Ok so a good friend of mine today told me some stuff about my fiance and another girl. Let me give u some background. In 05 i broke up with fiance for a month or so. In that time he was always hanging out with this new friend name richie. i found out today that this new friend was really a girl and they were going out. Now i know your probablly like but u broke up with him. even though we were broken up we were still working things out and he promised i was the only one. So my friends tell me that she knows this girl from school and that he took her to the city for her birthday bought her stuff for valentines day....Now valentines day we were together....So now im thinking he cheated, I found this girl on my space and sent her a message because she told my friend i can call her whenever. Im just waiting for a response and im so sick to my stomache i wanna puke and call this wedding off.
***we talked cleared the air the past is in the past and i feel soo much better and i can tell he is truly sorry he is hysterical and cant stop, i feel badfor bringing it up but i feel so much better....and there is nothing going on with this new girl..thank god..((
Espo22
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So sorry you are going through this...this happened to me in the past and I wound up speaking with the girl and to this day I dont know if she was telling me the truth...so please when you speak to her do not believe anything she says until there is proof because the girl can lie.
IMO...i would not even confront him about it..i would investigate it .....
Yeah see im the same way, i investigate things, i used to be pretty bad i thought i was a detective, i have to pat myself on the back bc some of the things i did were impressive lol, i gave all that up now and dont do that with fh but i still know all my old tricks lol
its hard to get the complete truth from ppl about these type of things, you need to do some research on your own
HAHA I was the same way. Its scary sometimes what I used to do and how good I was. I am sure all of us have enough tricks to tell you if you need help.
LOL yeah after a while it just became a game like ahhh oh yeah wait and see the things i'll do to find **** out lol
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So sorry you are going through this...this happened to me in the past and I wound up speaking with the girl and to this day I dont know if she was telling me the truth...so please when you speak to her do not believe anything she says until there is proof because the girl can lie.
IMO...i would not even confront him about it..i would investigate it .....
Yeah see im the same way, i investigate things, i used to be pretty bad i thought i was a detective, i have to pat myself on the back bc some of the things i did were impressive lol, i gave all that up now and dont do that with fh but i still know all my old tricks lol
its hard to get the complete truth from ppl about these type of things, you need to do some research on your own
HAHA I was the same way. Its scary sometimes what I used to do and how good I was. I am sure all of us have enough tricks to tell you if you need help.
LOL yeah after a while it just became a game like ahhh oh yeah wait and see the things i'll do to find **** out lol
Yeah but he never knew how I did it. They are such morons and just didn't hide anything well. He tried to but he became so confused when I found out. I would come out with it in a way he couldn't lie. It was like a sick game. God now I see how it can be. I hate seeing other girls go through this. I really want to cry.
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I really feel bad that you're going through this. I have been there and know the feeling. One thing you have to remember is to trust your gut. Your intuition is usually right. You may confront your FH and if he always lies to get out of sticky situations then he'll prob. continue so he doesn't hurt you. Meanwhile he is really hurting you even more. Believe in yourself and your intuition b/c it is very easy to make up excuses for somebody when you love them so much. I know it is easier said then done. Stay strong and lean on your friends and all the girls on this site. It's better to find everything out now then after you're married.
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i just read through all the posts, and i am so sorry. i hope it's not as bad as you think...just try your best to stay calm as possible when you talk to him.
are you going to talk to him tonight?!
we're all here for you.
Espo22
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So sorry you are going through this...this happened to me in the past and I wound up speaking with the girl and to this day I dont know if she was telling me the truth...so please when you speak to her do not believe anything she says until there is proof because the girl can lie.
IMO...i would not even confront him about it..i would investigate it .....
Yeah see im the same way, i investigate things, i used to be pretty bad i thought i was a detective, i have to pat myself on the back bc some of the things i did were impressive lol, i gave all that up now and dont do that with fh but i still know all my old tricks lol
its hard to get the complete truth from ppl about these type of things, you need to do some research on your own
HAHA I was the same way. Its scary sometimes what I used to do and how good I was. I am sure all of us have enough tricks to tell you if you need help.
