So my parents are putting in the majority of the money for our wedding. His parents are giving about a quarter of the money. I think that my parents should be allowed to invite more people than FH's parents. Not like 50 people more, but like 15-20. FH thinks this is unfair. What do you think???? Am I being unreasonable here?
My mother thinks that she should be able to invite more people because she is paying for the whole reception but the fmil doesn't know this yet and I have a feeling it's going to start a few problems. However my mom is paying a lot and even giving me the extras that I want for the reception while his side hasn't even decided what they will be paying for if anything. So I believe that our mom's should be able to invite more, nothing crazy, but definetly more.
I definatly agree with you. Your mom should be able to invite more. it ends up shes going to be paying for them so why cant she. Tell your fh that his family can invite more but then they will be paying more...no thats mean....but still i agree with you!
Posted by novia26
I think it depends on who they plan on inviting...I understand the point about who's contributing more etc...but if the people fh's parents are inviting are relatives or really close friends vs. your parents inviting people they know but are not really a part of your life, honestly I would rather fh's parents to invite more people regardless of who's paying...I personally would discuss with fh who HE thinks is important to be present at your wedding. Is money an important factor in planning a wedding?: ABSOLUTELY. should it be the deciding factor?: ABSOLUTELY NOT. Don't let this create a wedge between you and fh, or make him feel like its less of his wedding and more yours because of finances.
NOW, if the guests are just friends, coworkers etc on both ends, then yes youre definitely right, your parents have the upper hand.
Posted by FutureMrsC
Posted by novia26
I think it depends on who they plan on inviting...I understand the point about who's contributing more etc...but if the people fh's parents are inviting are relatives or really close friends vs. your parents inviting people they know but are not really a part of your life, honestly I would rather fh's parents to invite more people regardless of who's paying...I personally would discuss with fh who HE thinks is important to be present at your wedding. Is money an important factor in planning a wedding?: ABSOLUTELY. should it be the deciding factor?: ABSOLUTELY NOT. Don't let this create a wedge between you and fh, or make him feel like its less of his wedding and more yours because of finances.
NOW, if the guests are just friends, coworkers etc on both ends, then yes youre definitely right, your parents have the upper hand.
i think this is perfectly said
i think your mom should be able to invite more ppl, she's paying more for it. and yea nothing crazy, but fh's parents aren't paying more... flip the role and see what he says?
Posted by novia26
I think it depends on who they plan on inviting...I understand the point about who's contributing more etc...but if the people fh's parents are inviting are relatives or really close friends vs. your parents inviting people they know but are not really a part of your life, honestly I would rather fh's parents to invite more people regardless of who's paying...I personally would discuss with fh who HE thinks is important to be present at your wedding. Is money an important factor in planning a wedding?: ABSOLUTELY. should it be the deciding factor?: ABSOLUTELY NOT. Don't let this create a wedge between you and fh, or make him feel like its less of his wedding and more yours because of finances.
NOW, if the guests are just friends, coworkers etc on both ends, then yes youre definitely right, your parents have the upper hand.
I have to say I dont agree with that at all....it should be equal. My FH's family is paying for our wedding and they would never tell me in a million years how many people i can invite to my own wedding. I'm sorry but that is just crazy!!!!!! It doesnt matter who the heck it paying for it....nobody should nitpick about how many people more they can invite...sorry!
Posted by FutureMrsPD
I have to say I dont agree with that at all....it should be equal. My FH's family is paying for our wedding and they would never tell me in a million years how many people i can invite to my own wedding. I'm sorry but that is just crazy!!!!!! It doesnt matter who the heck it paying for it....nobody should nitpick about how many people more they can invite...sorry!
Posted by tinadansr
Posted by FutureMrsPD
I have to say I dont agree with that at all....it should be equal. My FH's family is paying for our wedding and they would never tell me in a million years how many people i can invite to my own wedding. I'm sorry but that is just crazy!!!!!! It doesnt matter who the heck it paying for it....nobody should nitpick about how many people more they can invite...sorry!
Yeah nitpicking about 15-20 people? Does that really make a huge difference? What happens if you do cut the guest list on his side? Is it gonna start world war 3? Is it worth it....equal is better and if after that your parents wanna pay for extra then go for it.......
I am not arguing about it, but he just doesn't think my parents should invite 15-20 more people than his parents, even though his parents already made their list and I didn't make them cut it at all. They are inviting everyone they want. FH just thinks it should be equal.
