For those of you whom are fatherless...

KittyGags Posted: Sep 19, 2008 09:39 PM

For those of you whom are fatherless...

I lost my dad a little less than a year ago and now I find myself being asked, 'who is walking you down the aisle?' (nice right?)

Anyway, I'm thinking mom, but who is giving you away?

AmyAmy Posted: Sep 19, 2008 09:41 PM

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Sorry to hear that. I lost my father as well, and my brother will be walking me down the aisle. I have been to weddings where a mom has or cousin has walked the bride down also. You can choose whoever you feel comfortable with . xoxo

Gracie821 Posted: Sep 19, 2008 09:45 PM

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I lost my father as well, so I know what an emotional time this is, my mother and brother are walking me down the aisle and im doing a mother daughter dance.

angels914 Posted: Sep 19, 2008 09:49 PM

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For both of us this is our second marriage ... and we have kids ... so my 8 yr old son will be walking me down the aisle .... It will be very special for me that he will give me away !!!!!

blondietam Posted: Sep 19, 2008 10:22 PM

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i will be walking down the aisle alone.

Celeste617 Posted: Sep 19, 2008 10:33 PM

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My mom will be walking me down

Just Cindy Posted: Sep 19, 2008 10:43 PM

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I will be walking by myself.

MsPotterhead Posted: Sep 19, 2008 10:52 PM

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I am so sorry for your loss. And I know how insensitive people can be. Usually they don't mean to be, but it will happen again and again. I lost my father exactly 11 months before my wedding. While nobody's experience is the same, I do know the unusal pain of planning a wedding while grieving. If you ever need someone to talk to, send me a FM.

To answer your question, my mom walked me down the aisle. In Jewish weddings, typically both parents walk the bride down. I was planning on having both my parents walk me down, so having my mom was a no-brainer.

My brother wanted to walk down with me and my mom, but I didn't want that -- he isn't my dad, as much as I love him. He was a GM.

twright5ny Posted: Sep 19, 2008 11:00 PM

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My mom. She is also dancing with me

you will go through a lot of emotions during this time (I lost my dad 4 years ago so I know)....just try to do what you feel you can to remember he is with you that day. Honor him as much as you want

dazey Posted: Sep 19, 2008 11:01 PM

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Posted by angels914

For both of us this is our second marriage ... and we have kids ... so my 8 yr old son will be walking me down the aisle .... It will be very special for me that he will give me away !!!!!

...
that's really sweet!!!

MrsL2010 Posted: Sep 19, 2008 11:10 PM

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I'm having my mom walk me down the aisle. I can't decide if I want my brother to walk with us. My FH will not do a mother/son dance because he doesn't want me to feel bad.

KittyGags Posted: Sep 19, 2008 11:34 PM

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I don't really want to do any of those traditions, mother/son dance, and obvi I dont have my side so...but any of them, bo-k toss, garter, etc.

My problem with the sibling thing is, I have 2 brothers, and I can't really pick between them (even though i'm much closer with one than the other). That will just cause drama, and then the thought of walking by myself terrifies me!

So I guess mom it is...

But it is nice to know that there are others in my shoes, as unfortunate as they are...

I also was considering an uncle, who is kind of like our family figurehead, but I just don't feel close to him, so i'm weird about that too.

SFAR89 Posted: Sep 19, 2008 11:35 PM

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My mom has been divorced from my dad for about 15 years now. It was tough growing up with him, he wasn't the kind of dad you expect to have. But, I am sorry for your loss.

I just tell people my mom will wak me down and I am proud of it. She has worked so hard and struggled to keep us from dropping into the 'red' and being out on the streets. She deserves that honor.

dazies1011 Posted: Sep 19, 2008 11:51 PM

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My mom said she didnt want to but, now she is thinking about it. But as of right now my son will be

marriedinmontauk Posted: Sep 20, 2008 01:17 AM

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I think walking down the aisle on your own is really cool.....that way nobody seems like a dad replacement.
I still remember when Giualiani walked the bride down the aisle after 9/11.

Djenki2 Posted: Sep 20, 2008 03:41 AM

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Sorry to hear that. My father passed away as well. My mother's 2 brothers are going to give me away. I don't know how we're all going to fit down the aisle with my ballgown but we'll make it work!

tammi2308 Posted: Sep 20, 2008 06:56 AM

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I'm still not sure. I have no prob with walking by myself. But my mom also said she would have no prob walking me down.

Kricket212 Posted: Sep 20, 2008 07:11 AM

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My father is deceased it was 5yrs Sept 9.

My sister had a child at 18 yrs old...the son my Dad never had.
He is now 19 & I know my Dad would want nobody else. I also don't think I would be able to walk down alone......so he will be my escort.

Ray8183 Posted: Sep 20, 2008 07:32 AM

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I'm walking 1/2 and my FH is meeting me and we will walk the rest together.

beram63 Posted: Sep 20, 2008 07:51 AM

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my mom

i had also considered my brother, but he's in the bridal party. my uncle was another option, but i just decided that it should really be my mom. she raised me, so she has the right to give me away to my husband.