i gotta say ladies, i've heard it from friends and such that got married already, and it's sooooooo true:
'People who you think will say NO to your wedding, will respond yes...and some ppl that you are just sure will say YES and not miss it for the world...will say NO.'
i'm kind of bummed right now. a) today was our RSVP date, and i'm still missing about 25-30 RSVPs, which means 50-60 ppl. we only got TWO back today, and they were ppl who had already verbally told me they were coming
b) i just found out that some friends of ours, ppl that i've known for years....and who i was SURE would be at our wedding....are probably going to vacation in florida, during the time of our wedding. it's an annual trip they take sometime in feb., and i guess this time around the family (it's 2 cousins and their significant others) have scheduled the trip at the end of february.
i am NOT the kind of bride that thinks her wedding is the be-all-end-all of things...i do realize that our friends & family have lives....so i can't be too angry about the situation. BUT i can be hurt. i feel like telling them 'Hey, Florida will ALWAYS be there, but FH and i are only marrying once!' i guess it hurts cause they've been there thru the planning and such for the past 2 yrs....i mean we were hanging out with our 'crew' the nite before FH proposed....and he was telling them all about it and wishing him good luck before we left. (i found out about all that later on).
they are important to me, and now i feel like i'm not as important to them. so i'm really bummed that they are not going to be there. but i know i can't really say too much about it, cause really....they are adults and do what they want.
i know my wedding will still be great cause the ppl who want to be there will come...but it still sux a little that some ppl have been saying no lately, that i just thought wouldn't miss it for anything.
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The RSVP thing is to be expected I was still calling ppl up until last week!!! I now realize how important it is to rsvp!!!! I swear I will try to never be late to respond to someone elses event cause I had to call like 10 ppl.
As far as certain ppl you considered important to you that are not coming I completely understand and it's not right, but remember it's your day and you will be so happy that day whether those ppl are there or not!!! Don't let anything get you down right now as this is a very special time in your life and your fh's. Keep your head up and whoever wants to be at your wedding will be there no matter what!!!!!
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I just went through the same thing, most of my family is in Florida and will not be coming to the wedding. I guess since its my second wedding they probably dont think its a big deal. Whatever! Went sent out 191 invites and got back only 12 NO's.....which were my family!
You'll have a beautiful day no matter what !!!!
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Wow people just suck!!!! Yeah the RSVP thing is expected but not for that many and all from the same list. Tell your mom to get cracking on that phone list or you're sending them an uninvite. 'Sorry but since you couldn't send in the RSVP we gave your seats to another couple who did. But feel free to send a gift.'
As for the friends/cousins that is total bull$hit. Even with the parent bookin it is it still bull. They should have told their parents the date of the wedding and said we can go any time but this weekend. Come on they knew for 2 years. I know you can't write them off but I would def lay the guilt trip on. Make them feel like crap for missing your wedding. They deserve it.
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I'd be upset too, if they were going away for 2 weeks on an annual trip and they've known about your wedding for 2 years, they could come back a little early, what, would it be 1 or 2 days?
As for the missing responses, you will probably get some in the next couple of days! Then you'll have to call. It's amazing some of the excuses you will get as to why you haven't gotten the response card yet
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Posted by ali120206
I'd be upset too, if they were going away for 2 weeks on an annual trip and they've known about your wedding for 2 years, they could come back a little early, what, would it be 1 or 2 days?
As for the missing responses, you will probably get some in the next couple of days! Then you'll have to call. It's amazing some of the excuses you will get as to why you haven't gotten the response card yet
And hearing the excuses Hang in there honey, this will still be the best day of your life!!!!
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Im sorry Meliss.... I TOTALLY feel ya. Id be PIIIISSED if someone booked a va-k on my wedding day. It's so true, FL is not going anywhere!
But ya know what- remeber what the day is about and who really counts- YOU and FH!!
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Let me start with more than a few of these
I can totally understand that you are bummed. I know I would be especially bc you sent out STD's AND they were well aware of your wedding date. They couldn't go a couple of days later/leave a little earlier??? I know you are not the type to think your wedding is the next coming of Christ. You really do have every right to be upset in this instance.
As for the RSVP's...I think this is something each and everyone one of us are going to deal with. The larger the wedding, the worse it's going to be. We're inviting about 100 more people than you so I can't even imagine the BS I'll be dealing with in about 2 months. Give these folks a couple of more days and then start picking up the phone. Have your parents, FIL's and FH help too.
I'm sooo sorry sweetie
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i am sorry!! i dont blame u for feeling the way you feel!! i think you are not alone and alot of brides go through this and i am sure i will go through the samething too..
i guess its the part of the game...feel better!
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I haven't read everyone's posts so I am sorry if I am repeating but could it be that they just forgot to send the RSVP card back? I could definitely see that happening...
I completely understand because I was hurt when one of my dad's friend's said no....and it wasn;t even my friend!
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Wow, can I just give you some
That really sux-- in plain english. You have every right to feel like the wind has been taken out of your sails and I understand where you are coming from first-hand
It's a stinky feeling but in the long run- you will see on your big day how many people truly care about you and Pete-- you will see all the people that will be there for you and be so happy for you both!! Wedding planning brings out the best and worst in some people and most people are extremely self centered and since you are not like that AT ALL- you are a very giving person- you can't understand HOW people can be the other way (similar to myself, I get frustrated too) but it's just the way they are The best you can do is try to focus on all the wonderful friends you have (and family too) and have fun!
But definitely take some time to feel like shiit right now- b/c it will help you move forward to sulk and be hurt for a bit-- and then you will be able to feel better but never feel like you shouldn't be feeling crappy right now b/c you have every right.
Vinny and I will do our best to cheer you up this weekend at TWOTY
HEART YOU!!!!!
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I am dreading the whole rsvp thing but it is what it is. I totally agree with you about your friends not being there or having them shorten their vacation and still be able to make your wedding. You dont want to feel that way but you just cant help it. I would have felt the same way. Sorry
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I'm so sorry you are upset about this! I guess you realize things when this stuff happens.. but you are right.. it's the best day of your life and the people that care and want to be there will be there!!!
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So sorry that you're going through this.
Yeah, feel a bit bummed and then move on and focus on the folks that WILL be there with you to celebrate your big day.
About the non RSVP'ers, I wouldn't even bother calling them. No RSVP, no can come. You didn't want them there to begin with!
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I would be hurt too if close friends that I wanted at my wedding to celebrate with me and FH didn't come because they wanted to go to FL inside. I think that is understandable to be upset about. So I completely agree with you and hope they change their minds!
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I totally understand what you mean. I was so sad and shocked by some of the no's I received Just try to stay focused on the positive and the people who will be there - the other's don't know what they will be missing!
