Ok so a good friend of mine today told me some stuff about my fiance and another girl. Let me give u some background. In 05 i broke up with fiance for a month or so. In that time he was always hanging out with this new friend name richie. i found out today that this new friend was really a girl and they were going out. Now i know your probablly like but u broke up with him. even though we were broken up we were still working things out and he promised i was the only one. So my friends tell me that she knows this girl from school and that he took her to the city for her birthday bought her stuff for valentines day....Now valentines day we were together....So now im thinking he cheated, I found this girl on my space and sent her a message because she told my friend i can call her whenever. Im just waiting for a response and im so sick to my stomache i wanna puke and call this wedding off.
***we talked cleared the air the past is in the past and i feel soo much better and i can tell he is truly sorry he is hysterical and cant stop, i feel badfor bringing it up but i feel so much better....and there is nothing going on with this new girl..thank god..((
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No her last sing in on myspace was 5/29 i dont think ill get an answer soon:(
i also messaged this new girl and asked her what was going on with the emails and messages?
Oh the reason he ended with this girl was because he said Danielle is pregnant and i cant see u anymore.
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No her last sing in on myspace was 5/29 i dont think ill get an answer soon:(
i also messaged this new girl and asked her what was going on with the emails and messages?
Oh the reason he ended with this girl was because he said Danielle is pregnant and i cant see u anymore.
yeah i would be more concerned about the girl he is emailing now.
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...Im not so mad about this im more upset about this new girl i found a email to her saying i wanna do bad things to you and he keeps deleting all his texts and throwing away his phone bills with all the numbers and i found pics of her on his computer im worried about this new girl more.
so, this is all very recent? the email you found, throwing away phone bills, and him erasing his text messages? It this all happened in 05 then I really dont think its a big deal. If this is all recent... I think you already know what you should do.
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I am sooooo sorry this is happening to you. It breaks my heart when I see girls go through this. Def. take the advice of the girls and talk to FH first. Just stick up for yourself. If it is anything you need to be respected. We are all here for you.
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Oh the reason he ended with this girl was because he said Danielle is pregnant and i cant see u anymore.
is that true?
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...Im not so mad about this im more upset about this new girl i found a email to her saying i wanna do bad things to you and he keeps deleting all his texts and throwing away his phone bills with all the numbers and i found pics of her on his computer im worried about this new girl more.
so, this is all very recent? the email you found, throwing away phone bills, and him erasing his text messages? It this all happened in 05 then I really dont think its a big deal. If this is all recent... I think you already know what you should do.
the other girl he dated was 05, but she found emails with some girl recently, a different girl
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the thing is a while back we got into a fight because i just wanted a straight answer and i told him not to lie to me and that if i ever found **** out after this point we would be over. All i got out of him last time was he liked a girl at school and bought her flowers. Thats it and obviously its was alot more. I will stay calm and talk to him and hope we can work things out but my trust is gone from the lying for sure.
Thanks for talking this out because i prob would have flipped and left
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yeah definitely talk to us so you can calm down and collect your thoughts so when you talk to him you are rational instead of just flipping out
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We are here for you
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Oh the reason he ended with this girl was because he said Danielle is pregnant and i cant see u anymore.
is that true?
No Absoltley Not....it makes me laught though..so hard.
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Oh the reason he ended with this girl was because he said Danielle is pregnant and i cant see u anymore.
is that true?
No Absoltley Not....it makes me laught though..so hard.
ok had to ask, wasn't sure!
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Oh the reason he ended with this girl was because he said Danielle is pregnant and i cant see u anymore.
is that true?
No Absoltley Not....it makes me laught though..so hard.
ok had to ask, wasn't sure!
its ok but if u knew my FI he always lies to get him self out of a sticky situation
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...Im not so mad about this im more upset about this new girl i found a email to her saying i wanna do bad things to you and he keeps deleting all his texts and throwing away his phone bills with all the numbers and i found pics of her on his computer im worried about this new girl more.
so, this is all very recent? the email you found, throwing away phone bills, and him erasing his text messages? It this all happened in 05 then I really dont think its a big deal. If this is all recent... I think you already know what you should do.
the other girl he dated was 05, but she found emails with some girl recently, a different girl
oh ok i gotcha. thanks for the explanation
IMO engagement/marriage is a partnership. if FH is hiding anything now ... that should be a sign. Even if it is only a phone bill and some emails. If FH was hiding anything from me I would take it as a sign and this wedding wouldnt even be happening
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Well just know that we are all here for you!!!
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So sorry you are going through this...this happened to me in the past and I wound up speaking with the girl and to this day I dont know if she was telling me the truth...so please when you speak to her do not believe anything she says until there is proof because the girl can lie.
IMO...i would not even confront him about it..i would investigate it .....
