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Posted by NapaValleyGirl
So, just to give a little background. Yesterday, FH's office decided to play hooky and go to the movies and just go bar hopping all day. At about 7 pm he calls me to tell me he's still going out to another bar. mind you, they've been bar hopping all day. 11:30 rolls around and I call his cell phone. No answer.... I keep calling and calling and finally he answers and I can tell he's totally drunk and he's at this female co-workers apartment (with other people from his office) still drinking.
I guess what irked me is that I didn't hear from him for a long time and he was at a female co-workers apartment (with other people.) do you think I'm overreacting?
Posted by truelove5803
I rew up wioth my parents always teaching me to never go to bed angry. If FH and I are fightning, we can't go to sleep till things are better.
I hope everything works out!![]()
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Posted by NapaValleyGirl
So, just to give a little background. Yesterday, FH's office decided to play hooky and go to the movies and just go bar hopping all day. At about 7 pm he calls me to tell me he's still going out to another bar. mind you, they've been bar hopping all day. 11:30 rolls around and I call his cell phone. No answer.... I keep calling and calling and finally he answers and I can tell he's totally drunk and he's at this female co-workers apartment (with other people from his office) still drinking.
I guess what irked me is that I didn't hear from him for a long time and he was at a female co-workers apartment (with other people.) do you think I'm overreacting?
Posted by Espo22
Posted by NapaValleyGirl
So, just to give a little background. Yesterday, FH's office decided to play hooky and go to the movies and just go bar hopping all day. At about 7 pm he calls me to tell me he's still going out to another bar. mind you, they've been bar hopping all day. 11:30 rolls around and I call his cell phone. No answer.... I keep calling and calling and finally he answers and I can tell he's totally drunk and he's at this female co-workers apartment (with other people from his office) still drinking.
I guess what irked me is that I didn't hear from him for a long time and he was at a female co-workers apartment (with other people.) do you think I'm overreacting?
if he was alone then that'd be REALLY wrong, but he was there with others although he should've called to let you know but i dont think this should be the end of a relationship...there are many times where a situation is so harmless but it just looks bad, i know ive been in some situations where it was nothing at all but it looked so bad and i realized oh god this looks so bad and i understand if someone gets mad. If he was out with a bunch of co-workers and everyone suggested going and urging him to go he probably just wanted to continue hanging out with everybody
Posted by Espo22
Posted by NapaValleyGirl
So, just to give a little background. Yesterday, FH's office decided to play hooky and go to the movies and just go bar hopping all day. At about 7 pm he calls me to tell me he's still going out to another bar. mind you, they've been bar hopping all day. 11:30 rolls around and I call his cell phone. No answer.... I keep calling and calling and finally he answers and I can tell he's totally drunk and he's at this female co-workers apartment (with other people from his office) still drinking.
I guess what irked me is that I didn't hear from him for a long time and he was at a female co-workers apartment (with other people.) do you think I'm overreacting?
if he was alone then that'd be REALLY wrong, but he was there with others although he should've called to let you know but i dont think this should be the end of a relationship...there are many times where a situation is so harmless but it just looks bad, i know ive been in some situations where it was nothing at all but it looked so bad and i realized oh god this looks so bad and i understand if someone gets mad. If he was out with a bunch of co-workers and everyone suggested going and urging him to go he probably just wanted to continue hanging out with everybody
Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz
Posted by Espo22
Posted by NapaValleyGirl
So, just to give a little background. Yesterday, FH's office decided to play hooky and go to the movies and just go bar hopping all day. At about 7 pm he calls me to tell me he's still going out to another bar. mind you, they've been bar hopping all day. 11:30 rolls around and I call his cell phone. No answer.... I keep calling and calling and finally he answers and I can tell he's totally drunk and he's at this female co-workers apartment (with other people from his office) still drinking.
