help me NWR

i need to save money. im actually holding back tears as im typing this. its not that serious. but i have a problem and dh doesnt think im strong enough to hold back from shopping...even food shopping.

i noticed everytime i get out of my car to go home i ALWAYS have a shopping bag.

theres tons of food in the house but im trying to fight the urge to got to Trader joes. i think im just BORED. i dont have anyyyyyything to do so i spend HOURS in the supermarket with my weight watchers calculator app on my phone seeing how many points everything is. im such a loser


more of a vent

Only thing I can do for you:

Start by putting yourself on a cash allowance and giving FH your debit/credit cards.

Write down EVERY purchase you make during the week.

Have an automatic debit of a certain % of your paycheck go directly to savings.

Maybe if you're bored but have a kitchen stocked with food at home, then you should go home, see what you have, and plug in some ingredients to one of the recipe websites...try out some new dishes that way.

You have Nutella...have you ever seen the Nutella recipe website?

Umm, if that makes you a loser than I am right there with you! I am constantly buying crap we don't need or forget to eat and I do think it's out of boredom. I just started going to the grocery store once a week and planning the meals out in advance so this way there is really no excuse for me to go. On lunch, I started going for walks and after work, I go for a run before dinner so this way, I really have no time to go!

would it help to detail a plan of what you want to save your money for and how long it will take? and put yourself on the dreaded 'b' word.

I just started doing this cuz i realized there's no way im applying for a mortgage with all this credit card debt. i dont really have myself on a budget but i think twice, three times about frittering my $$ away cuz i really want to pay it down.

Can i come eat at your house? we never have food. i love nutella. ill bring my own spoon.

i dont own any credit cards. i have 1 debit and my paychecks go into direct deposity in my SAVINGS ( ) account. but im constantly transfering funds from savings to checking.

i also like throwing out food. boxes sealed, jars unopen or condiments that were used only once. i like 'starting fresh' and scrubbing down my fridge

i feel like throwing up

You need a hobby. Like a legit - photography, dance class, book club - type hobby.

What do you like to do other than shop?

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Posted by lori7570

Soooo...you need a hobby!! What are you interested in? And try not to make it excercising, because that can go bad quickly...

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i dont have any hobbies. i did cake decorating last yr.. and that cost a fortune. its cheaper to have my girl make cakes for me..and shes a gazzillion times better than i am. so that TOTALLLY went out the window lol

bike riding is fun.. but dh forgets im a girl sometimes and speeds off without me, leaving me in the middle of a busy intersection... soemtimes i wonder if hes trying to get me killed

Honestly this sounds like it might be a mild form of OCD--have you ever spoken to someone about this?

But instead of throwing out unused food--why don't you donate them to a food pantry? Then maybe even if you feel the need to do this, at least some good is coming out of it.

im SO turned off by donating food around here.
the chick i replaced here at work was relocating and she called to donate her canned goods and i was going to donate all my stuff and u knwo what they asked her? 'what kind of food? we have to make sure its food the ppl ehre are going to want to eat' REALLLY!???!?!?!?

im soo over donating. i donate clothes once a yr to the town of greenport. lol 1 yr dh and i donated our clothes and the following week we went back to bring more stuf and i took a look thru the racks.. all my clothes except 1 shirt were GONE... but allll of DHs clothes were still for sale on the racks. i told him even homeless ppl dont want his shyyyt lol

but no, no donating. ppl are rude