HELP!!!!

Good luck tonight.

I know this must be hard - but if you two talk maybe you will understand why his is suddenly feeling this way - maybe he is just stressed over all that is going on.

If you need someone to talk to feel free to FM me for an ear.

I know 2 couples who post-poned their weddings. I am happy to say they are both relatively new Mommies and everything worked out great for them. Keep your spirits up.

Good luck to you.

Karen

first you need to find out why he feels he's not ready. Is he breaking up with you or just postponing the wedding? What about seeing a counselor for some therapy? There is a reason for it....I hope you two are close enough and open and honest enough to talk about it and figure it all out!

I am sorry, definately talk with him..

How old is he? maybe he feels he is just no ready.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you! Give him a little time and space, a few days or so, and then TALK TALK TALK. Find out what he's worried about, what he's afraid of, maybe it's just cold feet or maybe he just saved you from making a BIG mistake by marrying him if he's not the one or not ready.... Good luck, hon, I hope this all works out for the best!

The ladies here have given great advice, so I just wanted to send you many hugs

I remember when a long term boyfriend broke up with me a few years ago. I was DEVASTATED. I stopped going to class, failed courses, got dismissed from college, and almost lost my job.

I got back in to school, but I graduated college with a 2.0 GPA. I was lucky enough to get in to Grad school, but what I have ALWAYS wanted to do is go to law school. Now, that is a challenge. So, I will be lucky if I can get in to a school in Pennsylvania. And, that will be quite a burden for my fi and me.

I wasn't engaged to that guy, but we dated for YEARS, we went to HS together, we were very close with each other's families and everyone thought that we'd get engaged at any moment. I helped HIM get through college- and he now makes about $75,000 per year. I REALLY thought that he was the one and so did everyone else!!!

My point is this: GET OUT OF BED! DON'T LET YOUR LIFE FALL APART!

P.S. That same ex-boyfriend emailed me the other day. He 'checks up' on me every now and then. He has for the past 6 years. His mother still sends me XMAS cards every year. And, right after I met my fi, this guy wanted to get back together and told me that losing me was the biggest mistake of his life! But, because of the devastation that I felt through that ordeal, I refused to even consider dating him again.

Again, my point is that, if you let your other priorities suffer, you will probably not be able to fix this relationship. And, even if you don't fix this relationship, it would be because there IS something else out there for you. So, please, don't let this get you down! Feel free to FM me if you need anything!

I'm really sorry that this is happening. I definitely think that you need to talk to him. I know you've been trying to get it out of him why he said that, but I think he really needs to say what's on his mind. Hopefully it's just cold feet and everything will work out in the end. I know it will, everything does. Try to keep your head up high and think that he does just need some space. Planning a wedding is very stressful, but it's part of being a couple.

Good luck and let us know what happens. FM me if you ever need to talk.

I also don't have much to add, but also wanted to send some hugs!

I am sorry!! . I totally agree with the others. Talk to your fiance and tell him how you feel and see what the story is. Good luck!

I don't have anything to add, just wanted to give support and

When you are talking things over with FH, remember:
The goal is to make your relationship stronger; It's not to bring the wedding back to it's original date.

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Posted by Sassyz75

You have to get the fact that your vendors are booked out of your head.. you need to simply pretend that none of that exists- and you HAVE to work it out with your FH. Do not say, 'but we have everything booked'.. that's not important- what is important is making your relationship work.

what's the worse that happens? say you do postpone it- and then your relationship is all the stronger? is that so bad?

things will work out- just be calm and be open to discussion and don't worry about the actual wedding

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I agree exactly with Sassy...very good advice. Just talk and find out his reasons. There could be so many reasons and unless you know for sure, it could be a lot worse in your mind than it really is. Not that I am downplaying this, but until you talk about things, you can't just assume it's you.

Thank you , I am going to try to get things back into perspictive but I am just so hurt and sad , I can't believe that THIS has happened to US. He has always been proud of the fact that we get along so great and love to be together. I will try to talk to him tonight, but for the past 3 days he just says he just needs to figure it out for himself first so yeaterday I didn't say a word to him about it, but due to my incapibility to get up and stop crying he knows it is on the tip of my tounge. Yesterday he talked to his brother BM and his best friend. What is scaring me is his brother once broke and engagement to a woman. Thank you for letting me get this off my chest and talk it out a little and the ideas are great. For some reason I thought I did somthing wrong even though he said I didn't ' Not at all'. Thanks for lettijng me get this out to all of you and pray for me.

I am soo sorry that this has happened to you

I'm so sorry. Just give him some time. Its sounds like he still loves you but he is not ready for marriage. I hope everything works out.