For all my REAL 09ers

Yeah I totally missed the drama - but got a good gist from this thread. It s u c k s that someone has to ruin the mood by being ignorant and rude but I guess that's just life... we're never going to always meet nice genuine people (even on a wedding forum). And the good thing is that the 09ers seem like a very close group, very educated and very nice women who know how to handle ignorance like that... so more power to us and think about the real reason all of us are here... the wedding babY!!

Listen, I commend a woman who speaks her opinion and beliefs

No offense taken whatsoever

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Posted by WinterGrl09

The thread was pretty offensive. Basically i felt that she was saying that since i live with FH then there's no point in me getting married because we're technically not 'starting' a life together.

Why start a thread that will make people mad? I would defintely not criticize anyone for not living with or living with their FH. It's in poor taste to do so.

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DITTO.

I read the other post but didn't chime in because I didn't want to contribute to the drama BUT as offensive as it was (I live with FH) I will say that her words probably got misconstrued and everything got blown out of proportion.

Whether you live with FH or not--we alls hould be concentrating on the happiest days of our lives and not judging others!!

TROO DAT.

NO more cat fights on the boards please.

Nothing else matters except you and your future husband and the life you will both share.

by the way, I hate being at work on a monday.

i dont know what happened and i didnt read the thread but it sounds ridiculous to me.....my FH and I have been living together for 3 years - we have a gorgeous apartment with lots of nice things that we both worked hard for and we are both proud of everything we have and accomplished together. living with my FH has been a wonderful experience - we have learned so much about eachother and it gives a good prediction of what your life together will be like down the road - FH has always said that after living together for a year he was sure that i was the girl he wanted to marry - and i felt the same way about him - i dont want to say that our relationship is better because we live together but we do share something special with eachother because of it..... living together is something different - even if you see your FH every single day its still not the same as when you are living together because when you live together every aspect of your life is combined with his - its a joint effort every single day and things literally become 'yours' and its like you become a team. i feel like you also get to see the real person - that persons habits, their way of living, if they are a neat freak, a slob, moody, high maintenance vs low maintenance, you see them high and you see them low, i could go on and on....but anyway i think that its a wonderful preparation for marriage and i dont think there is anything wrong with it. if given the choice (and we still do have a choice to go back home with our parents or get seperate apartments) we would do it all over again. im happy and i love my life and couldnt care less what anyone else has to say or think and to be honest if they had anything negative to say its probably because they are jealous and wish they could be in a situation as wonderful as mine

i think every couple is diff and its their choice if they want to live together before marriage or not - i dont think either way is right or wrong because every couple is different - for us living together was the way to go and its been a great experience - other couples may choose to wait and i am sure their decision makes them happy as well...

ok, i should start working now ive been rambling long enough!

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Posted by missjones2007

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Posted by WinterGrl09

The thread was pretty offensive. Basically i felt that she was saying that since i live with FH then there's no point in me getting married because we're technically not 'starting' a life together.

Why start a thread that will make people mad? I would defintely not criticize anyone for not living with or living with their FH. It's in poor taste to do so.

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I definitely agree with u

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i so agree with u

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i dont know what happened and i didnt read the thread but it sounds ridiculous to me.....my FH and I have been living together for 3 years - we have a gorgeous apartment with lots of nice things that we both worked hard for and we are both proud of everything we have and accomplished together. living with my FH has been a wonderful experience - we have learned so much about eachother and it gives a good prediction of what your life together will be like down the road - FH has always said that after living together for a year he was sure that i was the girl he wanted to marry - and i felt the same way about him - i dont want to say that our relationship is better because we live together but we do share something special with eachother because of it..... living together is something different - even if you see your FH every single day its still not the same as when you are living together because when you live together every aspect of your life is combined with his - its a joint effort every single day and things literally become 'yours' and its like you become a team. i feel like you also get to see the real person - that persons habits, their way of living, if they are a neat freak, a slob, moody, high maintenance vs low maintenance, you see them high and you see them low, i could go on and on....but anyway i think that its a wonderful preparation for marriage and i dont think there is anything wrong with it. if given the choice (and we still do have a choice to go back home with our parents or get seperate apartments) we would do it all over again. im happy and i love my life and couldnt care less what anyone else has to say or think and to be honest if they had anything negative to say its probably because they are jealous and wish they could be in a situation as wonderful as mine

i think every couple is diff and its their choice if they want to live together before marriage or not - i dont think either way is right or wrong because every couple is different - for us living together was the way to go and its been a great experience - other couples may choose to wait and i am sure their decision makes them happy as well...

ok, i should start working now ive been rambling long enough!

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so true.... I couldnt have said it better

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i dont know what happened and i didnt read the thread but it sounds ridiculous to me.....my FH and I have been living together for 3 years - we have a gorgeous apartment with lots of nice things that we both worked hard for and we are both proud of everything we have and accomplished together. living with my FH has been a wonderful experience - we have learned so much about eachother and it gives a good prediction of what your life together will be like down the road - FH has always said that after living together for a year he was sure that i was the girl he wanted to marry - and i felt the same way about him - i dont want to say that our relationship is better because we live together but we do share something special with eachother because of it..... living together is something different - even if you see your FH every single day its still not the same as when you are living together because when you live together every aspect of your life is combined with his - its a joint effort every single day and things literally become 'yours' and its like you become a team. i feel like you also get to see the real person - that persons habits, their way of living, if they are a neat freak, a slob, moody, high maintenance vs low maintenance, you see them high and you see them low, i could go on and on....but anyway i think that its a wonderful preparation for marriage and i dont think there is anything wrong with it. if given the choice (and we still do have a choice to go back home with our parents or get seperate apartments) we would do it all over again. im happy and i love my life and couldnt care less what anyone else has to say or think and to be honest if they had anything negative to say its probably because they are jealous and wish they could be in a situation as wonderful as mine

i think every couple is diff and its their choice if they want to live together before marriage or not - i dont think either way is right or wrong because every couple is different - for us living together was the way to go and its been a great experience - other couples may choose to wait and i am sure their decision makes them happy as well...

ok, i should start working now ive been rambling long enough!

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well i definitely missed SOMETHING but i have to back this statement up 100%!