So don't flame. I know it's not about the gifts, but I am seriously shaking my head at some people.
A couple, coming to the wedding, friend of both of us for 15 years ...sent us a $50 registry gift.
A couple, FH's first cousin, coming to the wedding, several years older, well-established, wealthy, gave us a honeyfund gift of over $100 LESS than we gave them when we got married and we were still in college. Their wedding was OOT and we had to stay 2 nights at a Hyatt and travel. They don't have to even travel for ours.
A couple coming to the wedding, we just went to their wedding 2 months ago and wrote a generous check, bought us registry gifts, NOT off our regitstry but from a different store (I guess to use a 20% off coupon), totaling like $150 LESS than we just gave them for their way downscale OOS wedding. REALLY....really? I mean, you could say they can't afford it, but if I were in that position, I'd seriously save the money from the gift I got and send it right back.
fdnybride163
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Posted by SoonToBeMrsFox
this thread is very reminiscent of the thread from last week.
yeah but this one isnt from a snotty bridezilla....
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Posted by SoonToBeMrsFox
this thread is very reminiscent of the thread from last week.
yeah but this one isnt from a snotty bridezilla....
I think it's fine to say 'no one expect gifts' 'It's not about the gifts' but we all notice what people give us..
and when you go out of your way for someone else's wedding, how can you NOT notice when they don't do the same in return>?
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BUt, proving what I said in response to last week's thread, that some people will surprise you with their generousity, I got a $200 check and a $100 check today from people NOT coming. So sweet!
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Posted by fdnybride163
Posted by SoonToBeMrsFox
this thread is very reminiscent of the thread from last week.
yeah but this one isnt from a snotty bridezilla....
I think it's fine to say 'no one expect gifts' 'It's not about the gifts' but we all notice what people give us..
and when you go out of your way for someone else's wedding, how can you NOT notice when they don't do the same in return>?
i totally agree! there are nice ways of phrasing things, and then there are obnoxious snooty ways, and your not making others feel inferiour to you because you would do this, or you do that....
listen we all keep track no matter what, especially if i give you $200 and you give me $20.... but its how its spoken and communicated.
