girls i dont know what to do ***UPDATE***

Ok so a good friend of mine today told me some stuff about my fiance and another girl. Let me give u some background. In 05 i broke up with fiance for a month or so. In that time he was always hanging out with this new friend name richie. i found out today that this new friend was really a girl and they were going out. Now i know your probablly like but u broke up with him. even though we were broken up we were still working things out and he promised i was the only one.
So my friends tell me that she knows this girl from school and that he took her to the city for her birthday bought her stuff for valentines day....Now valentines day we were together....So now im thinking he cheated, I found this girl on my space and sent her a message because she told my friend i can call her whenever. Im just waiting for a response and im so sick to my stomache i wanna puke and call this wedding off.


***we talked cleared the air the past is in the past and i feel soo much better and i can tell he is truly sorry he is hysterical and cant stop, i feel badfor bringing it up but i feel so much better....and there is nothing going on with this new girl..thank god..((

i would flat out ask fh what was going on. I also think if this girls has any respect she will be honest with you and say what happened but i would also verify with your fh.

i know im waiting for him to get home but i have been curious of another girl recently and i feel like he is lying to me about her so im gonna bring it up...im so scared to find out the truth.

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Posted by nifheim

i would flat out ask fh what was going on. I also think if this girls has any respect she will be honest with you and say what happened but i would also verify with your fh.

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i agree talk to FH first, and the response from the girl before getting yourself really crazy..if ur friend said that u can call her then im sure she'll tell u the truth about them...and then fh cant lie about it..so talk to him and find out the real story

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Posted by mattysgurl616

i know im waiting for him to get home but i have been curious of another girl recently and i feel like he is lying to me about her so im gonna bring it up...im so scared to find out the truth.

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You are better off knowing the truth than just wondering about it! I hope everything is just a big misunderstanding and that everything works out. Keep us posted!

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Posted by mattysgurl616

Ok so a good friend of mine today told me some stuff about my fiance and another girl. Let me give u some background. In 05 i broke up with fiance for a month or so. In that time he was always hanging out with this new friend name richie. i found out today that this new friend was really a girl and they were going out. Now i know your probablly like but u broke up with him. even though we were broken up we were still working things out and he promised i was the only one.
So my friends tell me that she knows this girl from school and that he took her to the city for her birthday bought her stuff for valentines day....Now valentines day we were together....So now im thinking he cheated, I found this girl on my space and sent her a message because she told my friend i can call her whenever. Im just waiting for a response and im so sick to my stomache i wanna puke and call this wedding off.

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I am sooooo sorry you feel that way

ok well you are gonna get the obvious answer of yeah you two were broken up, yes doesn't take the pain away i know that. I would still be mad, but i also thought about other things, and with my ex we had a couple of break ups and i did date someone else right away so i know what its like to be on the other side too, unfortunately once we are broken up with somebody they well actually either person can do as they please and as much as it hurts us and makes us sick to our stomachs to think of them with someone else we can't hold that against them or hold that as proof of their love for you.

He loves you and he proposed to YOU and wants to spend the rest of his life with you, just dont forget that part in all of this. WHen you're single also remember how hard it is to go from in a relationship to being single and we just tend to find someone to fill that void and that is probably what he was doing.

The whole v-day thing i guess sort that out with the girl since you already messaged her, but were you two just starting to talk again and in the process of getting together or were you officially back.

me too but i just have that bad feeling in my gut that says this is more....God i hope im wrong. Im just so upset.

I hope everything works out, and I hope the timing is just a misunderstanding.. Defiantly talk to FH because you would want the truth..

Ohhhhh sweetie, def talk to your FH about this, something serious bec you guys are getting married. Sometimes friends are jealous and stress the truth, I hope everything is Ok with you and FH

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Posted by MPAS

Ohhhhh sweetie, def talk to your FH about this, something serious bec you guys are getting married. Sometimes friends are jealous and stress the truth, I hope everything is Ok with you and FH

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yes please keep that in mind, seriously when a story gets around from one person after another the story changes and of course in order for gossip to be good people are gonna stretch the truth.

