Got into a fight with my FH

I'm sitting here at work wanting to cry and I know we shouldn't talk to each other right now because we spent last night fighting and woke up this morning fighting again.

Things were said and I feel like nothing will be the same again. I'm so upset....

Don't feel like nothing will be the same again...i think most of us have felt like that before and you do get through it. Sorry about the fight, hope you work it out later on tonight

I rew up wioth my parents always teaching me to never go to bed angry. If FH and I are fightning, we can't go to sleep till things are better.

I hope everything works out!

Aw, I've definetly felt like that before.

I hope everything works out

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Posted by Espo22

Don't feel like nothing will be the same again...i think most of us have felt like that before and you do get through it. Sorry about the fight, hope you work it out later on tonight

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Thanks Denise. I am sitting here with a huge pit in my stomach. I feel like things were said without thinking... I'm hoping that we can work things out...

ohhh i'm so sorry! don't worry it will work out, just give it some time to cool off

hope everything is ok

FH and I have gone through this, in fact, we had a really tough time last week... it was bad. just keep in mind, it will make you put everything in perspective... it will make you realize how much you mean to eachother and just how different your lives would be without eachother...

chin up! you will get through it and your relationship will be stronger because of it. im here if you need to chat...

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Posted by truelove5803

I rew up wioth my parents always teaching me to never go to bed angry. If FH and I are fightning, we can't go to sleep till things are better.

I hope everything works out!

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Thank you. Me too. I hate that we woke up this morning still fighting.

When I left the apartment, he gave me a kiss goodbye but I still feel awful. It was a bad fight. One of the worst.

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

I'm sitting here at work wanting to cry and I know we shouldn't talk to each other right now because we spent last night fighting and woke up this morning fighting again.

Things were said and I feel like nothing will be the same again. I'm so upset....

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Arguements with fh are always the hardest to get over. GIve it time, you'll see that you will work it out.

It feels like that now because its fresh, but if you're going to be married you need to learn how to fight and makeup. Sometimes its jsut better to swallow your pride a little and say I'm sorry than keeping the fight going. Is it something really that important that you feel its worth jeopardizing your relationship over....maybe don't answer now because your mad but think about it at least. Fights happen, but learning how to make them right is THE KEY to a successful marriage.

Good luck! Don't be sad

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Posted by KarinAmanda

FH and I have gone through this, in fact, we had a really tough time last week... it was bad. just keep in mind, it will make you put everything in perspective... it will make you realize how much you mean to eachother and just how different your lives would be without eachother...

chin up! you will get through it and your relationship will be stronger because of it. im here if you need to chat...

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Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. Gosh, why did we have to fight right before the holidays.

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

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Posted by KarinAmanda

FH and I have gone through this, in fact, we had a really tough time last week... it was bad. just keep in mind, it will make you put everything in perspective... it will make you realize how much you mean to eachother and just how different your lives would be without eachother...

chin up! you will get through it and your relationship will be stronger because of it. im here if you need to chat...

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Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. Gosh, why did we have to fight right before the holidays.

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it will be ok. fights make you stronger as a couple. you will get over it. just give it some time.....the saying 'you shouldnt go to bed angry' is BS.....you need time to cool off - sometimes its better that way - so you dont say things that you will regret....especially if you are a hot head like me

i am sure your FH is feeling the same way as you right now - which means you both love eachother very much! so dont worry it will be ok!

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Posted by Belongs2DanBuckley

It feels like that now because its fresh, but if you're going to be married you need to learn how to fight and makeup. Sometimes its jsut better to swallow your pride a little and say I'm sorry than keeping the fight going. Is it something really that important that you feel its worth jeopardizing your relationship over....maybe don't answer now because your mad but think about it at least. Fights happen, but learning how to make them right is THE KEY to a successful marriage.

Good luck! Don't be sad

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Thank you for your response. It's really good advice...

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

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Posted by Espo22

Don't feel like nothing will be the same again...i think most of us have felt like that before and you do get through it. Sorry about the fight, hope you work it out later on tonight

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Thanks Denise. I am sitting here with a huge pit in my stomach. I feel like things were said without thinking... I'm hoping that we can work things out...

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things can be worked out even when we feel there might be no hope. Just have to put aside winning an arguement and just focus on how to work things out instead which is more important than who wins an arguement. Sometimes certain things just need to be let out bc its our fears, insecurities or even that crazy thought that lingers in the back of our mind and once its said out loud its easier to move past it, and maybe the both of you can realize that the things said are not how you truly feel but a passing thought. When you talk about your feelings, let it out in the open and then work through it, it can make your relationship even stronger

So, just to give a little background. Yesterday, FH's office decided to play hooky and go to the movies and just go bar hopping all day. At about 7 pm he calls me to tell me he's still going out to another bar. mind you, they've been bar hopping all day. 11:30 rolls around and I call his cell phone. No answer.... I keep calling and calling and finally he answers and I can tell he's totally drunk and he's at this female co-workers apartment (with other people from his office) still drinking.

I guess what irked me is that I didn't hear from him for a long time and he was at a female co-workers apartment (with other people.) do you think I'm overreacting?

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Posted by Future Mulligan

it will be ok. fights make you stronger as a couple. you will get over it. just give it some time.....the saying 'you shouldnt go to bed angry' is BS.....you need time to cool off - sometimes its better that way - so you dont say things that you will regret....especially if you are a hot head like me

i am sure your FH is feeling the same way as you right now - which means you both love eachother very much! so dont worry it will be ok!

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i agree about the 'not going to bed angry thing' sometimes after a big fight, all i want is to go to bed ... i know that when i wake up in the morning, my mind will be fresh and i wont have that frustration from the fight. i feel like going to bed angry is productive sometimes...

thats just me tough ... oh and mulligan i guess hahaha

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Posted by KarinAmanda

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Posted by Future Mulligan

it will be ok. fights make you stronger as a couple. you will get over it. just give it some time.....the saying 'you shouldnt go to bed angry' is BS.....you need time to cool off - sometimes its better that way - so you dont say things that you will regret....especially if you are a hot head like me

i am sure your FH is feeling the same way as you right now - which means you both love eachother very much! so dont worry it will be ok!

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i agree about the 'not going to bed angry thing' sometimes after a big fight, all i want is to go to bed ... i know that when i wake up in the morning, my mind will be fresh and i wont have that frustration from the fight. i feel like going to bed angry is productive sometimes...

thats just me tough ... oh and mulligan i guess hahaha

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I think I am the same way... I just couldn't forget the feeling of anxiety that I had not knowing where he was and having him come home totally drunk. I just woke up feeling angry.

Dont worry I fight with my FH every day, it wil be fine!!!