I guess what irked me is that I didn't hear from him for a long time and he was at a female co-workers apartment (with other people.) do you think I'm overreacting?
if he was alone then that'd be REALLY wrong, but he was there with others although he should've called to let you know but i dont think this should be the end of a relationship...there are many times where a situation is so harmless but it just looks bad, i know ive been in some situations where it was nothing at all but it looked so bad and i realized oh god this looks so bad and i understand if someone gets mad. If he was out with a bunch of co-workers and everyone suggested going and urging him to go he probably just wanted to continue hanging out with everybody
there is NO excuse of why he couldnt call you to tell you what was going on... You need to TRAIN him gurl!!! every one has a cell phone these days... i can see maybe if it was dead but even then, he could use someone elses just so you're not worrying... i've beaten that in FH's head and he always lets me know what hes doin/where hes goin... god forbid something happens, you would have no idea if hes ead or alive
Posted by NapaValleyGirl
Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz
Posted by Espo22
Posted by NapaValleyGirl
So, just to give a little background. Yesterday, FH's office decided to play hooky and go to the movies and just go bar hopping all day. At about 7 pm he calls me to tell me he's still going out to another bar. mind you, they've been bar hopping all day. 11:30 rolls around and I call his cell phone. No answer.... I keep calling and calling and finally he answers and I can tell he's totally drunk and he's at this female co-workers apartment (with other people from his office) still drinking.
I guess what irked me is that I didn't hear from him for a long time and he was at a female co-workers apartment (with other people.) do you think I'm overreacting?
if he was alone then that'd be REALLY wrong, but he was there with others although he should've called to let you know but i dont think this should be the end of a relationship...there are many times where a situation is so harmless but it just looks bad, i know ive been in some situations where it was nothing at all but it looked so bad and i realized oh god this looks so bad and i understand if someone gets mad. If he was out with a bunch of co-workers and everyone suggested going and urging him to go he probably just wanted to continue hanging out with everybody
there is NO excuse of why he couldnt call you to tell you what was going on... You need to TRAIN him gurl!!! every one has a cell phone these days... i can see maybe if it was dead but even then, he could use someone elses just so you're not worrying... i've beaten that in FH's head and he always lets me know what hes doin/where hes goin... god forbid something happens, you would have no idea if hes ead or alive
Especially when I see all those signs all over the place of that guy who went missing after going to a bar in NYC. I get extremely anxious about that stuff! HOnestly, what was going through my head was pure panic.
Posted by SANDYROODY
Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, we say things that we actually don't mean. Of course, those things are hurtful but they do not represent what we mean of our partners. How could they, when we think so much of them to marry them and spend the rest of our lives with them.
With that said, I know it sounds cliche, but time heals all wounds. The same way that you are thinking about it at work and it hurts you, your FH is also thinking where he is. Things will get better and, with time, you guys will mend whatever was 'broken.' I know it doesn't seem that way now, but look at it this way, he loves you so much that he could have walked away without kissing you this morning but he opted to do the opposite. Trust that things will work out!
I think what u just said to us...about the pit in your stomacch bc u feel like things were said without thinking and were said out of anger is exactly what you need to be telling him. FH and I both have venemous tongues and say some really bad things to each other when we fight...but we always come to our senses and realize that sometimes when someone hurts your feelings you say the meanest thing you can thing of to reciprocate that hurt.
Posted by Soon2beAlberti
I think what u just said to us...about the pit in your stomacch bc u feel like things were said without thinking and were said out of anger is exactly what you need to be telling him. FH and I both have venemous tongues and say some really bad things to each other when we fight...but we always come to our senses and realize that sometimes when someone hurts your feelings you say the meanest thing you can thing of to reciprocate that hurt.
Posted by NapaValleyGirl
Posted by KarinAmanda
Posted by Future Mulligan
it will be ok. fights make you stronger as a couple. you will get over it. just give it some time.....the saying 'you shouldnt go to bed angry' is BS.....you need time to cool off - sometimes its better that way - so you dont say things that you will regret....especially if you are a hot head like me
i am sure your FH is feeling the same way as you right now - which means you both love eachother very much! so dont worry it will be ok!
i agree about the 'not going to bed angry thing' sometimes after a big fight, all i want is to go to bed ... i know that when i wake up in the morning, my mind will be fresh and i wont have that frustration from the fight. i feel like going to bed angry is productive sometimes...
thats just me tough ... oh and mulligan i guess hahaha![]()
I think I am the same way... I just couldn't forget the feeling of anxiety that I had not knowing where he was and having him come home totally drunk. I just woke up feeling angry.
