For those of you that have been showered....advice needed!
FutureLW
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How did you handle the guest list? Did you have no say in it?
How do I set some guidelines (nicely) on not having people invited that I do not know? I didn't want it to be some huge hoop-la thing - I HATE having attention on me. I just wanted the women I am closest to and important in my life there. Now there is a lot of people on the list that I do not even know!! I dont want to be uncomfortable at my own shower!
AngnShaun
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i emailed my mom and sister with the guest list
SoontobeMrs.Brown
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I gave my MOH a list .. Thats the only thing I controlled.
DaniandKen2010
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I put the guestlist together and told my girls who are throwing the shower for me that these are the people that have to be invited. If you dont know them remember you also have to invite them to your wedding so I would cut those people unless you are 110% positive that they will be invited to your wedding.
FutureLW
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What about your FMIL list? Did you control that too?
Soon2bMrsH
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my mom asked for a guest list, and i gave her the list, and she abided by it. i didnt want a lot of people either. just family and friends.
marinai7
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I just gave my MOH's the guest list.
asg450
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I gave my MOH's the guest list.
DaniandKen2010
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Yes my mentality and everyone else I know is that if you the bride does not know the people then they are not invited. I have some of FH's family on my list but only those I know. That would not only be awkward for you but them as well to come to your shower. Showers arent places to meet new people thats what the wedding is for.
futureMrsJSL
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I emailed my MOH's the guest list and told them anytime between June and August would be cool.
pipermaru
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i gave my mom a guest list..... i tried to have more say and i wish my mom/moh had listened to me more bc there were some specific things i wanted that i didn't have and some things i seriously could have done without
AngnShaun
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What about your FMIL list? Did you control that too?
FMIL wasnt invited to my shower until the day before...
i know everyone on his side so i had no problem making the list
FutureLW
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Yes my mentality and everyone else I know is that if you the bride does not know the people then they are not invited. I have some of FH's family on my list but only those I know. That would not only be awkward for you but them as well to come to your shower. Showers arent places to meet new people thats what the wedding is for.
ITA with you! I just think I'm in a situation now that I dont know how to deal with it and I dont want to make my MOH feel awkward (she's handling the list...just asking my approval)
FutureCap
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i made the guestlist for the wedding and asked FMIL for her wedding list. Then from there marked off who should be invited to the shower, and asked her to let us know who are her list should be invited. My mom added some people along the way... but she was going the shower planning so that didn't matter!
MayBride2010
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ya know....everything was a surprise to me and no one even asked me for a guestlist...hmmm - but its all good because everyone was invited who I wanted invited
JayBee216
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I'm giving my mom the guest list and she spoke to FMIL about who she wanted to invite.
soontobecruz
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I had no say... My mom made the list off her best judgement. There was 1 friend I would have liked invited that she didn't invite. She said it was bc she was from out of state and prob wouldn't have come. She may have been right but I still felt a little bad
Jna2010
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i put together our list, kinda double checked it against the wedding list, but i pretty much know all of fh's family, just had to double check on some guests with both moms, then i handed it over to my mom
Diana508
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What about your FMIL list? Did you control that too?
I didn't but she didn't add THAT many. I would've wanted it smaller but I also wanted to let her have who she felt was necessary there. She's a doll to me.
JoanneAndJustin
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I gave my mom the list. It was 60 people. She said 'Oh, that's not going to work' so I cut it to a reasonable amount, and she only invited people I had on the list... She asked if one or two others could be invited, but no one was a stranger.