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Posted by mattysgurl616

me too but i just have that bad feeling in my gut that says this is more....God i hope im wrong. Im just so upset.

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Well just know that we are all here for you!!!

The whole v-day thing i guess sort that out with the girl since you already messaged her, but were you two just starting to talk again and in the process of getting together or were you officially back.

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we broke up the end of feburary because i felt like he was distant this could be why and they started going out april 6 th and we got back together april 23 and supposedly they dated for 2 months so i waiting for her reply....Im not so mad about this im more upset about this new girl i found a email to her saying i wanna do bad things to you and he keeps deleting all his texts and throwing away his phone bills with all the numbers and i found pics of her on his computer im worried about this new girl more.

Talk to FH first!!!

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Posted by mattysgurl616



I am sooooo sorry you feel that way

ok well you are gonna get the obvious answer of yeah you two were broken up, yes doesn't take the pain away i know that. I would still be mad, but i also thought about other things, and with my ex we had a couple of break ups and i did date someone else right away so i know what its like to be on the other side too, unfortunately once we are broken up with somebody they well actually either person can do as they please and as much as it hurts us and makes us sick to our stomachs to think of them with someone else we can't hold that against them or hold that as proof of their love for you.

He loves you and he proposed to YOU and wants to spend the rest of his life with you, just dont forget that part in all of this. WHen you're single also remember how hard it is to go from in a relationship to being single and we just tend to find someone to fill that void and that is probably what he was doing.

The whole v-day thing i guess sort that out with the girl since you already messaged her, but were you two just starting to talk again and in the process of getting together or were you officially back.

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we broke up the end of feburary because i felt like he was distant this could be why and they started going out april 6 th and we got back together april 23 and supposedly they dated for 2 months so i waiting for her reply....Im not so mad about this im more upset about this new girl i found a email to her saying i wanna do bad things to you and he keeps deleting all his texts and throwing away his phone bills with all the numbers and i found pics of her on his computer im worried about this new girl more.

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well also keep one thing in mind, MANY girls are vicious and if he left her to get back with you then don't know how much of the truth you will get...Listen i had this happen to me years ago...i was an idiot and fell for everything the girl said, and i actually felt bad for her bc i felt my ex was messed up to her, well i actually met with her we talked and i decided to believe her and flipped out on my ex and at that time we had started to talk again and we were working on getting back together...WELL guess what, i come to find out ALOT of the things she told me were lies, she is an idiot who when my ex confronted her about things she said and he proved her wrong, she said i was crazy and psycho and i made all that up she never said anything like that-hmmmm little did she know i was listening to the convo, i felt so stupid for believing her. AGAIN not saying this is always the case but be careful

WELL see thats something different, you read an e-mail your FH wrote her? ok then i would really talk to him, if hes writing letters to a girl now and saying he wants to do bad things to her, and deleting texts and all that you need to get to the bottom of this

I am so sorry, i wish you weren't going through this

Has the girl messaged you back yet?? I am on pins and needles!!!

i agree with the other girls - you have to figure out the WHOLE truth

FH broke up with me a while back - and i was SO HURT that i turned to another guy right away - FH was my first boyf so i was so scared that no one else would ever like me. . . so i forced myself to kiss this guy - and every single second was like torture and all i thought about was FH but i thought this was the only way i could 'move on'

so i know that it is 100% possible to do that and have ZERO feelings for this other person. . . it was never about my relationship with FH it was about ME and my insecurities

luckily, FH and I got back together - FH gave me another chance and now it is a distant memory

so please give your FH a chance - let him tell you the whole story and how he feels AT THE SAME TIME dont put your blinders on either - make sure you are smart and keep your eyes open to make sure that he is telling you everything

i am sorry you are going through this - we are all here for you!

I agree with Denise.

Good luck!!

I'm so sorry, that's so crappy.

Keep in mind though, if you flip out, you will NEVER get the truth out of him, so, do your best to stay CALM when you speak to him!