We were invited to a wedding which is next weekend in newport RI, and we are not going to. Then just about 2 weeks ago got a word of mouth invitiation to this couples engagement party which is tomorrow (one week before the wedding). We were under the impression it was a casual backyard kinda thing, but its a formal party at a catering hall (auntuns in hicksville). They emailed us a copy of the engagment party invitation which states 'no boxed gifts please' So since we planned on giving a wedding present the following weekend, what is an appropriate gift. Does the 'pay for your plate' rule apply? I'm not saying I always agree with that rule, but what do you give one week before a wedding?
sorry so long, Thanks!
Mici n KC
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Re: gift giving-a little long but please help
Posted by akrasner
It is definitely an engagement party. Thats what the invite said. There are other several smaller things also leading up to the wedding but those are seperate. I think we've decided just to combine our wedding/engagement gifts together in one check. Thanks for your advice ladies!
It sounds to me they are just looking for gifts and it's really pretentious of them. I wouldn't give anything for the eparty out of spite!
Are they doing this because a lot of people can't make it to the wedding next weekend?