Posted by KarinAmanda
Posted by NapaValleyGirl
Posted by KarinAmanda
Posted by Future Mulligan
it will be ok. fights make you stronger as a couple. you will get over it. just give it some time.....the saying 'you shouldnt go to bed angry' is BS.....you need time to cool off - sometimes its better that way - so you dont say things that you will regret....especially if you are a hot head like me
i am sure your FH is feeling the same way as you right now - which means you both love eachother very much! so dont worry it will be ok!
i agree about the 'not going to bed angry thing' sometimes after a big fight, all i want is to go to bed ... i know that when i wake up in the morning, my mind will be fresh and i wont have that frustration from the fight. i feel like going to bed angry is productive sometimes...
thats just me tough ... oh and mulligan i guess hahaha![]()
I think I am the same way... I just couldn't forget the feeling of anxiety that I had not knowing where he was and having him come home totally drunk. I just woke up feeling angry.
see now thats a totally different story... FH and I were both at the apartment, I just went to bed... he watched tv in the living room and came to bed when i was already asleep. If he were out wandering and DRUNK after a big fight, there is something wrong with that. He shouldnt be leaving, let alone drinking until hes drunk... JMHO![]()
Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz
Posted by Espo22
Posted by NapaValleyGirl
So, just to give a little background. Yesterday, FH's office decided to play hooky and go to the movies and just go bar hopping all day. At about 7 pm he calls me to tell me he's still going out to another bar. mind you, they've been bar hopping all day. 11:30 rolls around and I call his cell phone. No answer.... I keep calling and calling and finally he answers and I can tell he's totally drunk and he's at this female co-workers apartment (with other people from his office) still drinking.
I guess what irked me is that I didn't hear from him for a long time and he was at a female co-workers apartment (with other people.) do you think I'm overreacting?
if he was alone then that'd be REALLY wrong, but he was there with others although he should've called to let you know but i dont think this should be the end of a relationship...there are many times where a situation is so harmless but it just looks bad, i know ive been in some situations where it was nothing at all but it looked so bad and i realized oh god this looks so bad and i understand if someone gets mad. If he was out with a bunch of co-workers and everyone suggested going and urging him to go he probably just wanted to continue hanging out with everybody
there is NO excuse of why he couldnt call you to tell you what was going on... You need to TRAIN him gurl!!! every one has a cell phone these days... i can see maybe if it was dead but even then, he could use someone elses just so you're not worrying... i've beaten that in FH's head and he always lets me know what hes doin/where hes goin... god forbid something happens, you would have no idea if hes ead or alive
Posted by Espo22
Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz
Posted by Espo22
Posted by NapaValleyGirl
So, just to give a little background. Yesterday, FH's office decided to play hooky and go to the movies and just go bar hopping all day. At about 7 pm he calls me to tell me he's still going out to another bar. mind you, they've been bar hopping all day. 11:30 rolls around and I call his cell phone. No answer.... I keep calling and calling and finally he answers and I can tell he's totally drunk and he's at this female co-workers apartment (with other people from his office) still drinking.
I guess what irked me is that I didn't hear from him for a long time and he was at a female co-workers apartment (with other people.) do you think I'm overreacting?
if he was alone then that'd be REALLY wrong, but he was there with others although he should've called to let you know but i dont think this should be the end of a relationship...there are many times where a situation is so harmless but it just looks bad, i know ive been in some situations where it was nothing at all but it looked so bad and i realized oh god this looks so bad and i understand if someone gets mad. If he was out with a bunch of co-workers and everyone suggested going and urging him to go he probably just wanted to continue hanging out with everybody
there is NO excuse of why he couldnt call you to tell you what was going on... You need to TRAIN him gurl!!! every one has a cell phone these days... i can see maybe if it was dead but even then, he could use someone elses just so you're not worrying... i've beaten that in FH's head and he always lets me know what hes doin/where hes goin... god forbid something happens, you would have no idea if hes ead or alive
LOL i have a cell phone and i barely pick it up, i don't do it on purpose but i always leave it on vibrate bc of work and forget to put it back...theres been MANY times fh calls and i don't hear the phone and he'll call for a while, sometimes these things happen and i am doing absolutely nothing wrong when this happens.
