Freaking out.... Need a shoulder

I lost my job today. I dont know what to do we are already in such a financial mess that we have deceided to put the wedding off yet again another year. DH got demoted so to speak until further notice about a month ago(they say that it will only be one more month but who knows)and now this. I came home and my son was freaking out figuring I got laid off so I lied to him and my daughter and told them that I was told to take my 2 week vacation early because they are having scheduling problems and this would be a good time to do it. I dont want to stress them anymore then they already are. I called my mom to talk and she basically blew me off with an oh well you'll think of something I have to go. Meanwhile she constantly calls me and goes on and on about me calling my sister and being there for her for every little thing that goes on in her life. I havent told DH yet because he's now working nights and there's no way for me to get a hold of him not that he needs to hear it at work. Monday we get a letter from childsupport that they are raising his support order for a COLA, which is aggravating because we havent been able to see my step daughter in almost 3 years because her mother keeps disappearing with her and not sending us forwarding info. we seem to find out where they are when she wants to drag DH into court for more money. Dont get me wrong there is nothing he or we wouldnt do for her but there's just so much more involved with his ex-girlfriend. Then I find out that my financial aid for school was dropped and I have to pay for nursing school. However, I also found out that I wasnt excepted into the program and I cant seem to find anyone else who will take me. Im so at my witts end. I have bill collectors calling because my bills are late because of DH's work issues and he's had to work a second job on the weekends. Im sorry I just needed to get it all out, since I have no one here who has the time to listen. Thanks for listening

aww Honey I am so sorry you are going through this. I dont have much advice, but I just wanted to offer you some and

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. You will get through it ok and come out on top....We are all here for you.....here is more

So sorry. Hang in there, things will get better.

I am sooo sorry!!!! I know what it's like to have everything go wrong at the same time. Be strong and think positive; everything will work out.

For now, being it is such short notice that you lost your job, what about going through a temp agency or something for a little while. I have a friend who used them and had a quick turn around time. Now it is more important to get back on your feet financially being you have a family. As for nursing school, are you just starting the program? If so, my friend who went to nursing school took her beginning classes at Nassau Community and than transferred. She got good grades and got into several nursing programs. Just a thought....hope it helps a little.

aww feel free to vent!!! im sooo sorry i know how you are feeling! Im out of work while my poor fi works his butt off to take care of me and our 2 yr old!
What schools have you tried to get into? Boces has nursing..suffolk..NYIT? have you tried them all? its such a crumby feeling i sooo can relate!! Feel free to FM me anytime if you need to vent.

What kinda work did you do? we all can keep an open eye for you if we hear of any openings!!

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Posted by jellybean1420

I am sooo sorry!!!! I know what it's like to have everything go wrong at the same time. Be strong and think positive; everything will work out.

For now, being it is such short notice that you lost your job, what about going through a temp agency or something for a little while. I have a friend who used them and had a quick turn around time. Now it is more important to get back on your feet financially being you have a family. As for nursing school, are you just starting the program? If so, my friend who went to nursing school took her beginning classes at Nassau Community and than transferred. She got good grades and got into several nursing programs. Just a thought....hope it helps a little.

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Unfortunetly Nassau is where Im going and I just cant seem to get accepted into the program and I have good grades. I applied to Molloy but cant afford it without financial aid. I was thinking of taking an LPN for now and while I was working going back to school for my RN but believe me that's the least of my problems. The fact that I have bills due and a paycheck that will consist of three days pay is whats killing me.

i am so sorry that you are going through all of this . . . but i have faith that you will pull through this as a couple - especially for the sake of the kids. . .

we are all here for you to support you!!

i think you should go as soon as you can and start collecting unemployment - and search for a new job . . . maybe you will find something even better!!

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Posted by NY031978

aww feel free to vent!!! im sooo sorry i know how you are feeling! Im out of work while my poor fi works his butt off to take care of me and our 2 yr old!
What schools have you tried to get into? Boces has nursing..suffolk..NYIT? have you tried them all? its such a crumby feeling i sooo can relate!! Feel free to FM me anytime if you need to vent.

What kinda work did you do? we all can keep an open eye for you if we hear of any openings!!

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Thanks that's so sweet. I feel horrible venting but I've been sitting here since three o'clock when they sent me home( I was working 3-close)just ready to explode. I know you girls have always been so supportive so I really hope you dont mind. Im looking into Wilson Tech for the LPN. Right now I was working as a Medical Receptionist(Front desk check in)for an OB/GYN. They told me that it was just a lay off because the practice was sold and it wasnt doing well financially right now but hopefully everyone laid off 4 that I know of including me will be called back before the holidays. So to apply for unemployment and feel free to use them as a reference. Well that's just great except unemployment takes forever and it wont even be enough to put gas in my truck since I was working part time at night and I know it's not going to help with school supplies in a month as well as school clothes. Sorry Im rambling. Im just so frustrated.
Can anyone even tell me where you go to apply for unemployment in Nassau County and what you need to bring with you?

I am so sorry you are having such a difficult time. This is heart wrenching and I feel for you. Give everything time to work out-it will. On the upside-I can recommend a nursing school that is online and that you may want to apply to. Go to www.excelsior.edu to find out more info. Any questions just FM me. Good luck and please try to think positively.

I am so sorry -

I know it is probably not what you're looking for, but some catering halls (try your CH), restaurants, or even day care centers are probably hiring part-time employment because a lot of kids are going back to school (college students leaving). I know it will probably not pay a lot or be what you are looking for, but at least it will be a paycheck for the time being until you find something else.

I am sorry and please FM me if you want to talk!!!!!

Believe me, life has a funny way of working out sometimes even when you think it couldn't get any worse. This past year was one of the worst of my life in terms of my career. I am a teacher and this past year worked at a very affluent school district, but unfortunately my supervisor was a pig and when I turned to my union for help none was given. Since I was untenured they told me to either sue or get another job..... Being that I am so young I decided to go quietly (prob. a stupid thing to do) I resigned in May but worked till the end of the year. When I told my students (7th grade) they starting crying and they couldn't understand why the school was being so unfair....it broke my heart....Then I got engaged and I was happy, but not fulfilled because I sort of felt like a failure in my career and not good enough. However, today I was offered a job in a great district, and I have an interview with an even better district on Tuesday. Let me tell you, I have had insomnia for the past 6 months worrying about the direction of my life....Things are finally starting to look up for me. I have a wonderful family and my FH is the most loving and supportive man in the world. There is a plan for everyone out there, the most important thing to do is believe in yourself and never, ever give up or give in to the crap that life can deal out. You can pave your own future....GOOD LUCK and keep us updated.

i have no words of advice but just wanted to send you my best wishes and hopes that everything will work out

I can relate to a lot of what you are going thru right now!!!

Trust me - everything happens for a reason - its just hard to see it right now - you WILL get thru it though!!!