A friend who all of sudden is acting completely weird, strange & somewhat jealous because you are engaged and or getting married before them?
Yes. I had a girlfriend who was with her bf for 8 years and was waiting to be propsed to and then I got engaged after being with my bf for only a little over a year and she basically stopped talking to me. I felt really bad for her, knowing it was probably hard for her to be happy when she was so upsert about her own situation, but at the same time I think she was a bit rude. I hear that she recently got engaged though!
of course....who hasnt lol
yup, really strange. I had a friend she was a little older and LOVED all the attention on her...she had a BF who...well lets just say there was a lot of problems during their year/yearand a half relationship...anyways she gave him the altimadem that if he didnt propose her her by her brothers wedding ( which was coming up) with an x amount of carats then she was leaving him. poor guy. anyways he proposed to her and everything was great. i guess amount 4 months later my FH proppsed to me and at first it was all good. then slowly she started acting weird trying to saying things like oh you have to move in w/ fh right away...trying to force her ideas on me..well she started becoming unrealiable. we had made plans to take our vacations from work the same week... well she was mia...i was pissed. anyways since she was so mia i made other arrangements and it turns out she wanted to get lunch one afternoon and i thought that would be perfect bc i had to meet fh for dinner. well she was late but lunch was good we talked about wedding stuff and i was even trying to help her w planning. anyways she got really mad at me when i didnt want to finish my sangria. i explained that that i had to drive to fh house to talk about wedding stuff and she was like... fiish the pitcher or your not my friend...yup she said that! i was like well i didnt think i had to prove my friendship to you blah blah blah. i was like i cant drunk i have to drive.shes like make fh pick you up and drive you... i was like no hes already on his was home im not making him come back...shes like well frank would do it for me! i was like no im not making fh drive all over the place. anyways we left and i havent talked to her since.... i went from being a birdesmaid to not even talking toher.... really strange right? I still dont even understadn what happened but im better off without her anyway...every thing happens for a reason!
that hasn't actually happened to me. most of my friends are not in steady relationships or at a point in their lives where they would even want to get married, so they're not jealous or acting strange. but some aren't as involved or happy as i thought they'd be
Posted by lealea
yup, really strange. I had a friend she was a little older and LOVED all the attention on her...she had a BF who...well lets just say there was a lot of problems during their year/yearand a half relationship...anyways she gave him the altimadem that if he didnt propose her her by her brothers wedding ( which was coming up) with an x amount of carats then she was leaving him. poor guy. anyways he proposed to her and everything was great. i guess amount 4 months later my FH proppsed to me and at first it was all good. then slowly she started acting weird trying to saying things like oh you have to move in w/ fh right away...trying to force her ideas on me..well she started becoming unrealiable. we had made plans to take our vacations from work the same week... well she was mia...i was pissed. anyways since she was so mia i made other arrangements and it turns out she wanted to get lunch one afternoon and i thought that would be perfect bc i had to meet fh for dinner. well she was late but lunch was good we talked about wedding stuff and i was even trying to help her w planning. anyways she got really mad at me when i didnt want to finish my sangria. i explained that that i had to drive to fh house to talk about wedding stuff and she was like... fiish the pitcher or your not my friend...yup she said that! i was like well i didnt think i had to prove my friendship to you blah blah blah. i was like i cant drunk i have to drive.shes like make fh pick you up and drive you... i was like no hes already on his was home im not making him come back...shes like well frank would do it for me! i was like no im not making fh drive all over the place. anyways we left and i havent talked to her since.... i went from being a birdesmaid to not even talking toher.... really strange right? I still dont even understadn what happened but im better off without her anyway...every thing happens for a reason!
Posted by lealea
yup, really strange. I had a friend she was a little older and LOVED all the attention on her...she had a BF who...well lets just say there was a lot of problems during their year/yearand a half relationship...anyways she gave him the altimadem that if he didnt propose her her by her brothers wedding ( which was coming up) with an x amount of carats then she was leaving him. poor guy. anyways he proposed to her and everything was great. i guess amount 4 months later my FH proppsed to me and at first it was all good. then slowly she started acting weird trying to saying things like oh you have to move in w/ fh right away...trying to force her ideas on me..well she started becoming unrealiable. we had made plans to take our vacations from work the same week... well she was mia...i was pissed. anyways since she was so mia i made other arrangements and it turns out she wanted to get lunch one afternoon and i thought that would be perfect bc i had to meet fh for dinner. well she was late but lunch was good we talked about wedding stuff and i was even trying to help her w planning. anyways she got really mad at me when i didnt want to finish my sangria. i explained that that i had to drive to fh house to talk about wedding stuff and she was like... fiish the pitcher or your not my friend...yup she said that! i was like well i didnt think i had to prove my friendship to you blah blah blah. i was like i cant drunk i have to drive.shes like make fh pick you up and drive you... i was like no hes already on his was home im not making him come back...shes like well frank would do it for me! i was like no im not making fh drive all over the place. anyways we left and i havent talked to her since.... i went from being a birdesmaid to not even talking toher.... really strange right? I still dont even understadn what happened but im better off without her anyway...every thing happens for a reason!
hey V... I dont understand jealousy... If something goo dhappens to someone i am so happy... I guess you found out the easy way that she is not a true friend
Yes, I have a friend who has engaged before and it failed. When I got engaged, I didn't get a very heartfelt congrats.
all my friends are in steady relationships so i dont think there is any animosity at all - but i dont talk about my wedding or try to rub it in anyones face either - as long as you arent talking about your engagement/wedding 24/7 i dont see any reason how it could upset anyone...
luckily i havent really experianced any of this... thats probably due a large part to my age. but my one friend who is engaged, and was engaged a few months before me hasnt acted affected by this. in fact she was really happy when i got engaged, we discuss our weddings together all the time. theyre a month apart, but i got engaged 6 months after her.. i dont think any of that ever crossed her mind.
i guess I can see how having a friend get engaged before you could bring out some insecurities in their relationships but sometime people can just be rude and try to bring you down...misery loves company so be careful girls! haha
I have this with my brother's gf. They have been together for about 6 years and they say they are waiting to get engaged till my brother gets out of debt. I was with FH for a year when we got engaged and my brother's GF seemed fine. She was talking about how she would help and go looking at RH's with me and stuff. Well she went to florida for a week and during that week we booked an RH. when she came back she hasn't really spoken to me. Doesn't seem interested in the wedding and doesn't really come over anymore. I think maybe she felt eventhough we got engaged we wouldn't get married for a while and now that we have a date and place she realizes it's happening.
Luckily, nothing has really happened with me. But I do have one friend that I get the feeling doesn't 'approve' of the wedding (she made similar comments to me about another friends of ours who got married after only knowing the guy for a short amount of time and the wedding was planned in only a few months, but they were Indian and that was more customary!). I just ignore it.
Posted by Future Mulligan
all my friends are in steady relationships so i dont think there is any animosity at all - but i dont talk about my wedding or try to rub it in anyones face either - as long as you arent talking about your engagement/wedding 24/7 i dont see any reason how it could upset anyone...
Luckly I havent
yes... and i hate it. i dont understand y people cant be happy. i would be happy for them.
Posted by coley1027
luckily i havent really experianced any of this... thats probably due a large part to my age. but my one friend who is engaged, and was engaged a few months before me hasnt acted affected by this. in fact she was really happy when i got engaged, we discuss our weddings together all the time. theyre a month apart, but i got engaged 6 months after her.. i dont think any of that ever crossed her mind.
