Frustrated

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Posted by marrymybestfriend

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Posted by SummerGroom10

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Posted by CloudNine

hey brian you wanna move out here? we'll find a mother duaghter house and you guys can live upstairs and we'll live downstairs lol

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Hey I wouldnt go against that.... splitting a place in half isnt the worst part.... As long as me and John can both turn the basement into a Sports Cathedral LOL

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i'm all for the sports cathedral... but god knows what they would do to the rest of the house!!!

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Thats true I didn't think about it that way....

Just thinking about it makes me wnat to puke

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Posted by SummerGroom10

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Posted by GinaMike24

well, in MHO, I rather have the house and then the kids. If you rent, you sort of lose that money. When you have a house, you have something to sell incase you need the money for your family. I am def. waiting to have a house before kids....

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Thats the way I've always felt but I dont want to be a 35 year old first time father where if I wanna play sports with my son I'll be able to and not have to worry about being to old to do it... I know my father slowed down a lot when he hit 40 and we didn't get to play as much...

Plus its weird because in my job I will have the ability to retire at the age of 40 with full pension and benefits for the rest of my life.... But if we have kids I'm not going to be able to do that because if we wanna send them to a private school or dance lessons, or baseball teams or whatever, I'm going to have to be working to pay for that... In that sense I dont wanna have kids at 30 because then at the time I can retire it'll be time for HS and College and there is no way I'll be able to retire...

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You know, my FH is going to be 32 this year, 33 when we get married. So we'll probably be having kids when he's 35ish. Things are not what they used to be and alot of people are waiting to have children until their mid to late 30s...


ETA: There is no perfect time to start a family. Everyone I know already had kids and they always say that you will always wish you had more money when you kids were born b.c you want to give them so much. And that if you wait until the perfect time that you will never do it...

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Posted by StaceYums81

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Posted by SummerGroom10

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Posted by GinaMike24

well, in MHO, I rather have the house and then the kids. If you rent, you sort of lose that money. When you have a house, you have something to sell incase you need the money for your family. I am def. waiting to have a house before kids....

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Thats the way I've always felt but I dont want to be a 35 year old first time father where if I wanna play sports with my son I'll be able to and not have to worry about being to old to do it... I know my father slowed down a lot when he hit 40 and we didn't get to play as much...

Plus its weird because in my job I will have the ability to retire at the age of 40 with full pension and benefits for the rest of my life.... But if we have kids I'm not going to be able to do that because if we wanna send them to a private school or dance lessons, or baseball teams or whatever, I'm going to have to be working to pay for that... In that sense I dont wanna have kids at 30 because then at the time I can retire it'll be time for HS and College and there is no way I'll be able to retire...

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You know, my FH is going to be 32 this year, 33 when we get married. So we'll probably be having kids when he's 35ish. Things are not what they used to be and alot of people are waiting to have children until their mid to late 30s...


ETA: There is no perfect time to start a family. Everyone I know already had kids and they always say that you will always wish you had more money when you kids were born b.c you want to give them so much. And that if you wait until the perfect time that you will never do it...

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I agree with this...while it may not be ideal to have kids a little later in life it's important to be secure.

This is probably why we will move down south....it's just a easier way of life in a lot of ways...

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Posted by marrymybestfriend

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Posted by SummerGroom10

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Posted by CloudNine

hey brian you wanna move out here? we'll find a mother duaghter house and you guys can live upstairs and we'll live downstairs lol

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Hey I wouldnt go against that.... splitting a place in half isnt the worst part.... As long as me and John can both turn the basement into a Sports Cathedral LOL

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i'm all for the sports cathedral... but god knows what they would do to the rest of the house!!!

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three words: WALK IN CLOSET!

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Posted by SummerBride10

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Posted by marrymybestfriend

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Posted by SummerGroom10

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Posted by CloudNine

hey brian you wanna move out here? we'll find a mother duaghter house and you guys can live upstairs and we'll live downstairs lol

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Hey I wouldnt go against that.... splitting a place in half isnt the worst part.... As long as me and John can both turn the basement into a Sports Cathedral LOL

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i'm all for the sports cathedral... but god knows what they would do to the rest of the house!!!

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three words: WALK IN CLOSET!

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If thats the worst thing you can think of to do then I'm not really that worried anymore LoL

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Posted by lori7570

This is probably why we will move down south....it's just a easier way of life in a lot of ways...

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i'm going to somewhat agree with you. for the past years i've been saying i'm heading down south BUTi finally had a reality check when family who lives down there spoke to me about this. 1 your income is much lower and while the houses may be cheaper, cost of living is not. 2 education is just not the same down there as it is up here and 3 living is not the same down there...f.ast paced compared to slow paced.

these are the tradeoffs you have to think of and they are major ones.

plus, who's to say you are guarenteed a job down there in your field? I know I am not but FH is.

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Posted by rocketsummer17

thinking about this is making me nauseous again...no bueno

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i had a meltdown at work yesterday after reading Newsday. No house for me anytime soon

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Posted by SummerGroom10

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Posted by SummerBride10

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Posted by marrymybestfriend

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Posted by SummerGroom10

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Posted by CloudNine

hey brian you wanna move out here? we'll find a mother duaghter house and you guys can live upstairs and we'll live downstairs lol

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Hey I wouldnt go against that.... splitting a place in half isnt the worst part.... As long as me and John can both turn the basement into a Sports Cathedral LOL

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i'm all for the sports cathedral... but god knows what they would do to the rest of the house!!!

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three words: WALK IN CLOSET!

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If thats the worst thing you can think of to do then I'm not really that worried anymore LoL

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Dont forget about me...lol

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Posted by MayBride2010

I dont wanna even think about it - I am already streesing about paying for the wedding...let alone a house and kids!

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Thats me also right now!

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Posted by italianp7

i feel the same way... i feel like ill never be able to afford a house... not even afford it its the mortage payments.... no one is giving loans anymore or they want so much down 1st... where do i have $100,000 just to put down... ya know

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ummmm in your back pocket??