Fsil is driving me crazy

browneyes Posted: Dec 28, 2008 09:24 AM

Fsil is driving me crazy

Ok, this is kinda long
So my fsil (shes my BM as well) is pregnet, the baby will only be 1 1/2 maybe 2 month old when we are married and my fsil had the nerve to say to me that she is brining the baby to the wedding, chuch n RH! this made me mad and i told her no there are no childern and she was like well i am bringing it then my fml chimes in and was like u can not tell me that we can't bring my grandchild to my sons wedding!!!

I was like yes i can the baby is going to be a infant why would u even want him or her there w.all those ppl and germs at such a young age plus its a INFANT u cant cantrol a babys cry and heaven help her if we are on the aler and the baby is walling away...... I also think its not far to all my couins that have babies that i told NO KIDS too. They said that they dont care what i say they are bringing the baby!!!!!

I am soo upset, annoyed and frustrated about this whole thing... Any Advice?

MrsDrinkh20 Posted: Dec 28, 2008 09:29 AM

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Ugh thats so annoying...my advice...let FH handle it..no kids means NO kids...especially infants! Hang in there hun!

jmd75 Posted: Dec 28, 2008 09:35 AM

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I agree with Lauren. See if RH will talk to FSIL. What are his thoughts? Does he feel the same as you? I totally think that a baby that young doesn't belong at a wedding.

browneyes Posted: Dec 28, 2008 09:36 AM

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yes he dose agree he is going to have to step up n talk to them cause i just look like bridzilla to them with whatever i say...lol

MrsDrinkh20 Posted: Dec 28, 2008 09:41 AM

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Posted by browneyes

yes he dose agree he is going to have to step up n talk to them cause i just look like bridzilla to them with whatever i say...lol

exactly..let him handle it..its his family and he needs to tell them that this is unacceptable t BOTH of you...not just to you

LeeAnne Posted: Dec 28, 2008 10:13 AM

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definetly let FH handle it. it is easier for him to reason with them since they are family. you also dont want to create any issues between you and them. good luck! hope it works out

megsher Posted: Dec 28, 2008 10:58 AM

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I would let FH handle it, but if she is nursing, he will have to be accesible to her. One of my bms just had a baby last week. Her mother is going to stay with the baby in the hotel attached to our reception, so she can run up there and nurse.

kgicrls Posted: Dec 28, 2008 10:58 AM

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I am doing a no children rule too, but am I wrong that I am letting my nieces and nephews come to the wedding. I have nephews that are already in their 20's and I don't feel right letting them come, b/c they are adults and not letting the younger ones come. But there will be no young cousins, it is strickly nieces and nephews. FH has none, so his family will have no kids there. I don't know how that is going to go over with his family, who has children. But OH WELL! I will have a new niece or nephew that will be about a month at the time of my wedding. I don't think that baby will be there bc it will be too young.
Good luck with your situation. And I agree, you should let FH deal with it.

meara Posted: Dec 28, 2008 11:27 AM

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Well I am actually in the same exact situation but it's my sister who is going to have a 2 month old and at first i was like NO WAY can she bring the baby and my mom said I was being ridiculous and that my sister would be nursing and there is no way they would leave the kid with someone else so I just kind of gave in. . I figure that as long as someone will tALWAYS ALWAYS take the kid out if she cries wether it's during the ceremony, CH, or wedding itself, what do I care? And don't get me wrong it took me a LONG time to be okay with this, esp since we are doing no kids too. . but at some point, the battle just wasnt worth it. .

oh and my sis is my BM too

JennyAPH Posted: Dec 28, 2008 12:02 PM

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I agree... let FH handle it, it is his family. No Kids.. means NO kids!! Especially an infant, they cry constantly. I dont know why she wouldnt want to enjoy the wedding without the baby anyhow?!

I broke the news about no kids to the FIL's this christmas and they were so happy about it.. they were like 'thank god'...

Soon2BMrsC09 Posted: Dec 28, 2008 12:08 PM

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ITA - especially since after she has the baby the pediatrician should be telling her that the baby shouldnt be around crowds until over 3 months old.. because they need to be caught up with their vaccinations...

cluelessnyc Posted: Dec 28, 2008 04:07 PM

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I am doing the no children rule except for our junior bridesmaid and junior usher. If his sister's argue or insist, fine their children can come but I am not involving babies in the wedding.

Dani777 Posted: Dec 28, 2008 05:36 PM

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I don't think INFANTS should be at a wedding..I mean..there'es soo many people around that have germs and the baby can get sick. And, it's not like the baby being that young will remember anything. I think kids should be AT LEAST 3 to go to a wedding..JMO. I would have your FH talk to her...