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Posted by mattysgurl616
...Im not so mad about this im more upset about this new girl i found a email to her saying i wanna do bad things to you and he keeps deleting all his texts and throwing away his phone bills with all the numbers and i found pics of her on his computer im worried about this new girl more.
so, this is all very recent? the email you found, throwing away phone bills, and him erasing his text messages? It this all happened in 05 then I really dont think its a big deal. If this is all recent... I think you already know what you should do.
the other girl he dated was 05, but she found emails with some girl recently, a different girl
oh ok i gotcha. thanks for the explanation
IMO engagement/marriage is a partnership. if FH is hiding anything now ... that should be a sign. Even if it is only a phone bill and some emails. If FH was hiding anything from me I would take it as a sign and this wedding wouldnt even be happening
I think these girls have said what I was thinking.
My Mom has taught me not to judge and that there needs to be a level of forgivness. People do make mistakes and things do happen. Once you are married then you have more to think about, a marriage, a committment, the life you have started. At this point, you need to get all the facts first. You may never get all the facts, and you may never get the whole truth, but your instinct will tell you if there is something missing. Talk to FH, do a little investigating....then worry about deciding if this is something to end, or something to rebuild and continue on your journey with him
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so you 2 broke up and got back together THIS april??? After he gave you your ring?
I would be really mad too.
I agree with what the girls were saying that when you break up, people try to move on and may date other people (i would be mad but i would have to make my self understand that) BUUUUUTTTTT if this was the same situation and we had been engaged, I would prob be PO if right away he was jumping into seeing another girl.
but that been said.. back to the other issues... finding pictures, missing phone bills, dleted texts.. that would def raise concern in my eyes. Def talk to FH and this girl.. but like Denise said... somethings arent what they seem and this girl could be texting him and hes ignoring by deleting, she could be emailing him pictures from other email accounts and he opened them and didnt delele (IDK) but ... listen to all the facts first, from both sides, then think it through and try to make sense of it!
GL keep us updated!
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So sorry you are going through this...this happened to me in the past and I wound up speaking with the girl and to this day I dont know if she was telling me the truth...so please when you speak to her do not believe anything she says until there is proof because the girl can lie.
IMO...i would not even confront him about it..i would investigate it .....
Yeah see im the same way, i investigate things, i used to be pretty bad i thought i was a detective, i have to pat myself on the back bc some of the things i did were impressive lol, i gave all that up now and dont do that with fh but i still know all my old tricks lol
its hard to get the complete truth from ppl about these type of things, you need to do some research on your own
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Posted by mattysgurl616
...Im not so mad about this im more upset about this new girl i found a email to her saying i wanna do bad things to you and he keeps deleting all his texts and throwing away his phone bills with all the numbers and i found pics of her on his computer im worried about this new girl more.
so, this is all very recent? the email you found, throwing away phone bills, and him erasing his text messages? It this all happened in 05 then I really dont think its a big deal. If this is all recent... I think you already know what you should do.
the other girl he dated was 05, but she found emails with some girl recently, a different girl
oh ok i gotcha. thanks for the explanation
IMO engagement/marriage is a partnership. if FH is hiding anything now ... that should be a sign. Even if it is only a phone bill and some emails. If FH was hiding anything from me I would take it as a sign and this wedding wouldnt even be happening
I think these girls have said what I was thinking.
My Mom has taught me not to judge and that there needs to be a level of forgivness. People do make mistakes and things do happen. Once you are married then you have more to think about, a marriage, a committment, the life you have started. At this point, you need to get all the facts first. You may never get all the facts, and you may never get the whole truth, but your instinct will tell you if there is something missing. Talk to FH, do a little investigating....then worry about deciding if this is something to end, or something to rebuild and continue on your journey with him
IMO talking to him is not going to resolve much if he is already hiding things. A good friend of mine spends a lot of time 'talking things out' with FH and he does nothing but lie to her. When I tell her I know for a fact hes lying (I have seen him out with another women when hes supposedly having a 'guys night' ) she says I am wrong because she wants to believe what he is saying.
Once you realize someone is hiding things from you... every woman knows in her heart what she needs to do. There is absolutely never an excuse for hiding things like emails and phone bills. There is a reason he is hiding it. If he wasnt doing anything wrong he would want her to see the phone bills and emails just to prove that he is trustworthy.
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Posted by Mizzdimple
So sorry you are going through this...this happened to me in the past and I wound up speaking with the girl and to this day I dont know if she was telling me the truth...so please when you speak to her do not believe anything she says until there is proof because the girl can lie.
IMO...i would not even confront him about it..i would investigate it .....
Yeah see im the same way, i investigate things, i used to be pretty bad i thought i was a detective, i have to pat myself on the back bc some of the things i did were impressive lol, i gave all that up now and dont do that with fh but i still know all my old tricks lol
its hard to get the complete truth from ppl about these type of things, you need to do some research on your own
HAHA I was the same way. Its scary sometimes what I used to do and how good I was. I am sure all of us have enough tricks to tell you if you need help.