LOL yeah after a while it just became a game like ahhh oh yeah wait and see the things i'll do to find **** out lol
Yeah but he never knew how I did it. They are such morons and just didn't hide anything well. He tried to but he became so confused when I found out. I would come out with it in a way he couldn't lie. It was like a sick game. God now I see how it can be. I hate seeing other girls go through this. I really want to cry.
yeah for me it was like ok let me see what evidence i can gather first before coming with this to someone bc if you bring it up the other person gets all angry and if you try to bring it up later and keep asking it gets worse.
I know its horrible
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omg i'm so sorry you are going thru this!
definitely get the info about this new girl---cause it sounds like your FH isn't being truthful. it also seems like you have a feeling deep down about all of this---you have to go with your gut and figure it out from there.
whatever happens---i hope you two can resolve this so you are both happy and able to trust him.
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Ok...first off I am really sorry you're going through this. I'm going to give you advice as if you were my sister. You and FH need to have a talk. He needs to know EVERYTHING that you know and how you found out. I would NOT suggest talking to these girls first. The truth is you don't know them and I would NOT trust them.
The important thing is that you need to decide if you are going to believe him. If you don't and think he's lying, that is something you seriously need to think about. You cannot live the rest of your life second guessing him. If you don't trust him then you have to make a decision. Trust is key.
Talk to him and only him. Friends or strange girls cannot determine your future. You do. I really hope this all works out for you...good luck!
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I'm so sorry, Danielle! I hope none of what you are thinking right now is true!
These girls are giving you good advice. Take it one step at a time. We are here for you if you need to talk.
Be strong...hang in there!
bemyyoko
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i was in a very similar situation with my ex. he and i were even engaged... i broke that off after realizing that i was too old and too important to play his games anymore.
as far as the things going on in the past... you were broken up. it hurts and it *****... but you kinda hafta get over that if you want to work things out.
the stuff going on with this new girl though? awww H e l l no! do not tolerate that kind of ****. seriously, if he's hiding it now...
i dont want to lecture. i've been in the same boat and i know how bad you must be hurting. i can't tell you what you should or shouldnt do.
if you want to talk or vent or whatever please don't hesitate to FM me. i'm up all night long
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it's good that things turned out well... you should always talk to your fh everytime you hear things or some doubt.
when fh and i started dating my-so-called-friends told me stories... and they were all made up
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Ok so a good friend of mine today told me some stuff about my fiance and another girl. Let me give u some background. In 05 i broke up with fiance for a month or so. In that time he was always hanging out with this new friend name richie. i found out today that this new friend was really a girl and they were going out. Now i know your probablly like but u broke up with him. even though we were broken up we were still working things out and he promised i was the only one. So my friends tell me that she knows this girl from school and that he took her to the city for her birthday bought her stuff for valentines day....Now valentines day we were together....So now im thinking he cheated, I found this girl on my space and sent her a message because she told my friend i can call her whenever. Im just waiting for a response and im so sick to my stomache i wanna puke and call this wedding off.
***we talked cleared the air the past is in the past and i feel soo much better and i can tell he is truly sorry he is hysterical and cant stop, i feel badfor bringing it up but i feel so much better....and there is nothing going on with this new girl..thank god..((
oh thats good news!!! Im really happy for you!
but what about the pictures on the computer?
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I'm so happy to hear things are ok! some girls just like to cause drama, so you should also confront your FH, after all your marrying him and you gotta trust your FH!
Mrs. V 2008
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I'm sorry you had to go through this..but happy that it worked out for you!
MyLobster
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JeanetteandSteve
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i'm glad you had to go through that but i'm SO glad everything is ok and you worked it out!!!
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heres more of an update. We talked and i was very calm, i said i know everything that went on with Jenn, i know that u asked her out on her bday u bought her flowers on vday you lied to me about all the times u said u were with ur friends then he got quiet and walked away and then he told me everything that he was hiding because he thought i was going to leave him if he found out...so this is what happened he went out one nite for her bday got really drunk asked her out that night and they had sex(OMG I KNOW) im a little upset about that because we were both our 1st and only but again i broke up with him so it was fair game,. that mistake made him realize he wanted to only be with me and he was scared at 1st that he would only be with one girl forever. I totally understood and he was hysterical and i could tell it has eaten him up for years.
The other girl he assured was just a friend and he said he can prove it i really do believe him now and the feeling in my belly is gone.
to sleep i go nite
megzzie
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I'm glad everything worked out and you are feeling better
Kimbalina
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Glad that everything worked out. I am sorry that this is something you two had to get through but you did it and now your relationship should be stronger!
