck to you and it is nothing that you should worry about I promise. If you are true to yourself, then you will be fine!!!! Let us know how you feel about it after!
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Posted by Mrs_C_in_'07
'Your partner wants to try a new sexual position so you agree to do it'
Agree Disagree I don't know
I nearly fell off the chair when I read that question on my FOCUS test!!! What does that have to do with the church!?!?
hehe...I am so with ya on that one!!!!
MattandTricia07
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any other info would be great..we're having our's in April!!!
GettinHutched
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Definitely not something to stress over. I actually answered some questions faceitiously just to get us to talk about things! I answered uncertain to a bunch of things just to get the ball rollling....
Once you take the test, then you meet with a couple to talk over the results. I was nervous about that- but it was sooo relaxed and easy! It's confidential, and they just want to help you go over some things. It's really not a big deal at all. Take it for what it is- a chance to look at some issues that you and your FH might not have covered. It's definitely not a test in the sense of the word where you pass or fail...it's just to see what issues you need to work on. It's a good thing!
issues: how financial issues will be handled kids- how many, when to have them, how to raise them household/parental responsibilities jobs (if someone were to relocate, stuff like that) religion your respective families and how they affect your relationship and yes, sex
FutureMrsBeck
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thanks ladies
LorinElizabeth
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I've been a little worried about this too since I have to call the priest soon. I found this link online if anyone's interested. It has more information on the test as well as 10 sample questions: http://www.foccusinc.com/sections/foccus_content.asp?PKID=9
KandD07
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The test is soooo nothing to stress over!
malagian
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Be sure to read the question and make sure you understand them. cause me and fiancee didnt read some of them and understand them and our answers were hysterical. The couple doing pre cana thougth we were nuts, but were laughing at us.
They have a few about having a family so discuss that cause we didnt agree on those since we really never talked to much about it. We know we want kids but didnt discuss how we would bring them up.
FutureMrsBeck
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when u guys say 'how to bring up the kids'... u just mean religion right? Or are they asking stuff like 'little johnny is gay, whatdo u do' lol
AMANDA2378
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Posted by FutureMrsBeck
Thanks Any example questions people could give me would be awesome!!
its all agree, disagree or uncertain.
you just color in the one you want and then they put through a machine and kind of compare you & fh.
We just did it this last sunday. It wasnt so bad, I was a little nervous, but all good.
the questions are just about you, family, etc...
dont worry!!!!!
AMANDA2378
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they just want to see if you and fh communicate about things. to see if you agree on certain things, and if not if you come up with a compromise or etc....
Licee15
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Posted by FutureMrsBeck
when u guys say 'how to bring up the kids'... u just mean religion right? Or are they asking stuff like 'little johnny is gay, whatdo u do' lol
Nothing very detailed like that.
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This is so helpful!
I'm going for Pre-Cana 3/3 and I don't know what to expect.
AMANDA2378
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i.e agree , disagree, uncertain
1. my fh has a problem with drugs, mariju, alcohol) 2. I feel frighten by fh when he gets mad
3. there are things about fh i hope will change after marriage
4. we will share in all financial responsibilities. 5. i am comfortable in front of my fh naked
these are just afew types of things they ask, but its all private, they tell you to sit away from fh, and then they go over the questions, answers with only the two of you and they only pick out maybe 2-3 questions to discuss, unless you guys i guess are a low percentage.???
hope that helps!!!! BUt it doesnt mean anything anyway........its not pass or fail, its just to help you guys see where you stand asa couple and the areas you should discuss together.
