Re: For all the 9/11/04 brides.....any change of heart?
colleen - my heart & prayers go out to you & FH, and will remain that way for a long time.
I think if someone can celebrate on that day, it is just, however, just as someone else stated if it is just to get a great deal on a hall, then I feel maybe it is in vain. The reality is, even if you're ready to introduce a good memory that day, it may be difficult for your guests to do so, & it will be obvious to everyone at your wedding if there are some grieving - including you & FH.
I personally would be able to attend a wedding that day, but could not ask 250 people to put aside their very personal and complex feelings about that day to try & celebrate with me & FH.
I was not there, but I did witness it from the window of my office. Although I have many loved ones that did survive, I have known many that did not. Furthermore, I was in a position of intermediate power at the time and was faced with the task of maintaining order on one of the largest college campuses in NY - I was not permitted to publicly grieve or panic or even be angry; I guess the point I am trying to make has already been stated so eloquently by so many - it is a very personal decision about a very important day in your life, but because the day itself means so many different things to so many around you it is probably the one and only time that I will advocate thinking of your guests feelings about your decision.
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I think if someone can celebrate on that day, it is just, however, just as someone else stated if it is just to get a great deal on a hall, then I feel maybe it is in vain. The reality is, even if you're ready to introduce a good memory that day, it may be difficult for your guests to do so, & it will be obvious to everyone at your wedding if there are some grieving - including you & FH.
I personally would be able to attend a wedding that day, but could not ask 250 people to put aside their very personal and complex feelings about that day to try & celebrate with me & FH.
I was not there, but I did witness it from the window of my office. Although I have many loved ones that did survive, I have known many that did not. Furthermore, I was in a position of intermediate power at the time and was faced with the task of maintaining order on one of the largest college campuses in NY - I was not permitted to publicly grieve or panic or even be angry; I guess the point I am trying to make has already been stated so eloquently by so many - it is a very personal decision about a very important day in your life, but because the day itself means so many different things to so many around you it is probably the one and only time that I will advocate thinking of your guests feelings about your decision.
