gift advice

I'd just cover your plate.

Since you rsvp'd and are attending the wedding, I would give a monetary or registry gift... While I understand visiting your family and going to the wedding during the trip, I find it sad to think you are only going so you can visit others at the wedding and not the bride/groom... it sounds tit for tat to me, and if you want to maintain the friendship then I would think about it...If you don't want to maintain it, then I would go visit my family, send a gift and tell her you can't make it afterall.. End friendship... It sounds so phoney and sad..I understand why, as she failed you, but I wouldn't bother with her....

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Posted by Jna2010

i wouldnt go and give her a $20 gift, problem solved lol

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AGREED!

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Posted by win01

Since you rsvp'd and are attending the wedding, I would give a monetary or registry gift... While I understand visiting your family and going to the wedding during the trip, I find it sad to think you are only going so you can visit others at the wedding and not the bride/groom... it sounds tit for tat to me, and if you want to maintain the friendship then I would think about it...If you don't want to maintain it, then I would go visit my family, send a gift and tell her you can't make it afterall.. End friendship... It sounds so phoney and sad..I understand why, as she failed you, but I wouldn't bother with her....

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i said it would be fun to see college friends.... bride and groom = college friends

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Posted by kris_gets_hitched

I'd do a registry gift. With a coupon. When its on sale.

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Haha agreed. Totally!

So I read your post and some responses. I believe that you have a choice of:
A) buying and gifting something off the registry at about $50 or $60. There has to be a waffle maker on there somewhere
B) giving a $100 monetary gift

It's quite simple. You said yourself that it's $30 a plate for their wedding. Not like it is in NY. Your presence really is gift enough too.