for your shower

Soon2BeMrs2006 Posted: Oct 03, 2006 12:22 PM

for your shower

did oyu make a list of who you wanted there and then gave it to your BP or om to handle your surprise shower. or did someone else handle this?

I only ask because I was finishing up finalizing my list and need spelling of two names and asked FSIL(who is a BM) and she went into shock asknig me why I'm doing a list and know who is coming.

nbc188 Posted: Oct 03, 2006 12:28 PM

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Yes, I gave my BMs a list of who I would like invited. Getting it from the bride directly is the best way I think, after all, we know who we want/need invited. I mean, does your FSIL think you don't know you're going to have a shower?

Soon2BeMrs2006 Posted: Oct 03, 2006 12:30 PM

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Posted by nbc188

Yes, I gave my BMs a list of who I would like invited. Getting it from the bride directly is the best way I think, after all, we know who we want/need invited. I mean, does your FSIL think you don't know you're going to have a shower?

She was like 'I'm old fashioned' I'm like but how would my MOH know who to invite then???

NovemberBride06 Posted: Oct 03, 2006 12:35 PM

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I gave my MOH a list for the shower. But she also requested it. I think it's a good idea b/c there were a lot of women invited to the wedding that I did not invite to the shower. My MOH couldn't have possibly known who to invite. I did ask her to consult my mom and FMIL to double check the list though. They added a few of their friends.

causeimb Posted: Oct 03, 2006 12:35 PM

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I gave a list

cindyandkevin Posted: Oct 03, 2006 12:36 PM

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I gave my mom a list of all the ladies that needed to be invited. She already knew about the ones from her/my side, but she didn't have any clue about the women on DH's side.

OrangeGrl Posted: Oct 03, 2006 12:37 PM

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Nah hopefully my mom and my bridesmaids will know who to invite, I want to be TOTALLY surprised!!

MJDoc12 Posted: Oct 03, 2006 12:52 PM

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not only did i give a list.....i created a microsoft excel spreadsheet with names, addresses, e-mail address, a/b list designations, and a column for whether they RSPV'd yes or no for my MOH!

my MOH doesn't know all my friends that i would want there, and therefore i think it's very typical to have a list. i'm not sure why your MOH was upset---i mean what happens if she invites ppl you would NEVEr want there or forgets others?

DanaRenee Posted: Oct 03, 2006 12:55 PM

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I gave my MOH the list....my stepmother made comments about how I wasn't supposed to know whos coming...but if it were left in her hands she wouldn't know who the heck to invite so I don't know why she'd be so shocked. I was annoyed!

ant n tilde Posted: Oct 03, 2006 12:56 PM

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my mom asked me to make a list and give it to her NOW so she doesnt have to ask like right before the shower . . . this way i wont know when it is coming up

EJSD2006 Posted: Oct 03, 2006 12:57 PM

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my MOH was my lil sister and she knows how neurotic i am about these kind of things so she wasnt surprised when i 'casually' left a list of people i wanted at my shower on her desk. she just giggled and rolled her eyes...

diluvchu Posted: Oct 03, 2006 12:58 PM

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Posted by MissMaster13

Nah hopefully my mom and my bridesmaids will know who to invite, I want to be TOTALLY surprised!!

I didn't give a list and I was surprised with who was there. It's pretty easy to guess who should be there and who should't. I just told her that I wanted a small shower, that was my only request.

Soon2BeMrs2006 Posted: Oct 03, 2006 12:58 PM

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Posted by MJDoc12

not only did i give a list.....i created a microsoft excel spreadsheet with names, addresses, e-mail address, a/b list designations, and a column for whether they RSPV'd yes or no for my MOH!

my MOH doesn't know all my friends that i would want there, and therefore i think it's very typical to have a list. i'm not sure why your MOH was upset---i mean what happens if she invites ppl you would NEVEr want there or forgets others?

thats the thing my MOH asked me for a list, its FSIL(BM) who was like why do you know whos invited and i'm like um i give a list to my MOH and she was like you're not supposed to. I'm like how would my MOH know woh to invite then she doesnt know everyone. She's like well she should ask the groom and I'm like FH doesnt know all my coworkers he'd have to ask me regardless then so whats the difference.

NY031978 Posted: Oct 03, 2006 01:00 PM

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i made a list w. my MOH! I told her who i felt should be there and then told her heres the ppl that i wasnt 100% on but for her to talk w. my sister or mom about it. The rest was up to them!

giggles62 Posted: Oct 03, 2006 01:15 PM

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I probably will give a list. They really dont know all of my friends.

Tiggeruth Posted: Oct 03, 2006 01:26 PM

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I gave a lits of the basic people and then people were added by my mom and FMIL.

diamondgrlie Posted: Oct 03, 2006 01:30 PM

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Well ordinarily, its the women who are invited to the wedding but I put in special requests for the guests of men that I was friends with.

Hallowedding Posted: Oct 03, 2006 02:43 PM

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I *highly* suggest that you make a list.

My FMIL sent out the invitations for my shower and she left out a great deal of my friends. I wish I had given her a list so that she could have also invited them.

XFINALLYX Posted: Oct 03, 2006 02:50 PM

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including me! i never got an invite and im your damn neice/sister

XFINALLYX Posted: Oct 03, 2006 02:51 PM

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oh and in this wedding planner book i have theres a thing where you write down the people you want at your wedding and you give the list to your moh. so i guess that is etiquette