Have you ever cheated on your FH/FW

Well from here to 2010 she has plenty of time to think about it!! But says she is already married...I don't get it.
My ex husband cheated on my -- apparently with anyone and everyone, but especially my 'best' friend. If you had any idea how hurt your FI would be by finding out you cheat on him, you wouldn't do it. It makes the other person feel so worthless.
I suggest you try to find out what is wrong in your sex life with im and try to make it work. Because otherwise when he finds out, he will not be so understanding and wonderful as he is now! And believe me, he will find out...sooner, or later, but he'll find out.

No...never even thought about it.

Not that I haven't thought about it with other people, or had other people do it to me, but that is why I did NOT marry those men.

John is DEFINITELY the one for me!!!

I'm actually shocked about the YES answers and the 'he cheated on me' answers. I can only hope if you are marrying those men, you've given it a LOT of thought. The divorce rate is high for a reason.

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Posted by anon two
And like I said, should I give up a perfectly wonderful man just for that reason? Some might think I should.

Okay, just wanted to tell my side of the story.

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Yes, you DEFINATELY should. It's not fair to lead a double life. When he finds out, you're going to likely get divorced anyway. And eventually he will find out.

Better break it off now.

why get married if you can't commit to that one person?

and to me, cheating is anything that i won't be able to tell fh, no matter how innocent you may think it is...if you find it necessary to hide this from him, then you probably shouldn't be doing it...jmo

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Posted by anon two

Okay, I am anonymous for a reason!

Maybe I am a glutton for punishment, but I feel compelled to tell my perspective.

Yes, I have cheated. And yes, it was more than kissing. I love my DH more than anyone I've ever met, but unfortunatley the physical aspect of our relationship is severly lacking. I was faithful for many years. I've tried everything I can think of to improve it, but he is not able to satisfy me physically. Otherwise the relationship is great. I love him with all my heart, should I leave him just because the sex is so lousy?

At times I have made the conscious decision to find what I need out side the relationship. I don't think it means I love my DH any less.

Do I feel guilty? Of course. I know it's wrong, but sometimes my needs are too strong to ignore. And like I said, should I give up a perfectly wonderful man just for that reason? Some might think I should.

Okay, just wanted to tell my side of the story.

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TEACH HIM!!! If you tell him what you want/need I'm sure he will do right by you.
But, to have sex with someone else to satisfy your 'needs' are just wrong. What if you didn't satisfy him how would you feel if he was getting it from someone else???

Otherwise the relationship is great. I love him with all my heart, should I leave him just because the sex is so lousy?

Perhaps, you shouldn't leave him but you DEF. should not be cheating on him. How would you feel if he were doing it to you? Have you thought maybe you are not satisfying him and maybe he could even be cheating on you? I think you should really sit down with your husband to be and have a long discussion. You have agreed to marry this man until death do you part. You want to start your marriage fresh and new. What will happen when you get married and times become dull? Will you cheat again and again? Is that the marriage you want? Sex is such a huge part of a relationship. It is when two people have such emotions for one another that they become twisted in the songs of passion. After FH, and I are together intmately, we feel like we are on top of the world. This is caused from our love devotion we have for one another. Please think about what you've posted. I am not judging you or anything like that.

Good luck!