Wow...I'm so sorry to hear this. Your letter was so nice... ugh. Well, at this point, I think you're probably better off not having a relationship with her because she sounds like a witch, and not having her in your life sounds like it would be a lot less stressful. It's horrible that you can't even have a relationship with your SIL..but I hope she comes around. And if not, just always remember that YOU made the effort but it was HER fault that things are like this. And I'm sorry but how can she even THINK to pretty much say that her wedding is more important than YOUR GRANDPARENTS?! Sounds like a real family oriented person.
StaceYums81
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Sorry to say this but unfortunately what it sounds like is that you need to just cut her out of your life once the weddings are over. I'm glad your FH can see through all the ********
Kiki1103
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Some people are just beyond reason like you said. You are lucky enough that she only comes around every other year but it really is a crappy situation. I don't know what other advice to give you other than just to cut her out and let FH try to deal with the situation. That is unbelievable.
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I'm so sorry Ilana!!! She's obviously just not a good a person! At least FH is on your side! I'd read the letter if ya sent it to me
FutureMrsKuehne
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Ilana!!!
Do you remember my post about FSIL#2????? We're down a FSIL for our wedding!! So Join the club!
There's no reason for that kind of behavior between 'family'...
FH said the same about his sister...if things don't change DRASTICALLY on HER side, not mine, she's not coming...
If you wanna talk, FM me cuz I'm in the sammeeeeee boat!
Diana508
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Oh no! I'm so sorry that she's behaving this way. You definitely did the right thing, why couldn't she?
AdriandSteve
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What bothers me about this is that she's not even attempting to have a relationship with you for the benefit of her bro (FH) or her neice (your SD).
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I'm so sorry and I don't know how she could possibly say anything about your maturity. I really think what you said in your e-mail to her was well said and you weren't a jerk. For her to send something like that back to you is SUCH a biotch move. Def don't have her are your wedding and so so sorry again.
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Wow after the nice letter you wrote to her, she act like this??? I'm glad you took the high road and was the bigger person, unfortunately she is being immature. Now its time for your FH to step in and let her have it...
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The fricking nerve of people. I just don't get it. Instead of sharing wedding ideas and planning happiness you have the FSIL from Hell. So sorry you are going through this. I wouldn't want her at my wedding either.
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im so sorry that your attempt to work things out and make things better didnt work on her...she sounds like an interesting character ....i hope you & FH get through this as easily as possible
SerenityEthereal
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I missed the post but I'm sorry she is a jerk :(
SummerBride10
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im sorry... that really scuks. Im here if you want to talk. Or I can help you disect the letter...maybe there's something cryptic in it, she's saying but really 'not' because its hidden under anger (if that made any sense at alll....(
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Posted by SummerBride10
im sorry... that really scuks. Im here if you want to talk. Or I can help you disect the letter...maybe there's something cryptic in it, she's saying but really 'not' because its hidden under anger (if that made any sense at alll....(
If there's anything that she's trying to say without actually saying it...its probably:
'I am a crazy hate beast and you should do whatever I say because I am the most important person in the woooooorld '
Thanks though
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sorry youre dealing with this
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Ugh, I've been following this and I just have to say that I've always felt that you seem like a smart, caring person, and I'm sure you have a wonderful relationship with your FH and FSD, and of course would only want the best for them. I cannot believe that someone could actively say those things to you. The sad part is that if she could just stop being a venomous b!tch she would be able to maintain a relationship with her brother and niece ... she is only severing her ties with them and it's just a sad situation all around ... though perhaps your FSD will be better off without her aunt in her life.
Anyway, I'm sorry this is happening to you. I'm glad your FH is receptive and agreeing with you in this. Clearly FSIL is a monster and he is not wearing any rose-colored glasses ...
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i can't believe she would write such hateful things...honestly i thought your letter to her was very mature and honest, you were just trying to make an effort to start fresh...and i didn't think anything you said was harsh.
your fsil clearly has some issues, its a good thing your FH sees this.
maybe your fsil can join my fmil in the looney bin!
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Im soo sorry you have to deal with this. I am nosey also and wouldn't mind reading it if you dont mind sending it. If you want to talk let me know. My SIL was not the greatest at first but now 7 years later and chlidren and things are getting better.
