Frist wedding breakdown: same wedding date!

Original post by cmonaco10

May 23, 2013 11:21 AM

Well..if the subject didn't get your attention maybe the rest of the story will!!!

My wedding date: 5/9/14. It has been on FB since my engagement in November, 2012. We have a wedding website that has also been posted numerous times on FB with over 3,000 hits.

My moms first cousins son just got engaged THREE WEEKS AGO..and picked the SAME WEDDING DATE 5/9/14
There will be an overlap of people who will be invited to both weddings.

People from that side of the family have known about my wedding date. Engagement gifts were purchased and sent/personally dropped off at my house. My mom has discussed with her cousin the venue, date etc. My aunt has also discussed with family members the date. I cannot imagine that NOONE from that side of the family had NO idea...

It is a very big deal because of the fact that this is also MY FAMILY who will be invited to MY wedding. My mom is so upset because these are her first cousins. Its disrespectful and rude.

They JUST booked their venue last night. I found out through FB -- and basically I have gotten NO WHERE except responses from the groom like this:
'had no idea it was your wedding date - let the drama begin!'
he is also saying that its 'just his immediate family' aka his aunts/uncles/cousins that will be invited. UM HELLO? I know we may not be FIRST COUSINS - but this is still my FAMILY who will be invited! I am close with them! I call his aunt 'Aunt' also! How the hell could this even happen!!

So, I bascially in the nicest way I could politely asked him to change his date. They just booked it yesterday. This should be a NO BRAINER! He never addressed the situation and now the families are feuding.

If it was the reverse situation I would 100% be on the phone and doing everything in my power to change my date so that the families could attend both weddings.

WHAT THE HECK DO I DO?

Lori0413 Posted: May 23, 2013 01:44 PM

Frist wedding breakdown: same wedding date!

That was NOT nice of them to do that. And then change the date to the week BEFORE yours. That's better than the same date, at least. I would never EVER do that. Why would I want my wedding date to be the same as somebody else's? A different year is one thing, but that very day... ugghhhhh. I'm so sorry.

Angie2014 Posted: May 23, 2013 01:57 PM

Frist wedding breakdown: same wedding date!

Uggh I hate it when people are so selfish. I understand that when they booked the date, it might have slipped the guy's mind that your wedding was booked for that date (I can see FH forgetting something like that easily). But I don't understand why they are giving you such a hard time about it. They can easily change the date since they JUST booked it. Oh well, I guess a week before your wedding is not the same as the day of, so that's good. Just make sure none of the other major events (bridal shower, for example) are booked on the same day. Hope everything works out!

dariamarie2 Posted: May 23, 2013 02:25 PM

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Posted by NIKOLE

***....I don't like people

Same! Aww that sucks I'm sorry!! I'm sure everything is going to work out. Even though they're going to try and change it hopefully they'll be respectful of all your other dates like bridal shower, etc!

cets1290 Posted: May 23, 2013 02:28 PM

Frist wedding breakdown: same wedding date!

That stinks that they would make their date a week before yours- I feel like that is her way of saying screw you now my wedding will be first. I think that is just so disrespectful

luckyerialc Posted: May 23, 2013 03:05 PM

Re: Frist wedding breakdown: same wedding date!

Posted by cets1290

That stinks that they would make their date a week before yours- I feel like that is her way of saying screw you now my wedding will be first. I think that is just so disrespectful

I thought the same thing! Her way of now trying to steal the thunder. not okay.

NIKOLE Posted: May 23, 2013 03:13 PM

Frist wedding breakdown: same wedding date!

Get drunk and eat her cake before its cut

Lori0413 Posted: May 23, 2013 03:14 PM

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Posted by NIKOLE

Get drunk and eat her cake before its cut

violet0711 Posted: May 23, 2013 03:20 PM

Frist wedding breakdown: same wedding date!

Sending positive vibe your way and hope everything works out! =)I'm sure this has been very stressful for you!

Alyssa M Posted: May 23, 2013 03:30 PM

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Posted by Lori0413

Posted by NIKOLE

Get drunk and eat her cake before its cut

Nikole you are too funny!!

To be honest I would be furious about them moving the date to the week before. Some people are so rude!

Soon2BeMrsMango Posted: May 23, 2013 03:42 PM

Frist wedding breakdown: same wedding date!

I would rsvp no if they invite you.

sgf2 Posted: May 23, 2013 04:07 PM

Frist wedding breakdown: same wedding date!

Omg I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Some people are so caught up in themselves they don't stop to think about other people. I hope they can change it, but if they don't, just carry on as if they had. It was inconsiderate and I wouldn't do anything to accommodate them.

Also I agree with nikole, in fact, I'd eat it with my hands. Lol

cmonaco10 Posted: May 23, 2013 05:01 PM

Frist wedding breakdown: same wedding date!

I would most likely not be invited to the wedding....and as of now the week before has a 'hold' on the date and they don't know if they will be able to change it.
Um, OK -- how about change it 1-2 months before?

sgf2 Posted: May 23, 2013 07:16 PM

Frist wedding breakdown: same wedding date!

When FH and I were trying to choose a date, and his sister and her husband were choosing a date, they kindly asked us to leave 2 months between our dates both before and after. I thought this was fair. I don't see why they insisted on choosing your weekend.

Why wouldn't you be invited to their wedding? Do you think it is because of this, or were you not planning on inviting them to your wedding?

Angie2014 Posted: May 23, 2013 07:37 PM

Re: Frist wedding breakdown: same wedding date!

Posted by NIKOLE

Get drunk and eat her cake before its cut

cmonaco10 Posted: May 23, 2013 10:21 PM

Frist wedding breakdown: same wedding date!

I AM FURIOUS!!!! SO ANGRY AND MAD!! WHO WOULD DO THIS TO ANYONE! ESPECIALLY FAMILY! ITS SO RUDE!

katielynn Posted: May 23, 2013 11:09 PM

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Posted by cmonaco10

I AM FURIOUS!!!! SO ANGRY AND MAD!! WHO WOULD DO THIS TO ANYONE! ESPECIALLY FAMILY! ITS SO RUDE!

I can't believe they are doing this!!!

Did something else just happen??

Honestly... I can't imagine having a wedding so close to a family member. I was freaking out when my FRIEND was planning on getting married only 30 days before me. She FINALLY set her date and we have about 6.5 weeks in between ours and that still makes me anxious.

I'm so sorry your family is being stupid :(

I'm all for eating the cake with your hands.

If you DO get invited... I'd probably RSVP NO if I were you.