I have no idea what to do. My FILs and i hate each other so much, that no one is talking to anyone anymore. FMIL has kicked FH out of the house, because he got in a fight with FSIL because of how insane she is. I have been actually considering breaking off the engagement just because of these people. They are awful to me, and awful to my daughter, not to mention downright disrespectful to my family. I have no idea what to do but i feel like i am about to have a nervous breakdown
Ignore them completely. Do they live close by where you have to see them alot? Does FH know how bad the situation is?
mybabylovesmoi
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WOW that easter situation with your daughter is completely unacceptable and NOT healthy for your child! W T F is the matter with them to take out their misery on an innocent child??? That is NOT okay and I think it's completly logical to keep your daughter away from that drama.
I know that alot of people say that 'blood is thicker than water' but IMHO, sometimes, cutting off some people is necessary for your own welfare. I know you want to make it work with them but you can only do so much. They have to want to work it out as well.
Since FH seems to be completely fine with cutting them off, I say do it. They can't treat you and your daughter like shiet and expect you to come groveling to visit for holidays.
I'm really sorry about this, the good thing about your situation is that your FH is standing by you. Some men are real wusses when it comes to standing up to mama and tha family.
good luck!
anszusterman
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I am so sorry you are going through this! I hope all these responses are showing you are not alone, and we are all here to support you.
My FIL are not fans of FH and either- our situation is not as bad as yours, but I understand how you are feeling. my FIL and FSIL have meetings with FH whenever they get together and try to talk him out of marrying me- with me in the next room. My FSIL wrote a 3 page e-mail talking about how I am a gold digger, white trash, and how he is so miserable with me. Me refusing to convert to Judaism is gasoline for their fire as well.
But through all this (we've been together for 7 years in June, and this has progressively gotten worse) FH and I have gotten closer. You guys are your own family unit now! Its supposed to be a fun and exciting time for you both! If your FILs are like mine- they THRIVE off of seeing me cry,squirm, and fall apart. Don't give them the satisfaction! Show them and FH that you are stronger and better than that!
